Best Beginner Bondage Set & BDSM Toys for Kinksters (Play it Safe!)

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What made you search for this? Is it because of your kinky friends? Movies about BDSM such as ‘Fifty Shades of Grey’? Or did you end up stumbling here while browsing for ways to spice up your sex life? Whatever your reasons are, welcome to the club!

Going back to the topic, we get that searching for beginner bondage toys can be overwhelming. There are tons of newbie-friendly equipment available in our BDSM shop, but we can feel that you’re unsure of which ones to pick. Don’t you worry! We will help you that with our top beginner bondage set picks.

Aside from sharing our suggested bondage kits for beginners, we will also share the must-have toys for BDSM beginners. In this way, you can also curate your own bondage set and find the best toys that will suit your fantasies and kinks.

But before we head to these exciting toys, we’ll take a quick detour and tackle what Bondage is all about (and BDSM in general).

What is Bondage?

Bondage is one of the main themes of BDSM— which stands for Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, Sadism and Masochism. It is a sexual practice that involves the tying up or restraining of one partner.

Since BDSM focuses on the power play between two parties, bondage is an essential theme. Doing bondage establishes who is in control and who is the willing slave. With that being said, the first toys you should get are restrainers that will make your submissive lose control.

Now aside from restrainers, here are specific BDSM toys that you should have in your Beginner Bondage Set. Read away!

Must-Have Toys in Your Beginner Bondage Set

If you’re a newbie on this concept, you don’t have to buy a whole BDSM set and transform your room into a playroom ala Christian Grey. You can start with some beginner toys then add more tools later on.

But if you do want to go all out, there’s nothing wrong with getting bondage sets for newbies. Just make sure these sets include the majority of these toys:

1Restrainers

If you’re a dom who wants to establish his/her dominance, restrainers are the best beginner toy to do that. Restrainers are the tools that tie or restrain your partner. Once your sub is all tied up, he/she will find it difficult to move, thus giving you more control.

Beginner-Friendly Picks: Go for simple handcuffs that have a satin or fur lining for more comfortable use. Find one with velcro straps for an easier escape since it doesn’t require a key.

Save-for-later Picks: Ropes can be used by beginners, but one must take proper precautions. For starters, go for the basic knots then move on more complicated ones later on. Also, have rope scissors ready for extra measure.

2Eye Masks

Aside from restraining the sub, hindering his/her senses is another way to take control. Eye Masks cover the eyes completely and will add an element of surprise to the act. Will you spank him/her? Tease him/her with some tickling? Give him/her luscious bites? Your sub will never know.

Beginner-Friendly Picks: Go for the basic diamond eye masks that are made with soft materials such as satin.

Save-for-later Picks: Bondage hoods (masks that fully cover your face except for mouth) are a no-no! It can be fun for intense play sessions, but since you’re just a beginner, go for simpler variants first.

3Collars

Wanna show your master that you’re his/her devoted pet? Wearing a collar will surely establish that. This kinky accessory is worn around the submissive neck as a symbol of ownership. In some cases, there is even a ceremony before a sub can fully wear a collar. Known as “collaring ceremony”, the dom will put on the collar to his/her sub as a way of establishing their exclusive dynamic.

Beginner-Friendly Picks: Go for the simple leather variants that have adjustable straps.

Save-for-later Picks: Collars that have locks, weights, or nipple clamps are pretty complicated to use so try the simple ones first.

4Mouth Gags

Mouth gags are worn to subdue the screams and moans of the sub. With this alluring toy, your sub will surely lose all control as he/she doesn’t have a say on anything. As the saliva drips down his/her mouth, all you can hear are muffled whimpers from the sensations you’re giving. Now when using mouth gags, establish non-verbal safewords first.

Beginner-Friendly Picks: Choose a mouth gag that has a smaller ball gag in it.

Save-for-later Picks: Don’t start with mouth gags that huge ball gags in it, or those variants that have attached weights or nipple clamps.

5Nipple Clamps

Nipple Clamps are designed to squeeze the nipples, bringing subtle or intense pinching sensations. Now from the description, you might think that Nipple Clamps are only suitable for advanced play. But that’s not the case as there are tons of beginner-friendly nipple clamps that you or your sub can use. If your sub is into nipple play, this is a great toy to invest in.

