Curious about how to use a butt plug? Wanted to spice up your sexy time with some backdoor fun? Well, settle down as we’re gonna spill the deets on how to use a butt plug.
Did you know that your anus can be a great source for stronger orgasms? That little hole down there has tons of nerve endings that can send you to orgasmic heavens when stimulated. Not only that, but there are also specific spots that you can stimulate only through anal penetration, as the P-Spot.
And for our straight male readers who are thinking that anal play isn’t for straight men, you got it all wrong. Buddy, there’s nothing wrong with playing with your bum. Your sexuality is determined by the people you’re attracted to, not with the spots that you want to stimulate.
What You’ll Learn
- What a butt plug is
- The different types of butt plugs
- How to use a butt plug
- The benefits and common misconceptions about butt plugs
- Things to consider when choosing your first anal plug
- Different ways to use and enjoy a butt plug
What is a Butt Plug?
As the name implies, this sex toy is a plug for your butt. It’s usually shaped like a teardrop and designed with a tapered body and a flared base.
It usually consists of the following parts:
- Bulb – This is the part that you insert on your anus. It’s usually spade-shaped, though there are variants that have curved or wavy shapes. It consists of a thin tip and tapered body for smoother entry, then it gets wider in the middle.
- Neck – Also known as the notch. This is the part that connects the bulb and the base, ensuring that the toy will hold in place once it’s inserted.
- Flared Base – This part ensures that the whole thing wouldn’t be inserted in your rectum. It also works as the handle for the toy for a smoother pull out. It usually comes in a T-shaped or ring-shaped handle and is even accessorized with gems or fur tails.
Types of Butt Plugs
As we mentioned above, a butt plug is a versatile toy. It works on all genders and can be incorporated in various sexual plays. You can also see its versatility through its variants as manufacturers across the globe are bringing various types of anal plugs into the market. Check out the variants below.
1Classic Butt Plugs
If you’re a beginner, go for this type of butt plug. It’s usually spade-shaped with a short neck and flared base. It doesn’t have a curved tip nor textured bulb– everything’s smooth and even out.
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2Jeweled Butt Plugs
This type of butt plug is pretty much the classic one– only with a fancy twist. As the name suggests, a jeweled anal plug is designed with gems on the base. The charms are usually detachable for easy cleanup.
3Tail Butt Plugs
If you’re into furries or pet play, you’ll surely love this one. For this type, there’s not much change on the butt plug itself. The only difference is that there’s an attached tail on the base part of the plug. You can opt for a bunny, fox, cat, dog, pony, raccoon, wolf, and other types of animal tails.
4Expanding Butt Plugs
The expanding butt plug has a flower-like bulb. These “petals” are soft and flexible, letting you press them together while inserting the plug. Once the anal plug is fully inside, the “petals” then expands.
As for the sensations, the expanding butt plugs provide a unique feel to the wearer since it has this expanding feature. Now, this works for experienced ones who want to feel more filled up, but are not yet ready for larger butt plugs.
5Tunnel or Hollow Butt Plugs
You’ve probably seen this type on some online sex toy shops but you don’t know the term for it. Well, if you see a butt plug that is hollow on the center of the base, then it’s a hollow or tunnel butt plug.
The reason behind the hole-in-the-center design is that so the user can insert vibrating toys, specifically bullet vibrators, inside the anal plug. This works best for people that already have a bullet vibrator and wants to save up some bucks since this type is more affordable than the vibrating butt plugs.
6Vibrating Butt Plugs
They look like your regular butt plugs. The only difference is that this type of vibrates. Just charge it up, put some lube on the bulb, press the power button, and you’re good to go. This for those experienced peeps who wanted to feel more intense vibrations down there. It also works best for those who wanted to “milk” their prostate, though there’s a more specific toy for that– check the next type!
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7Prostate Massagers
Prostate massagers are vibrating butt plugs that are designed for prostate stimulation. They usually have a curved and segmented body to accommodate a man’s anatomy. Most of them are remote-controlled, though there are variants that can be navigated through one button. So if you want to massage your prostate for intense orgasms and other health benefits, then make sure to invest in this type of anal plug.
8Inflatable Butt Plugs
If you want a type of butt plug that could work on both beginners and pros, this is the way to go. The inflatable butt plug looks like a normal yet thinner butt plug at first glance, but it has an attached bulb pump on the base part. To play with this toy, you then put the butt plug inside your anus, then once it’s all in, gently squeeze the bulb pump to inflate the plug. After that, you can then release all the air out by opening up the specified valve just next to the bulb pump.
