What is a Ball Gag & How to Use It During BDSM Plays (Say Ahhh~)

When you think of BDSM toys, people instantly think of whips, cuffs, eye masks, and ropes. If someone mentions ball gags, one might even ask “What is a ball gag?” or even dismiss it as a toy for advanced bondage plays due to its intimidating look.

But don’t judge a book by its cover. BDSM Ball gags can bring more fun in the act than one might think. You can also use this for the beginner or advanced play– just find the right variant suited for you.

That’s why we’ve made this ball gag guide for you. By giving you enough information about underrated BDSM toys such as ball gags, you’ll be able to open yourself to new erotic possibilities (and wilder nights!)

For this guide, we’ll discuss what is a ball gag, why it’s great for BDSM, how to use it as well as other types of mouth gags for naughtier fun!

What is a Ball Gag and Why You Should Get One

A ball gag is a sex toy mainly used for BDSM. It’s usually made with leather straps and a silicone ball. Just like collars and restraints, this is only worn by the submissive. It makes them unable to speak during the act, making them more helpless and humiliated.

Now, why should you get your ball gag? If you’re a dom who wants to take full control, you can make your sub wear this toy. Seeing him/her in a helpless state adds to the sexual appeal that a dom might find incredibly arousing. Submissives can also get mental and physical arousal while wearing a gag. If you’re a sub that likes to get his/her senses hindered, you should add this to your bondage collection.

How to Use a Ball Gag

Already enticed with this frisky toy? Before getting one for yourself, make sure you know how to use it first. Here’s a simple guide that tackles how to use a ball gag before, during, and after a play session.

1Communicate

Before using sex toys such as a ball gag, discuss it with your partner first. If you’re a dominant, make sure you get proper consent with your sub. If he/she in doubt, give him/her some time to research it. You can also experiment with scarfs first, just to give him/her an idea with what mouth gagging is all about.

Once your sub agreed on using mouth gags, you also need to discuss the non-verbal signals since your partner cannot talk during the play.

2Use beginner-friendly ball gags first

Once you and your partner agreed with the terms, start looking for beginner-friendly variants. Ball gags that are suited for beginners usually have a smaller and breathable ball (with holes in it) and adjustable straps. They don’t have locks, chains, nor weights in it.

3Place it correctly

Once you got your ball gag, you may start your play session. For a better experience, use your ball gag with other BDSM toys such as restrainers, paddles, whips, and eye masks.

To put it in, have the submissive hold the gag to their mouth as the dominant adjusts the straps behind the sub’s head. The sub must apply some pressure to force the call behind his/her teeth. Depending on the size, it may take some time to securely put the ball gag into the sub’s mouth.

For beginners, you may go for looser straps. Just make sure the ball gag won’t fall off during the play.

4Start asking teasing questions

Once everything’s set, let’s the kinky fun begin. If you’re a dom, you can start asking questions, giving subtle spanks to your sub with his/her every helpless whimper. This will create a playful experience as you keep your partner gagged through the whole play.

5Always check non-verbal signals

During the play, keep on checking your submissive partner. Make sure you remember the non-verbal signals that you’ve discussed earlier. For reference, you can incorporate these non-verbal signs:

• Grunting in rhythm and other noise patterns
• Patterned blinking
• Squeezing or pinching the dom’s hand
• Shaking your head and other head movements
• Holding an object such as keys

6Clean the ball gags after

Once you’re done with the play session, don’t reuse the ball gag for the 2nd round. You can either clean it the BDSM ball gag first or use a new one.

Speaking of cleaning, here’s how you can clean a ball gag:

1. For the leather straps of the ball gag, wipe it with a soft towel damped with warm water and mild soap.
2. As for the ball itself, if you can detach the silicone ball to its strap, you may clean it by submerging the gag to warm water and mild soap. Make sure it’s all dried up before putting it back to the strap.
3. If the gag is undetachable, wipe it with a soft towel damped with warm water and mild soap.
4. When storing it, put it on a clean velvet or satin pouch. Find a safe, discreet and dust-free spot.

