Honeymoon sex sounds like an added dream right after having a wonderful wedding ceremony. A much-needed one too so you can further enhance the bond you share with your now-wedded partner.
This exciting guide on honeymoon sex discusses what it is, why married couples like it, tips on making it amazing, and so much more. Happy reading!
What is Honeymoon Sex?
Honeymoon Sex is the type of sex that occurs between a newly married couple. You’re riding high on the happy energy from your wedding and reception and now everything feels so new.
It can be the night after the wedding as their honeymoon getaway begins, whether they went to a different location or stayed somewhere nearby before flying out to their actual destination. Or it can be over the duration of their said honeymoon, done once or multiple times to their consensual choosing. Whatever it is, it’s just as exciting as a honeymoon, which also sparks the first few days to a month of marriage, which is usually seen as the sweetest and most exciting time.
Reasons-wise, honeymoon sex may occur as a couple’s first time doing the deed. They follow certain religious beliefs that advocate the importance of sex after marriage. Aside from this, honeymoon sex can also happen because you’re a couple and it’s just part of your dynamic. Except this time, you’re married, which means you fully commit to each other. Until death do us part, right?
What’s So Amazing About Honeymoon Sex
Browse through this section to unveil the beneficial perks of honeymoon sex.
1 You can do it in varying paces.
Slow and passionate? Fast and rough? Honeymoon sex can run at any pace of your choosing, getting quite some influence on your current mood as well. That way, you don’t overexert your energy and body and potentially hurt yourself.
2 You call the shots on how much of it you want.
Once, twice, ten times, there’s no limit on how much honeymoon sex you can have. But of course, certain factors determine its quantity and quality. While we get into that more in the next section, honeymoon sex can go on for as long as you want. As long as you still have non-sexual downtime in between, then the balance is a-okay.
3 It enhances and strengthens the bond between you and your partner.
While this is already a given, honeymoon sex basically pulls you away from your day-to-day life and stressors and lets you focus on yourself and your partner. It’s a lot easier when nothing distracts you and you can go at it limitlessly.
Plus, you get to unveil more interests your partner has that they’ve never brought up before. Whether it be from the busyness of your past wedding plans or their daily lives, you finally get to know those certain interests during your honeymoon. Which can, well, translate to more enjoyable honeymoon sex.
Factors That May Affect Honeymoon Sex
Your energy for honeymoon sex may be determined through the following factors:
- Duration of honeymoon
- Post-wedding exhaustion
- Location of said honeymoon
Activities Involved in Honeymoon Sex
Explore through this fun section on what different sexual acts you can do during your honeymoon.
1 Love-making
Literally the first thing people would think what honeymoon sex is as soon as they’re free from their wedding and reception!
But it makes total sense because the events before were filled with so much love and affection, alongside the promise of forever. Moreover, it allows you and your partner to take your time, slowing things down and focusing on building more intimacy around you. There’s a lot of praise and affirmation exchanged in between (which, by the way, is a kink), making the entire session more heartfelt.
Eventually, it leads to getting into easy sex positions and focusing more on each other’s body language rather than wanting sexual bliss. All in all, love-making is reserved for the right person based on most people’s perception of it, hence making it the common type of honeymoon sex to have.
2 Rough Sex
Call this idea a wildcard!
Throughout your honeymoon, this type of sex is a bold break from all the lovey-dovey moments. It’s part of the yin-yang of sex after all. Rough sex can look like exchanging words of degradation or dirty talk while penetrating your boo at a quick pace. Edging, denying their orgasm, or “punishing” them are more ideas under rough sex.
But firstly, such sex needs to be discussed beforehand so you both know the specifics on what activities are okay and not okay to be done. Placing a safe word here is also key in making things work out further.
3 Quickies
If you and your partner made some outdoor plans during your honeymoon (e.g., island hopping followed by scuba diving or canoeing), you may want to add a quick, little fix before heading out. Hence, right before leaving your room or villa, just push your panties or boxers aside and press yourselves against the wall as they slide it in. Or vice versa. Oral sex as quickies also count if you just need a release that’ll keep your mood up the rest of the day.
4 Sensation Play
This activity involves exploring your various senses to further amplify the intimacy between a couple. You can either do activities that enhance one or more senses at the same time, or deprive one of them to increase your or your partner’s sensitivity. More sensitivity, more pleasure.
You can go as light or intense as you both want. For example, one of your honeymoon sex sessions involves being blindfolded and putting ice on one’s body while you give them head. Or listening to sexy ASMR while your partner does impact play on you.
5 Semi-Public Sex
Okay, so this idea needs to be threaded carefully. Especially in a foreign country where their laws aren’t familiar to you (but it’s your responsibility to familiarize them to avoid trouble.
For example, you’re at the beach. Stay on the farthest end, where there are barely any people, and take out a big umbrella if you have one. Or maybe you’re somewhere in nature; close your tent and keep it hush-hush.
