Twin (Flame), Where Have You Been? Let’s Talk About It

Having and meeting your twin flame is the strongest bond you may ever face. We’re talking about a lot of impactful transformations and a much better understanding of who you are. Furthermore, being with them feels as if you’ve known them before without much explanation. You just do.

Let’s delve into this topic a lot more through the guide below. Happy reading!

What is a Twin Flame?

Medical News Today defines a Twin Flame as “a concept that promotes an intense and powerful soul connection between two individuals.” And by powerful, you feel connected with someone physically, mentally, emotionally, and the like. Hence, encountering your twin flame can feel both intense and healing, even if you aren’t fully familiar with each other. 

They’re just like you, with their own set of differences, of course. And yet the connection doesn’t waver as you benefit from each other and become better people.

Then again, we mustn’t solely rely on a twin flame to make us feel whole. That’s our job to fulfill.

They’re also different from soulmates, wherein the people involved are two separate souls who share their own unique connection.

Your twin flame can be someone in a romantic, sexual, or platonic lens. They can also be someone you haven’t met yet, someone you had a few encounters with or someone you’re always with.

Origins of Twin Flame

The concept of a twin flame has interesting roots. That would include:

1 Greek Philosophy and Mythology

VeryWell Mind highlights Green philosopher Plato’s work “Symposium”, which comprises numerous speeches related to love in honor of Eros. One of those speeches was about the concept of Twin Souls and was read by Aristophanes. 

That speech highlighted how humans were round and had two faces in one head, two pairs of arms and legs, and two sets of genitals. Sensing how powerful they are, the god split them in half, creating the normal form we know and see today. In turn, these halves would spend their entire life finding each other.

2 New-Aged Spiritualism

Cleveland Clinic shares that the concept of Twin Flame came from new-age spiritualist Elizabeth Clare Prophet in 1999. Moreover, the basic breakdown of the concept is that you were once a soul, split into two. Those two individuals, or twin flames, are also called “Mirror Souls” as they’re split from the same soul.  Both halves (yourself included) live their own lives and experience their own handful of karmic relationships. A lot of which provide important lessons and growth to prepare your soul for meeting your other half.

Destiny may play a part in when and where it happens, then you and your twin flame stay together for however long. It can even transcend various lifetimes until your soul evolution is complete. Your bond is forever, regardless of whether or not you part ways.

Beneficial Side of a Twin Flame Relationship

Having such a relationship has some advantages. Browse this informative section to learn more about each of them.

1 It urges you to work harder.

Given how twin flames are “mirror souls,” you’d want to do what it takes to make the relationship work, just like how you want to work on yourself to become the best, most confident version of yourself daily. Thus, you put in the action and effort to ensure things are healthy and happy between you two. You’d set important boundaries, communicate your needs, support each other, and so much more.

2 It helps you heal.

Before encountering your twin flame, you may have experienced many unfortunate events and trauma. While you go on your own healing journey, having your twin flame makes the journey a lot less painful and more enlightening. They may just show you that there’s more to life than the past.

3 It encourages personal growth.

 

Whatever your dreams and goals, you can rely on your twin flame to support you like your personal cheerleader. And vice versa when they need an extra push to achieve their own set of goals.

Thanks to your deep connection, it makes you feel safe and at ease. Oh, to love and be loved in return! Also, at the same time, they’ll be the first to call you out on something that may not be good for you out of protection. Like girl, bungee-jumping of a jet when you fear heights is not the best idea for conquering it as a beginner.

Toxic Side of Twin Flame Relationship

Unveil the negative side of getting into such a relationship here.

1 You’re lenient on any bad and negative thing they do.

Blinded by the idea that they’re the perfect one for you and it’s all unconditional, you’re willing to brush any bad signs about them off to the side. You may even romanticize them, wearing rose-colored glasses as you let these red flags pass by. The latter can be related to manipulation, gaslighting, and even any form of abuse.

2 It harms your view of other healthy relationships.

Finding your twin flame isn’t the only way to find love, if that’s what you’re searching for. But if you’re already dating someone and just came across this unique concept, it may cloud your judgment on love and relationships. You may find it boring or anti-climactic, frustrated even that you didn’t hear of twin flames any sooner. But you must understand that healthy relationships aren’t always picture-perfect, nor should you limit a great relationship to whether or not they’re twin flames.

3 You become codependent on them.

Seeing that your twin flame is your mirror soul, you’ll find yourself getting too dependent on them. Going as far as looking for them all your life, then placing your self-esteem on the line for them when they find them. More effects of this state include constantly craving their approval and losing your own identity and sense of being for the sake of your relationship.

Signs You Found Your Twin Flame

Unlock through this section on the various signs that you’ve met your powerful match here.