Other Types of Mouth Gags

And that’s it! Now that you’ve learned about BDSM ball gags, you can start spicing up your erotic escapades with this seductive tool. But before we head down to answer your frequently asked questions about this alluring toy, we just want you to be aware that a ball gag is just one of the types under mouth gags.

If ball gags don’t match your fetish nor taste, there is a spectrum of mouth gags to try out.

1Bit Gag

The Bit Gag consists of a cylindrical tube instead of a ball gag. Its cylinder shape makes it easier for the sub to hold it in place. If you want a simpler gag than a ball gag, you can try this one out.

2Spider Gag

It is a ring-style gag that holds the mouth open. It’s designed with a ring that goes in the mouth and has curved metal pieces to hold the lips out of the way. Just like the ball gag, it has a leather strap that latches behind the head.

If the dom wants to insert body parts, sex toys (such as dildos) or other objects into the sub’s mouth, this is the most suitable gag for that.

3Muzzle Gag

Similarly looking to an animal muzzle, this type of mouth gag generally has a flexible patch of leather that’s placed over the mouth. It is held by leather straps around the back as well as straps that run under the chin and up over the face.

4Rope Gag

As the name suggests, a rope gag is made out of knotted rope. Aside from ropes, you can also use a BDSM love tape for this. Take note though, you must be knowledgeable with rope tying before doing this gag.

5Butterfly Gag

This type of gag resembles the wings of a butterfly. The central part fits behind their teeth while the wings sit between their teeth and lips. Since this gag can be inflated, this is the most effective at silencing the subs.

6Harness Gag

If you wanna go all out with the gagging, this is the best type of gag for you. A harness gag is a piece of headgear that’s made with straps and buckles, as well as attachment points to put on gags such as ball gags or muzzle gags. Since it consists of multiple straps, it can even restrict the movement of the mouth by stretching it open or shutting it close.

And there you go, some types of mouth gags that could fill in your erotic tastes. However, be aware that most of the types on the list are for advanced plays. If you’re just starting to engage in BDSM, make sure to use the beginner types such as ball and bit gags.

Frequently Asked Questions

Now that we’ve laid out all the essential information, we’re sure that you already have a clear depiction of what a ball gag (and mouth gags in general) is all about.

But we feel that you still have uncertainties about this kinky toys. Don’t worry, it’s normal to feel that way. With that, we’ve answered the most frequently asked questions about ball gags that you’re probably thinking right now.

1Can you breathe with a ball gag?

Yes! However, it may be difficult to do so since your mouth is gagged. That’s why the submissive mustn’t have a nose-related sickness such as a cold or runny nose when using this toy. Also, you can go for ball gags with holes in them for more comfortable use.

2How long can I wear a ball gag?

This depends on your comfortability. Some can only wear gags for a few minutes while some can have it for longer periods. But to be safe, only wear it for 20 minutes (max). 

3Is it painful if I wear a ball gag?

Putting a gag may inflict some mild pain in your jaw. But unlike other toys such as paddles, whips, and nipple clamps, it doesn’t necessarily put out massive amounts of pain. It’s more designed to make you drool uncontrollably. Just make sure to place the gag properly to avoid any mishaps.

4What toys can I use with a ball gag?

Great news! You can use the ball gags with any toy. Experiment with BDSM impact play toys such as paddles and whips. You can also accessorize yourself or your submissive with collars and nipple clamps. Restrainers such as cuffs and bondage ropes perfectly suit this BDSM toy too.

5Can I use a ball gag alone?

A big nope! It’s risky to use this alone as this toy can be a considerable threat to asphyxia, where one can no longer breathe since there’s a deficient supply of oxygen on the buddy. That’s why when playing a ball gag or any forms of a mouth gag, always have your dom or partner assist and monitor you.

Takeaway

A ball gag may look like a simple toy that just makes the sub unable to speak, but they serve a powerful visual to showcase the power dynamic between the sub and dom. It also brings emotional arousal to both parties– the sub feels more restricted and owned by his/her master, while the dom feels more controlled on the session play.

Just make sure that non-verbal safety signals, safewords, and ground rules are laid out before using this type of toy.

Now that you’ve reached the end of this guide, go ahead and get yourself a ball gag. Time to take a bite and have yourself pleasurably gagged. Stay kinky!