So you got a crush, huh? And now you want to know whether your crush likes you back.
The thing about crushes is that it can be so easy to know when you’re into somebody. There are butterflies in your stomach whenever your crush is around. Your day isn’t complete when you don’t catch a glimpse of his face. Work or school doesn’t seem too bad anymore. In fact, you look forward to it because you’re hoping you get to talk to your crush.
When you do see him, it’s like you get a shot of sugar in your system. It’s an instant hit of dopamine. It makes you curl your toes, puts a smile on your face, and quickens your pulse. It turns you into a total sap who listens to love songs on the radio and relate to the lyrics so well you think the singer was telling your life story when he wrote the song.
But there’s a problem.
When you’re figuring out whether your feelings are reciprocated or not, it can be a tricky business. It’s also a bit of torture since we haven’t developed the gift of mind-reading yet. While the most rational thing to do is just to flat out ask that person whether he’s interested in you or not, it’s not always an easy option. Some of us have a fear of being rejected. Most especially if your crush is someone you’ve known for a long time. You don’t want to take a risk and make things awkward if he rejects you after confessing your feelings for him.
Thankfully, we’ve already been where you are now, and we’ve listed the patterns and telltale signs if your crush feels the same about you. So to help you with the task of finding out whether you have a shot or not, here’re a few signs to look for if you want to know if your crush likes you back.
How to know if your crush likes you back
1 He replies fast and doesn’t leave you hanging.
When you receive a message from your crush, you get excited. Just seeing his name on your phone makes your heart leap from your chest. Well, guess what? It’s probably the same way for him!
If your crush is interested in you, he can’t help but reply to your messages fast. Even if he tries to act hard to get, the most that he’s going to make you wait is around 20 minutes. And if it takes longer than that, he’s probably going to apologize for not replying as quickly. Once he gets back to you, he’s going to continue the conversation right where you left off.
If you’re wondering if his fast replies are because the two of you are friends, then think about this. How many times have you forgotten to get back to your friend’s text messages, and did you even bother to explain why you didn’t get to them right away? We occasionally forget to reply to our friends, and neither you nor your friend, are seriously worried about it.
Here’s the cold hard fact. If he isn’t interested in you, he’s not going to bother apologizing for leaving you hanging. He’s not even going to get back to you, much less continue the conversation.
2 He knows stuff about you that you never told him about.
If he ever mentions something about you that you’re sure you’ve never told him before, there’s a good chance that your crush likes you back. Say, for example, he knows what happened on your last birthday party, or your favorite brand of shoes. It’s a classic sign that your crush likes you and he wants to get to know you more.
He must’ve searched you up in your Facebook, Instagram, or Snapchat, and stalked the shit out of your profile. Or maybe he’s been asking your friends stuff about you. You’ve probably done the same thing too. In fact, by now, you already know his pet’s name because you’ve seen all his Insta posts about his cute little dog.
3 He consistently likes and comments on your social media accounts.
When you’re interested in someone, it’s totally natural to want to get to know more about that person. In this day and age, the best way to do that is by checking their social media account. If your crush has become one of your instant-likers and commenters on Facebook, or if he’s always reacting to your Instagram and My Day posts with heart emojis, then there’s a good chance he’s into you.
He’s trying to give you a subtle hint with all that interaction in your social media account. It’s like him saying, “I see you there, and I’m interested in what you do. Keep going.” You have even more reason to suspect that he likes you if he reacts to your posts from a long time ago.
4 His friends act oddly when you’re around.
Pay attention to how your crush’s friends are acting around you. Maybe they’re always teasing about how cute the two of you look together. Or perhaps they’re flexing his good qualities to you. You know your crush likes you if the people around him start to act differently. If you notice that his friends are behaving oddly, your crush may have already told them about his interest in you. And they’re just doing their duty as supportive friends by advertising his good qualities or by teasing him with you.
5 Notice how he mimics you
This often happens unconsciously. People don’t really notice it, but when they like someone, they tend to copy what that person is doing. For example, he’s starting to develop the same texting habits as you. He’s imitating the way you frequently use “LOL” in a sentence. Perhaps, he’s already using the same emojis that you use. Or you may have raved something about your favorite coffee blend randomly. The next morning, he turns up for work with that coffee you mentioned.
Also, take note of his mannerisms. Does he tap his fingers on his desk the way you always do with yours? Does he get excited when you do? Is he now listening to the same indie music that you love? He’s subconsciously picking up on your quirks, and he doesn’t even know it!
6 He listens and remembers your conversations.
When a guy is interested in you, he’s not just going to listen intently to what you have to say, he’s going to remember. You know your crush likes you when he remembers the little things. He’s probably going to bring it up again in a conversation, comment about it or ask you for more details. Partly because he wants to get to know you more but also because he wants to have a reason to talk to you.
He wants to impress you with his knowledge about you. And if he’s playing his cards right, he’s going to use the stuff he knows about you to get your attention. He may start watching the same series that you like just to talk to you about it. Or he may even invite you to go to an interesting restaurant with a high rating because he’s aware that you’re a foodie.
7 He flexes when you’re around.
A little bit of flexing never really hurt anyone. While it may sound like a douchey move, flexing can be a sign that he’s actually interested in you. A man does it when he wants to impress the person he’s interested in. He’s trying to show you his good side. So, if he talks about his promotion or his new set of wheels when you’re around, don’t immediately conclude that he’s trying to brag. Okay, maybe that’s his intention but don’t take it the wrong way instantly. At the end of the day, if he’s truly into you, he’s just doing it because he wants you to see him as someone successful and worthy of your attention.
8 Seeks you out in a crowd
Whether you’re in a meeting or a party, he somehow manages to find you as if he’s searched your location in Google maps. He approaches you and tries to make conversations, no matter how crowded the room is. As for you, you already searched for him the minute you entered the room. And you do it so casually too. Your eyes seek him out without giving too many signs that you’re looking for him in the crowd. It’s a skill that people with a crush seem to have.
Having a crush is a roller coaster of emotions. It’s exciting and nerve-wracking at the same time. The toughest part, though, is not knowing if your crush likes you back. If you spot three or more signs that we listed above, then you can raise your hopes up. So watch closely and be observant. Maybe being aware of these signs is just what you need to get the gears in your relationship finally going. Good luck!