This premature ejaculation article is meant to be a source of valuable information for the reader; however, it is not a substitute for direct expert assistance. Seek help from a medical or mental health professional if you’re experiencing a severe case of this condition.
Do you ejaculate sooner than you want it to be? Are your sexcapades cut short because you keep on cumming within seconds? Do you want to last longer in bed?
For this guide, we will be discussing the causes and treatment options for premature ejaculation. We’re also going to share some of the best sexual wellness products for this condition, so make sure to scroll down ’till the end. But before we dive into the main topic, let’s briefly touch on how ejaculation works.
What is Ejaculation & How Does It Work?
Ejaculation is the release of semen, the thick fluid that carries the sperm out of your body. Also known as jizzing, cumming, and shooting your load, it occurs at the final stage of male sexual stimulation, wherein the person has orgasmed. To ejaculate, the penis must be sexually stimulated. Still, there are cases wherein the person simply cums without touching their penis (for example, wet dreams).
This process comes in two stages. First is the emission phase, in which the sperm is transferred from where it’s stored (testes and epididymis) to the urethra. The next stage would be expulsion, in which the semen is moved out of the body.
Ejaculation is a natural process of a healthy sex life; there are even some benefits to regular ejaculation. Several health articles and studies have shown that ejaculating regularly improves your sperm quality, boosts your immune system, enhances sleep quality, minimizes migraine symptoms, and reduces the risk for prostate cancer.
However, keep in mind that there are limited studies regarding the benefits of regular ejaculation. Most studies, especially the ones claiming prostate cancer-reduction benefits, depend on self-reported surveys and not controlled laboratory data.
What is Premature Ejaculation?
Premature ejaculation, also known as PE, early ejaculation, and premature climax, is a condition wherein the male partner ejaculates sooner than expected during intercourse.
According to the International Society of Sexual Medicine’s Guidelines for the Diagnosis and Treatment of Premature Ejaculation, it’s considered PE when the individual cums within 1 minute of sexual stimulation.
However, if you/your partner is unsatisfied with how quick it takes for you/your partner to ejaculate, even if it’s more than a minute, you/your partner can still seek treatment for premature ejaculation.
This condition has two kinds:
- Primary or Lifelong PE – The individual has experienced premature ejaculation since the start of their sexual activities.
- Secondary or Acquired PE – The condition developed after the individual had several sexual encounters.
Several factors may have caused someone to experience premature ejaculation; below are some common causes.
Below are some of the common causes of premature ejaculation. Keep in mind that not everyone with PE has all of the following causes. We recommend consulting a medical professional, such as a urologist or sex therapist, to determine why you have this condition.
People who have this condition, particularly the ones with the primary type, may have it due to the following biological causes:
- Erectile dysfunction may be an underlying condition of the person going through PE.
- Hormonal issues, particularly with oxytocin, serotonin, and dopamine levels. These hormones play a role in sexual function in men. For instance, oxytocin is known to induce erection in multiple brain regions. Meanwhile, serotonin and dopamine are partly responsible for sexual desire and excitement.
- Penile sensitivity of the person with PE is higher than usual.
- Infection or inflammation of the urethra.
- Infection or inflammation of the prostate.
Mental health issues can also cause premature ejaculation. There are cases wherein a person’s PE is temporary because they’ve already overcome that particular psychological issue. For instance, a person may have experienced sexual repression during their young adult years, but as they’ve unlearned the stigma, they can now hold their erections a lot longer.
However, there are cases wherein the person needs to consult a therapist or counselor to sort out their emotional issues. Below are some of the common psychological factors:
- Low self-esteem
- Body issues
- Sexual trauma or abuse
- Sexual repression; having extremely negative thoughts about sex
- Relationship problems
- Sexual performance anxiety; worrying if you’re going to ejaculate too quickly
Getting treatment for premature ejaculation can be challenging and time-consuming, especially if it’s caused by emotional issues. Not only that, but you’ll need to have extra funds for medical consultations, counseling, and sexual wellness products. However, expect a more fulfilling and satisfying sex life once you’ve resolved this condition. Below are some of the treatment options for this condition.
Before getting medical help, we recommend trying behavioral techniques that delay your orgasm. Sometimes, changing how you stimulate your penis can resolve the condition.