1 You recognize them.

Or rather, a part of you just knows who they are without even fully or formally introducing yourselves to each other. It’s something unexplained, yet it feels right and aligned. It’s almost like you’re at home and safe when you’re with them.

2 The connection between you and your twin flame is strong.

From having that sense of familiarity, there’s this magnetic pull when you’re around this person. You simply want to be around them and even need them, especially if you like them romantically. This said magnetic pull can even remain strong when you’re both apart.

3 The bond can go psychic.

There are moments wherein you and your twin flame can read each other without letting any words out. Need some water? Already got a glass for you. Want to ditch a boring party? Car keys are already in hand. While communication is important in any relationship, there’s a sense of magic and awe when you can already tell what the other person is thinking, feeling, or wanting to do next.

4 There’s both a sense of similarity and complementarity with them.

Twin flames match each other in several ways since they come from the same soul. Yet, as they live different lives, they acquire a few traits that still complement and balance their other half. 

For example, you’re this golden retriever-like sunshine who’s talkative and sociable, while your twin flame is a grumpy black cat who mostly likes to keep to themselves or with a select group of people. What brings you two together? A potential link you two share is how you both prioritize quality time as a love language.

5 You feel motivated to do better.

Your twin flame mirrors you, which urges you to change certain aspects of your life that you aren’t content with. And by changes, you want to live a more fulfilling and purposeful life. To be better! It may hurt, but it’s for a good reason so you can grow and expand as a person.

6 You physically react towards them.

Especially during that first meeting, your body is sweating, and your heart may be racing like crazy for “no reason.” When really, it just shows how powerful your bond actually is and that you’re finally together (again).

7 You’re inspired by them.

Twin flames have their own unique set of traits that are harmonious with yours. Certain things they do inspire you to take action through a different route. Moreover, it gets you all creative on how to better your life or approach it differently yet optimistically just to switch things up.

8 You see and feel your insecurities and doubts up close.

Having a twin flame means they have separate conflicts, which makes your inner conflict come to the surface. Old wounds are reopened, and scars like insecurities make you question yourself, even when you think you’ve healed from them. In return, it can either repel you from them or urge you to do much-needed (and deeper) inner work.

Stages of a Twin Flame Relationship

There are many ways to break down this type of relationship, but there are 8 known stages to be more aware of. Those very stages consist of the following:

1 Yearning

You may feel a void in your life. But there’s an awareness that your twin flame, your other half, is somewhere out there. Hence, that void in you is longing to see them while preparing for you when you have your first meeting.

2 First Meeting

Twin flames are known to be intense together. So expect your first encounter to be just that, wherein that connection and attraction hits you both. And before you know it, you’d want to be around them as often as possible.

3 Honeymoon Phase

Any relationship experiences this phase, which varies in range but approximately a few weeks. Everything is just so fun and happy with your twin flame as you get to know each other, romantically, sexually, or platonically, and become more intimate. You literally don’t want to go down from you.

4 Facing Difficulties

 

The sweetness will diminish at some point when reality comes your way. And by reality, it can be the emergence of your twin flame’s personal differences and icks. But just like any relationship, you work through them together and let them be opportunities for growth and learning. Even if you feel annoyed with each other during the process.

5 Tested

Take the previous stage and heighten it. Your scars, wounds, and trauma come into the light, which can stress you out individually. When that stress gets lashed out, it can bring conflict between you and your twin flame. Lots of things get questioned, and even someone walks out of the relationship (or even ghosts the other person).

6 Run and Chase

In a twin flame relationship, someone does walk away. The walker, or runner, wants to keep themselves safe and free from vulnerability. As for the other twin flame, the chaser, they do what it takes to get their other half back. This phase can be as lengthy as both people choose it to be.

7 Surrender

At some point, the runner stops and returns to the chaser to embrace the rest of their journey as twin flames. They let their guard down more as they show their true, authentic self as they are. The chaser does the same, and both twin flames accept each other as they are.

8 Coming Home or Reunion

There’s a sense of peace and balance when twin flames are reunited. It’s a new journey after things got tumultuous, and you’ve gotten closer than ever. More empathetic and patient, too. But this chapter may either reignite the relationship you already have or provide a more respectful approach to ending things. Regardless of the outcome, you are both more connected than ever.

Takeaway

The concept of a twin flame can be both enticing and risky if not treated properly. While it is magical to be connected with someone on a soul level, it shouldn’t be your moral compass when things go south. Know your boundaries and when to walk away. 

Simultaneously, searching for your twin flame is not the only way of finding love out of many more if that’s what you’re seeking. So, if you find someone you match with, don’t let this whole concept potentially sabotage it. 

In other words, take this concept lightly and not overthink things too much.

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