Beginner-Friendly Picks: Find a nipple clamp that has adjustable screws in it. With this, you can tighten or loosen up the screws depending on you or your sub’s pain tolerance.

Save-for-later Picks: Clover clamps, no matter how enticing it looks, is big nope on beginners. It’s not adjustable so if you’re not used to nipple clamps, it may cause a lot of pain on you or your sub. Also, nipple clamps that have attached weights or chains should be saved for advanced play.

6Ticklers

Now that your submissive is fully restrained, you can start playing with him/her. If you don’t want to inflict pain yet, ticklers are the best impact play toys to use. It’s usually designed with a thin handle with feathers or silicone strands on the end. Use this toy to tickle your partner, either for teasing or for full tickle play session.

Beginner-Friendly Picks: Ticklers, in general, are suitable for newbies, so there are no specific variants one should stay away from.

7Paddles

Paddles have flat surfaces that are commonly used to hit the body of the sub. This is usually used to discipline the submissive if she starts acting or refuses to follow the Dom’s demands. When using this toy, make sure you’ve already established a safe word. Also, only hit your sub to the safe zone areas– these are the parts of the body that have enough fat and muscle to cushion the impact such as buttcheeks.

Beginner-Friendly Picks: Go for simpler variants such as a plain leather paddle.

Save-for-later Picks: For beginners, take precaution when using paddles made from wood or those leather variants that have attached studs on it.

8Whips

Compared to paddles, whips are designed with thin handles that have a flat crop or strings on the end. This can give subtle slaps or spine-tingling stings, depending on how the dom will use it. If you’re a beginner, make sure you’ve communicated with your partner before using impact play toys such as whips.

Beginner-Friendly Picks: Go for crop whips since they have a flat surface on the end, making the impact less painful.

Save-for-later Picks: Train yourself before trying single-tail whips or tassel whips (ones that have strings on the end). These variants will inflict pain so make sure you or sub can tolerate the pain before getting whips that suitable for advanced play.

Our Top Beginner Bondage Set Picks!

Now that you’ve learned about the must-have toys for bondage/BDSM play, you can either start getting the toys and make your custom BDSM set. However, if you still want to just get a full set instead, no worries as we have suggested kits that are perfect for beginners.

With these 4 sets, you’ll surely find something that fits within your kinks and aesthetic. Let’s dive right in!

1Sexy V’s Bondage Set

Who says bondage toys should look black and leathery? The Sexy V’s Bondage set is designed with an alluring velvety lace that adds to its kinky charm. It contains a diamond eye mask, laced handcuffs, and an exquisite beaded whip. With this beginner bondage set, you’ll be able to fuel your taste for eroticism without the need to buy tons of toys.

 

2Beginners Bondage Fantasy Kit

Let your fantasies come alive with this luxurious bondage kit. This set consists of handcuffs, ankle cuffs, an eye mask, and a tickler. Since the cuffs and the straps attached to it, it’s great for couples who are just starting with bondage and are experimenting with restraining and impact play.

 

3Enslaved Bed Restraints Set

If you just want to focus on restraining your naughty submissive, go for the Enslaved Bed Restraints Set. It consists of 4 cuffs for the hands and ankles, as well as adjustable straps. The cuffs come with velcro fastening, making it easy to chain and unchain. Also, since the straps are adjustable, this fits with any type of mattress.

 

4Ravish Me BDSM Set

Let your submissive’s senses work overdrive with this beginner bondage set. For those who want to fully delve themselves on the fiery world of BDSM, this is the perfect starter kit for you. The Ravish Me set is a 7-in-1 package that includes an eye mask, collar whip, shackle, handcuffs, rope, and mouth gag.

 

Your Kinks, Your Rules

Before diving into the fascinating world of bondage, make sure you’re getting the toys that you or your partner can handle. You don’t need to have a playroom to enjoy bondage acts. If you feel like getting just one toy to start off your kinky sexcapade, then just do that. There’s plenty of time for you to discover your sexual desires and fantasies, so work on your pace.

Also, you can incorporate non-BDSM toys to your kinky play sessions. Using a vibrator, butt plug, fetish costume, or dildo will surely spice things up.

Nonetheless, go ahead and give life to your most erotic thoughts! Happy spanking~