6 Food Play
Ooh, yummy! Keep your honeymoon sweet in the bedroom by adding delicious treats during sex. It can be ice cream and chocolate swirled over your or your partner’s body like an altar ready to devoured. Maybe whipped cream around your partner’s genitalia for a good lick! Adding fruits like strawberries into your mouth for them to snatch is also another great idea here.
7 Using couple sex toys
Especially now that you’re a married couple, this idea is (or should) be a no-brainer. We’re talking app-controlled vibrators and even BDSM toys. For example, you’re out and about in the town where your honeymoon is, only to have an extra pep in your step, thanks to the panty vibrator you’re wearing. And how your partner has the remote or app controlling its settings.
8 Bathroom Sex
If the lodging you’re staying at has this, take advantage of it! It’s literally one of the best (and wettest, hehe) places to do the deed, as long as you wipe away any wet zones. It can be from the shower or bathtub, whatever is available for you two. Save water, have honeymoon sex together!
Tips on Having The Best Honeymoon Sex
Maximize your honeymoon and the sex you’ll be having in between through this section below.
1 Always communicate with each other.
Even before the wedding itself, it’s key to talk about what kind of honeymoon you’d like and your aspirations around the sex. Even more so when honeymoon sex is a limited edition kind of sex.
Like think about it, honeymoon sex has special differences that you won’t find anywhere else. For instance, it occurs after your wedding, and if this is the first (and hopefully only) time you got married, there’s a lot of burnout and overall exhaustion that comes along with it.
Ahead of time, it helps to know what you want and to pay close attention to your partner’s words regarding their desires. That way, neither of you would look at each other with a big question mark and stay on the same page with each other.
2 Take off any underlying pressure.
Honeymoon sex is not peak sex for newly married couples, even if you’ve been together for a long time and know your sex dynamics well. Think of it as laying down one of the most important foundations in your new relationship status together. After all, honeymoons are special and beautiful, and you’d want to be and feel your best during it.
Besides, your honeymoon prioritizes building a stronger connection with your partner, especially when you’re away from your usual responsibilities and loved ones, so you can focus on your new marriage. It’s also a celebration of love and a job well done for a successful wedding too, so use this time mainly to unwind and recover.
And as for the sex, it’ll come when you feel like it. No need to be the best; just be present with each other. Besides, less pressure during honeymoon sex means less tension in your body, making it more relaxing and enjoyable.
3 Set reasonable and achievable expectations.
Whatever intention you set for your honeymoon, it should match the expectations alongside it. For one, if you see your honeymoon as a time to have mind-blowing, memorable sex, it may mean staying in your lodging a lot more. Hence, more expectations can be set at your own pace and not overexert and fuel your bodies with good food (and perhaps little to no alcohol).
4 Work on your connection and intimacy.
Make this tip a top priority during your honeymoon.
Those two words above play the most important roles in a honeymoon. For instance, such a getaway releases lots of serotonin (the happy hormone) and oxytocin (the love hormone). Then add sex, and you get endorphins, too.
Aside from the scientific side, honeymoons work when both partners prioritize on building a strong connection and bond. They observe each other as they spend all this time together and see what works and what doesn’t. They also take any chance to get close when they see it, like brushing their teeth side by side in the bathroom or cuddling extra upon waking up. In turn, their intimacy levels improve, even more so when they broaden their definitions of it.
Like sure, sex is an intimate act, but there’s so much more than that. Any activity during your honeymoon done together without getting distracted by life stressors brings you two a lot closer.
5 Pay attention to what works.
Honeymoon sex is all about recognizing each other’s body language and reactions for better clarity on what they like in the bedroom. That way, they can continue doing it and get the best result during their honeymoon and make any post-honeymoon sex thrilling and sensual.
6 Try new things bit by bit.
Honeymoons are a time of relaxation and unwinding. It’s a vacation after all. Hence, adding one new sexual activity into your usual routine can already spice things up. It can be bringing out handcuffs or enacting a guilty pleasure fantasy. Go at your own pace so neither of you gets overwhelmed, and simply focus on being together and taking another huge step toward novelty.
7 Prepare your usual sexentials.
Bring along your favorite items that set the mood perfectly when you two have sex. It can be a certain scented candle, air freshener, Bluetooth speakers, or lube. And oh, don’t forget protection! Unless you or your partner aim to get pregnant during this vacation (hence opting out protection), honeymoon sex must also be safe sex as you use your various means of birth control.
8 Make it uniquely your own.
Try not to follow certain standards (maybe from your friends who are married) who either had lots or not so much sex. Or maybe they tried certain acts that you’re not into, but instead caved into your and your partner’s preferences. There’s no such thing as too much or too little as everyone has different bodies and staminas, especially after the wedding.
Takeaway
Honeymoon sex looks different per married couple. There’s no specific standard on this other than to be yourselves and do what brings you two closer and more intimate. Plus, don’t overthink or put too much pressure on yourselves regarding such an act. The sex here in general is just one aspect of your honeymoon, of your marriage and your shared life ahead of you. Plus, a honeymoon is a vacation, so use this time wisely so you both feel refreshed and more in love with each other.
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