How to Use a Butt Plug
You’ve learned about the benefits. You’ve been enlightened from the misconceptions. By the time you’re reading this part of the guide, we’re pretty sure you’re already interested in using this toy. Now, before you visit your favorite sex toy shop and get one of these bad boys, we suggest learning how to use a butt plug first.
1Start small.
If you’re a beginner, we suggest getting the smallest variant first. These beginner butt plugs are usually 3 inches in length and 0.8 inches in diameter. Then once you’ve been used to the smallest variants, you can then move to bigger variants.
Now, when moving to a bigger anal plug, make sure to find a plug that only adds about 0.2 to 0.5 inches to your previous toy. Don’t use a butt plug that’s double the size of your previous plug– it’s going to be hella uncomfortable and even painful by doing so.
2Clean your bum first.
It’s expected for anal play to be messy. However, there’s a way to reduce the mess and that’s by having a bowel movement before the deed or by using an anal douche.
Now, for those who are unfamiliar with the anal douche, it’s a device wherein that lets you squeeze the water on your anus. After that, your anus will release the water with bits of your excrements.
3Relax your body (and your booty!)
Once your bum is all cleaned up, you must then relax your body through foreplay. You must be all aroused and relaxed during this period so that you’ll have a smoother experience when inserting the butt plug.
Now, to do this, you can either go for visual cues such as watching porn or reading erotic manga. You can also go for audio cues such as listening to audio erotica or having phone sex with someone. Putting some scented candles all over the room and removing any form of distraction (pets, light from outside, phone notifications) can also help you get in the mood.
4Dab some lube on the butt plug.
This step ain’t optional. If you’re planning to have some backdoor fun, make sure that water-based lube is right next to you. Unlike the vagina, the anus doesn’t self-lubricate. This means that putting a butt plug without lube can bring discomfort and pain due to friction.
With that, make sure to put some water-based lube all over the plug before putting it in. Avoid using other types of sexual lubricants such as oil-based and silicone-based lube since it can cause infections and can damage the surface of the butt plug.
5Slowly insert it in.
As we mentioned earlier, most people experience discomfort during anal play because they rush the process. With that, make sure to slowly and gently insert the butt plug inside your anus. Also, don’t put it in and out of your butt– this toy ain’t for that. It’s supposed to stay inside your bum during the deed. If you want an anal toy that you can put in and out of your anus, opt for anal beads instead.
6Have fun!
Once the butt plug is inside you, you can then proceed with your other sexual activities. You can have sex, masturbate, or roleplay while wearing this toy. Heck, you can even do kegel exercises or do your house chores while wearing this plug. Enjoy the feeling of getting filled up!
7Clean and store your anal plug properly.
Make sure to clean your butt plug after the deed. Most butt plugs are waterproof, so putting the toy in running water and lightly scrubbing it with mild soap can do the trick. But for good measure, we suggest checking the cleaning instructions on the packaging to ensure that you’re cleaning it right. As for storage, we suggest putting the butt plug on a satin pouch before storing it in your closet. This ensures that the toy isn’t exposed to dust or dirt.
Why You Should Use a Butt Plug
Using butt plugs can actually bring tons of benefits for your sex life, whether you’re going for solo or couple plays. Here are some of the reasons why you should get one:
1Perfect for all genders.
What’s awesome about butt plugs is that anyone can enjoy them. It’s not made for specific genitalia. You can also incorporate it on various sexual activities—whether you’re into vanilla or kinky plays.
2A good starting point to anal sex.
If you’re interested in trying anal sex, but is not ready to take your partner’s schlong, you can use a butt plug to prep your body. Using it regularly during your sexy sessions will make you more comfortable with anal stimulation.
Now, if this is the main reason why you’re using butt plugs, we suggest buying butt plug sets. These usually come with at least 3 butt plugs. You will start off with the smallest one then use a bigger one as you get used to the previous size.
3Using it can lead to better orgasms.
As we’ve mentioned above, the anus comes with delicious nerve endings. If you’re playing with your anus while stimulating your other hotspots, you can expect more intense orgasms. Also for our male readers, your prostate—aka male G-Spot—is actually located in your anus. So if you want to experience body-shaking orgasms, we suggest playing with this sultry toy.
