Let’s talk about how to give a rim job. Because, yes, your boyfriend may secretly want you to play with his butthole.
Okay, okay, we can concede a little that maybe it’s not for everyone, and maybe your boyfriend happens to be one of those straight guys who clenches his backdoor gate at the mention of anything butt-related. If he is, that’s just unfortunate because there’s a shit (ahem, no pun intended) ton of nerves in your anus, which means yes, it’s a sensitive area. And when stimulated the right way, it means heaven on earth, kingdom come.
But whether your boyfriend wants it or not, there’s no harm in learning a new skill. And as always, we’re here to guide you with that. For this article, we’re talking about rim job and its wonders, and of course, how to really nail it and become a champion ass-eater. If you’ve never heard of rim jobs (our money is on you already have), then let’s give you a quick lesson on rim job 101.
In a broad sense, a rim job basically involves the act of playing around with someone’s ass by using your tongue, grabbing the buttcheeks, spreading them apart, and making circular motions all over that nub of deliciousness. It’s that simple. But of course, that’s just the tip of the iceberg. Consider it the basic 1-2-3 step of rimming. There’re so many ways you can make this seemingly simple sex play into your own signature move.
But before that, here are some quick reminders:
1 Play it safe and get tested for STIs
We want to teach you how to give a rim job in the safest possible way. The minute you and your boyfriend consider having backdoor fun, we suggest you head straight to the nearest clinic and get yourselves checked. Here’s a not-so-fun fact, the anus is home to many diseases. And trust us on this, you don’t want to risk it. Besides, you can have plenty more fun in bed if your mind is at ease and not worrying about getting a disease after receiving pleasure.
2 Remember to douche
Again, we want you to practice hygienic sex. Asking your boyfriend to douche first before giving him a rim job is one way to do it. You can even give it a naughty flair by cleaning his butthole for him. A few squirts of the Splash Anal Douche usually does the job.
3 You can use dental dams
If you find yourself in an unexpected rim job situation, and you don’t have the time to get tested for STIs, you can use dental dams to protect yourself. If you don’t have any, you can always make it DIY style. Cut off the tip of a condom then cut it lengthwise for an emergency dental dam.
Now that we got that covered, we can move on to the exciting part…
1 Give him sneaky ass squeezes
While the two of you are out grocery shopping, sneak up on him and squeeze his butt cheeks from behind. Surprise him with it. Or put your hands in his back pockets and wiggle your hands there. You get the idea. It’s the whole seduction game at play here. Your man enjoys being seduced too. Watch him become your willing accomplice as you keep touching him in sensual areas while you’re in random places.
2 Let him feel relaxed and comfortable
We want this to be a pleasurable experience for him. And he can’t do that if he’s nervous and uncomfortable. Put some effort in making him feel relaxed first. You can easily do this by giving him sensual massages.
3 Convince him to doggy style for you
Have your boyfriend position himself in doggy style. He’s probably not used to this position and most often than not, you’re likely the one who’s on all fours in bed. So go easy on him. Coax him into it. Don’t make him feel like he’s losing his manliness.
4 Excite him by blowing warm air on his butthole
You can start by breathing out on his ass. The warm air tickles him down there, heightening the sensations in his nerve endings, and making him more eager for you.
5 There’s always rimming lube if you don’t like the taste of ass
Want to give your boyfriend a rim job but don’t like the taste of ass? Oh, the dilemma. You’re good though. There’s rimming lube available now so you don’t have to force yourself to taste ass juices when you can be slurping on your favorite fruity flavor.
6 Smooch on his asshole
Kiss his anal region. This is also the part where you can spit on his ass or use lube. Take note, the anus doesn’t create its own lubrication so you have to provide it for yourself. Drop some serious drool on it, make him wet and slick for you.
7 Time for some tongue action
When learning how to give a rim job, you soon find out your tongue is going to be the main actress for this. With a loose and wide tongue, lick him upwards, switch it up and lick him downwards, then in a circular motion, licking him all over his butthole. Keep your lips wet the whole time.
8 Spank those butt cheeks
He’s been a naughty boy, making you do ‘dirty’ things for him. He deserves a good spanking to show him how bad he’s been. Watch him squirm under you. Enjoy the view.
9 Love bites never hurt anyone
Yes, girl. We’re telling you to use your teeth. Don’t bite hard, of course. We’re talking about light nibbles, just soft caresses here and there, on his butt cheeks, thighs, and maybe even his butthole.
10 Bring in the sex toys
If your jaw is getting a bit slack from all that ass-eating, you can always take a break by incorporating some sex toys in your backdoor escapade. Since you’re learning how to give a rim job like a pro, you may as well go all out. Use a massager, or a vibrator on his asshole, balls, and penis. Or insert anal beads inside him to rub his anal nerves in the most perfect ways. It’s bound to get him hornier by the minute while you get your rest.
11 Slide your firm tongue inside his anus
After playing around outside of his butthole, time to take it up a notch by inserting your tongue inside him. Make your tongue pointed and narrow, and slowly slip it inside his anus. Do it in circular motions just to drive him crazy.
12 Make him hear your moans
Your man loves the sound of your moans. Let him hear your appreciation by making sexy sounds at the back of your throat. Talk dirty to him. Tell him how much having your tongue inside him feel so good for you and how hot he looks bent over like that for you.
13 Use the fingers (trim them first!)
Your wet and slippery tongue sure feels divine, but you can also your finger for a different texture and pressure. Depending on how much he can take, you can insert 1 or more fingers inside. Slowly slip it in and out, then quicken the pace.
When all has been said and done, you also need to be mindful of the aftercare.
1 Rinse off with mouthwash
Don’t brush or floss your teeth yet. Start with mouthwash. It helps kill any bacteria you may have contracted from the rimming. You don’t want to risk scratching your gums and getting an infection in the process.
2 Don’t use baby wipes to clean yourself
The anus can be sensitive, you don’t want to irritate that area with strong chemicals found in baby wipes. Just rinsing with water and mild soap will do.
We gave you all the tips you need on how to give a rim job. You’re now ready to explore your boyfriend’s backdoor. Take these lessons to heart, and witness how your boyfriend screams out your name in bed as you put into practice all the things that you’ve learned from here.