Disclaimer: This guide on Tantric sex positions is based on various online resources, including insights from organizations and Tantric practitioners. We’ve linked references for further reading, but if you’d like to learn more about this practice, please consult a Tantric expert.
Tantric sex is often misunderstood. Many think it’s overly complicated, requires rituals, or can’t be fun because of its spiritual side. But in reality, tantric sex is more about shifting your mindset rather than following strict rules. While it does encourage a deeper connection and some extra steps, it’s not as difficult as it seems. In fact, most tantric sex positions are ones you’ve probably already tried!
If you and your partner want a more mindful approach to your intimacy, here are some positions to explore. We’ve also included a few tips to help you deepen the experience even more.
What is Tantric Sex?
Tantric sex comes from Neotantra, a modern Western take on ancient Eastern traditions. Unlike classical Tantra, which is deeply tied to Hindu and Buddhist practices (including Tibetan Buddhism), Neotantra focuses more on sexuality and intimacy, blending spiritual concepts with a more contemporary approach.
In Neotantra, sex is viewed as a sacred act that can elevate participants to a higher spiritual state. That’s why Tantra practitioners believe that sex shouldn’t focus on genital stimulation or also doesn’t make orgasm the ultimate goal; the focus is on deepening intimacy and harmonizing each other’s sexual energies.
Many believe tantric sex offers a range of benefits, from enhancing physical well-being to spiritual growth.
What Makes a Sex Position Tantric?
Before we share the common tantric sex positions, you might be wondering: what makes these positions tantric?
It’s all about energy flow. These positions are designed to activate one or more of the seven chakras, which are your body’s main energy centers:
- Root Chakra (Base of Spine)
- Sacral Chakra (Above the Pubic Bone)
- Solar Plexus Chakra (Upper Abdomen)
- Heart Chakra (Center of Chest)
- Throat Chakra (Throat)
- Third Eye Chakra (Spot Between the Eyes)
- Crown Chakra (Top of Head)
Among the seven chakras, the one most closely linked to sexuality is the Sacral Chakra. Positioned just above the pubic bone, it governs pleasure, sexuality, and creativity, making it a key player in tantric sex.
Tantric Sex Positions
Here are some of the best tantric sex positions to explore with your partner. For clarity, the receiver refers to the person being penetrated, while the giver is the one doing the penetration.
1Missionary
Yes, the classic Missionary position can work for tantric sex. According to the Tantric Academy, it “activates the Sacral Chakra, also known as the Svadhisthana Chakra.” Plus, it encourages deep eye contact, one of the key elements of the said practice.
To try this position, the receiver lies on their back with their legs spread wide. The giver kneels in front, then leans over to align their body, allowing for penetration with a penis or strap-on. Once in position, they can then proceed with the deed.
2Cowgirl
Another classic position that works well for tantric sex is Cowgirl or Woman on Top. Like the first position, this one allows for deep penetration and eye contact, which are some of the main elements of this practice.
To do this, the giver lies on their back while the receiver straddles them, gently guiding their vagina onto the giver’s penis or strap-on. In this position, the receiver fully controls the pace and depth, allowing for a more mindful and connected experience.
3Relaxed Cowgirl
The Relaxed Cowgirl is the same as the previous position, but instead of sitting upright, the receiver leans forward, resting their upper body against the giver’s chest. This close contact allows their bodies to sync as the receiver rocks back and forth, creating a deeper physical and emotional connection.
4Reclining Doggy
If you want to switch things up from face-to-face positions, the Reclining Doggy can be a great option. In this doggy-style variation, the receiver leans their upper body onto a pillow, creating a comfortable and grounding experience.
To get into position, the receiver kneels and then lowers their upper body onto a pillow, forming an inverted V shape. The giver then kneels or squats behind them, holding their partner’s hips for support before gently entering with a penis or strap-on.
5Yap Yum or Lotus
Most guides on tantric sex positions include this one, and for good reason. It beautifully embodies the essence of tantric sex. With intertwined bodies, deep eye contact, and slow, connected movements, this position is all about harmonizing your energies. Plus, how your bodies align allows all seven chakras to connect on the same level, making it a deeply spiritual experience.
To get into position, the giver sits with their legs crossed, often called the “Indian Style Sit.” The receiver then sits on their partner’s lap, wrapping their legs around their partner’s waist. As they embrace, the receiver slowly lowers themselves onto the giver’s penis or strap-on. They will then move together in rhythm, feeling the connection without any rush.
6Queening
If you’re looking for a position focusing on oral play, this classic cunnilingus position is a great choice. Not only does it allow the giver to honor their partner’s body by fully opening their mouth to give pleasure with deep focus and intention, but it also encourages slow, sensual movements, making it a perfect fit for a tantric experience.
To do this, the giver lies on their back while the receiver straddles over them, positioning their vulva directly above the giver’s mouth. The receiver can adjust their position for maximum comfort, choosing to rock, grind, or move at their own pace while receiving pleasure. For an even deeper connection, eye contact and mindful breathing can heighten intimacy and enhance the overall experience.
7The Goddess
Here’s another Cowgirl-inspired position, but this one takes things up a notch. The receiver is in a squatting position, allowing for even deeper penetration than the previous Cowgirl variations. This stance not only enhances depth but also adds a goddess-like feel for the receiver.
For this position, the giver lies on their back while the receiver gets on top. Instead of kneeling and leaning forward, the receiver sits upright and plants their feet on the bed, creating a squatting position that allows for deeper penetration and full control.
8Spread Eagle
This position is similar to Missionary but offers even more pleasure for the receiver. Raising the legs helps angle the giver’s penetration toward the G-spot, enhancing stimulation. It also allows for deeper penetration and more eye contact.
To do this position, the receiver lies on their back while the giver kneels between their spread legs. The receiver then lifts their legs and spreads them as wide as possible while the giver holds the receiver’s ankles for support. Once in position, the giver can begin penetrating at a gentle pace.
9The Tiger
This position is a variation of spooning but with a bit more space between partners. This small adjustment allows the giver to penetrate more deeply while maintaining a close, intimate connection.
To try this, both partners lie on their sides, with the receiver in front. The giver creates some space between their bodies while holding the receiver’s waist, allowing for deeper thrusts while still keeping things slow and sensual.
10Serpent’s Embrace
Another great position for a tantric sexperience is the Serpent’s Embrace. According to Sarrah Rose, founder of Tantric Activation, this position enhances intimacy because “both partners can inhale and exhale out of their hearts and focus their energy there for extra connection.” This insight comes from her interview with Men’s Health, where she discussed tantric sex positions. So, if you’re looking for something that enables lots of skin-to-skin contact and deep bonding, this one is worth trying.
For this one, the receiver lies on their stomach with a pillow under their hips for support. Their legs should be straight and slightly spread, with arms resting in front or by their sides. The giver then lies on top, supporting their weight with their knees and arms. Once in position, they can proceed with penetration, focusing on slow, intentional movements.
Takeaway
As we wrap up this guide, we just want to remind you that positions are just one part of tantric sex, but they’re not the whole picture. While exploring these sensual positions is a great way to start, practicing Tantra is more than just body movement. It’s about intention, breathwork, energy exchange, and deep connection between partners.
So, if you’re curious about truly embracing tantric intimacy, there’s still more to discover! Check out the recommended article below to learn how to fully embrace this spiritual approach.