4You can incorporate it to your kinks.
Into BDSM? You’ll surely like playing with this toy. For our dom readers, you can command your lusty sub (with prior consent, of course) to wear a butt plug during your plays. You can also make you submissive wear it around the house, or to spice things up, make them wear it in public. Watch in full delight as your sub holds their squirms and moans during the whole play.
5Discreet and easy to use.
It’s pretty easy to use a butt plug—just put some lube on the toy and insert it in your anus. Aside from that, it doesn’t look intimidating too, as compared to other sex toys such as rabbit vibrators or realistic dildos. No one would even suspect that it’s a sex toy at first glance, and is even mistaken as a makeup tool at times. Its compact size makes it easy to bring in your travels too.
Misconceptions of Using Anal Plugs
As you’ve read the benefits above, you’re probably wondering why this toy is still underrated. Well, there are tons of misconceptions floating around regarding butt plugs and anal play in general, making people steer away from these trusty toys. Here are the facts behind those misconceptions.
1“The butt plug will get stuck in your bum!”
This is completely false. Butt plugs are designed to be easily removed from your anus. They have a flared base that ensures that. They also have a T-shaped or ring-shaped handle so that you can pull out the toy with ease.
2“Using a butt plug only feels good to men only.”
This statement is false as women can also enjoy anal sex. Even though women don’t have a prostate gland, they can still enjoy it since it’s still filled with nerve endings. Women can also indirectly stimulate their a-spot on through anal play.
3“Men who like to get penetrated anally are gay.”
Straight men can like anal sex. They can ask their female partners to penetrate them with a butt plug or a dildo– this activity specifically called pegging. This misconception is hella misleading but is also homophobic.
4“Butt plugs will bring more pain than pleasure.”
The challenge with some peeps is that they rush the process, bringing utter discomfort on their end. Here’s the thing– inserting a butt plug doesn’t have to be painful. As long as you’re relaxed and there’s water-based lubricant on the plug, you wouldn’t feel pain throughout the insertion. Take it slow. Use tons of water-based or hybrid-based lube. Relax your body. Have longer foreplay.
5“You’re most likely gonna poop when using a butt plug.”
Some people have said that they feel a pooping sensation during anal play. The poop may also get transferred on the butt plug during the play. However, the cases of people actually pooping during anal sex are extremely rare. To ensure that there wouldn’t be “oopsie” moments, try to take a bowel movement before the deed, or use an anal douche.
Things to Consider Before Buying a Butt Plug
Now that you’ve learned about the benefits of using a butt plug, you’re probably checking your favorite online sex toy shop right now. With that, we suggest considering the following things below before purchasing this handy toy. In that way, you’re sure that you will be buying a butt plug that works for your needs and preferences.
1Size
Butt plugs come in various sizes. If you’re a beginner, we suggest going for a small variant first, which is about 1 inch in diameter and has an insertable length of about 2 to 3.5 inches. Once you’re used to the beginner’s size, you can slowly increase either the diameter or the length.
2Shape
If you want to use a butt plug effectively, you need to consider its shape too. For beginners, we suggest trying the standard, which is the tear-drop shape. Once you’re used on that, go for butt plugs with specific shapes that cater to your preferences:
- For our male readers, buy a plug that’s curved as it provides prostate stimulation.
- For those who have a vagina and planning to wear this toy while having penetrative sex, go for a straight variant.
- If you’re planning to leave the butt plug for some time, go for a variant that has a longer neck (the part that connects the flared base and the bulb.
- For the ones who are simply looking for something unique, try a butt plug that has ridged or bumpy textures in it.
3Material
This is an essential factor as it can make or break your experience. Different materials provide different sensations, so make sure to choose an appropriate material for your preferences. If you’re a beginner, go for softer materials such as silicone. Once you’re used to it, you can go to harder materials such as medical-grade stainless steel. Now, for those who are into aesthetics, you can try glass or crystal butt plugs—just make sure to invest in high-quality (aka expensive) variants to ensure its durability.
Just take note though, make sure that the material of your butt plug is body-safe and non-porous—aka you can fully clean them. Examples of these types of material are medical-grade stainless steel, wood with a medical-grade finish, 100% pure silicone, aluminum, and ceramic. On the other hand, steer away from ABS plastic, jelly, rubber and other porous materials—you can’t fully clean them and are prone to bacteria.
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4Special Features
Some butt plugs have special functions in it, some can vibrate, some have extra weight in it, while others have a tail or gems attached to the flared base. When thinking of the features that you want in your butt plug, just think of your needs for it. Are you going to use just to simply stimulate your anus? Will use it for your vagina during sex? Are you going to use it for your kinky plays? Once you’ve figured out your needs, go for the butt plug that has features that can satisfy those needs and even amplify it.
But for those who are new in the butt plug game, we suggest going for some no-bells-and-whistles types. Then just move to the ones with special features once you’re comfortable using it.
Ways to Play a Butt Plug
You’ve found your preferred butt plug, ordered it, and the package has arrived. Now that you have the b, it’s time to play with it. Here are some ways to use and play a butt plug:
1Wear it while masturbating.
Wear the lubed-up toy while playing with your vulva, vagina, or penis. It provides extra sensations that will surely send to orgasmic heavens. You can also use it while using another toy, such as a vibrator or masturbator/fleshlight. This will fulfill your double penetration fantasies.
2Use it while performing oral sex to your partner.
For real though, you can get pretty bored when performing oral (unless you’re going for a 69 position). With that, we suggest using a butt plug to provide pleasurable sensations and keep you in the mood. It can also amp up the experience—the more you’re turned on, the more enthusiastic you are through the whole thing.
3Wear it in your bum while receiving penetrative sex.
Have double penetration fantasies? If you want to experience getting banged by two guys but is not ready for player #2 yet, we suggest using a butt plug to fulfill that fantasy. You can also experience more intense orgasms in the end due to the extra sensations that you’re receiving.
4Wear it in your vagina during penetrative sex.
Though the name suggests that it’s for butt use only, butt plugs can actually be beneficial for the vagina. Wearing it while getting pounded can alter the width of the vagina canal. This makes the penetration more pleasurable for some.
5Use it as part of your kinky plays.
If you’re into BDSM and power play, you can use this as a punishment or reward for the sub. With prior consent, make your submissive wear this in public, and even during an important event. Enjoy the subtle yet delightful squirms of your sub.
On the other hand, if you’re into roleplaying, you can use butt plugs with animal tails in it, just in case you’re into pony play or petting play.
Frequently Asked Questions
You’ve learned the basics. You’ve learned some tips. By this time, you’re most likely ready to use a butt plug. But if you still have inhibitions and questions about this toy, don’t worry as we’ve answered some of the frequently asked questions about this anal toy.
1What’s the difference between butt plugs and anal beads?
Getting confused about these toys? Here’s a quick explanation.
These two are basically under the realm of anal play toys, but they are hugely different in terms of design and function. A butt plug is usually tear-shaped with a tapered body and a flared base. They’re meant to stay put during the deed and are not used for thrusting. On the other hand, anal beads consist of a group of beads connected on a firm wand. They’re made to move in and out of your anus.
2Can a butt plug get stuck in my bum?
A common misconception about butt plugs is that it can get stuck in your ass. You’ve probably seen tons of memes over social media, talking about this one dude that had his butt plug insert all the way through.
Here’s the thing, a butt plug has a flared base. You can’t put it all the way through and it is designed to stay put. As long as you’re using it properly, and that you’re invested in high-quality plugs such as this Queen of Spades Anal Plug, you have nothing to worry about.
3Can I just use a mini vibrator as a butt plug?
Mini vibrators can be used to externally stimulate the anal opening, but inserting it in is a big nope! They’re not designed for anal penetration and can lead to awkward trips to ER if inserted on your bum. Just go for butt plugs or anal vibrators.
4Is using a butt plug supposed to hurt?
Nope! For first-time users, you can feel minor discomfort, but it shouldn’t feel painful at all. If that’s the case, you’re either not using lube enough or have issues in your bum area. Consult your healthcare provider as soon as possible.
5Will I end up pooping if I use a butt plug?
Another misconception when you use a butt plug is that you will poop in the middle of the deed. No, that’s not gonna happen.
What will happen though is that you will feel the urge to poop. You’re stimulating the nerves in your anus that are responsible for pooping, so it’s normal to feel like you’re going to poop. With that, we suggest using the bathroom before playing the toy so you can take your mind off it.
Takeaway
Butt plugs are fun addition in your sex toy stash. These cleverly-designed toys are awesome for anal play and even for vaginal sex. As long as you’ve found the perfect variant and use it properly, you will surely have a fun plug-n-play sexperience!