Below are some of the self-help methods that you can try. Take note that these methods don’t work for everyone. Consult a medical professional if these techniques don’t work for you, as you may have an underlying physical or mental health issue that needs further assistance.
Start and Stop Technique
For this one, you or your partner must stimulate the penis until you’re at the edge of orgasm. Once you feel like reaching the peak, ask your partner to stop stimulating your penis. Wait for 30 seconds or until you feel in control of your sexual response.
Keep doing it at least three times before letting yourself cum. Keep practicing until you’ve learned to fully control your sexual response.
This is similar to the previous one, but with some squeezing. You or your partner must stimulate your penis for a few seconds until you reach the edge of climax.
After that, you or your partner must stop the sexual stimulation and gently squeeze the glans penis (head) for 30 seconds or until you lose your erection. Stimulate your penis, then do the pause-squeeze again. Repeat it 3-4 times before letting yourself orgasm.
Distracted Thinking Technique
This technique is commonly recommended by people who experience premature ejaculation. As the name implies, you’ll think of non-sexual things while having sex. For example, you start thinking of the cereal brands that you’ve been seeing in the grocery or visualize the menu of your favorite fast-food chain.
We get that it sounds absurd to think of other things aside from your partner and the act during sex, but some men have found this technique beneficial and have helped them last longer in bed.
Pre-intercourse Masturbation Technique
Another common behavioral technique is masturbating 1 to 2 hours before the deed. Ejaculating before sex can desensitize the penis, reducing pleasurable and orgasm-inducing sensations.
If you’re worried that jerking off can result in you not having an erection at the actual deed, don’t worry. Younger men may only need a few minutes to be ready to engage in sex again (known as the refractory period). However, if you’re older, you may have a longer refractory period, some of which may take 12-24 hours.
If you’ve determined that the cause of your PE is psychological, the best way to resolve it is by consulting a mental health professional.
They will help you figure out the specific situation contributing to this condition. They may also prescribe medicines that improve your mental health symptoms, which can resolve PE issues. You can also take couples therapy instead and involve your partner if you think the relationship plays a role in your PE.
3Pelvic Floor Exercises
Contrary to popular belief, men can also do pelvic floor exercises. A stronger pelvic floor can help you gain control of your sexual response. However, don’t think of this as a magical cure to premature ejaculation. We recommend doing pelvic floor exercises while trying the other treatments on the list.
For starters, you’ll need to identify your pelvic floor muscles. The best way to figure this out is by urinating and stopping mid-flow. Feel the muscles that tighten up as you stop urinating? Those are your pelvic floor muscles.
Once you’ve found the right muscles, lie down in your bed or get into any comfortable position. Then, tighten your muscles and hold them for about 3 seconds. Let go of the muscles and relax for 3 seconds, then tighten it again.
Concentrate on your pelvic floor muscles, and don’t overdo it as you might be flexing the muscles in the other areas, such as your abdomen and thighs. Don’t hold your breath, too.
Keep doing it until you reach your preferred number of repetitions. Try to reach 3 sets of 10 repetitions per day for better results.
Another home remedy is consuming foods known to help with premature ejaculation. Like the last treatment option, this can only help your condition; don’t expect this to fully treat your PE.
Below are some foods you’ve got to add to your meal plan. They’re rich in vitamins and minerals, such as zinc and magnesium, that improve sexual function and maintain an erection.
- Dark chocolate
- Kidney beans
- Pumpkin seeds
- Sesame seeds
If you follow a specific diet or don’t have the time to incorporate the foods above in your meal plan, you may take supplements instead to get those needed vitamins and minerals.
However, if you have other health conditions, it’s best to talk to your doctor first and see if the following supplements are safe for you. Also, take note of the side effects of consuming these supplements, such as nausea, vomiting, stomach pain, etc.
- Ayurvedic Herbal Medicine (such as aunch beej, kamini vidrawan ras, and yauvanamrit vati) – According to this 2017 study, male individuals that took one of these medicines saw a slight increase in the time it took to cum during sex.
- Chinese Herbal Medicine (such as Yimusake tablets and Qilin Pills) – A 2017 study reported that taking different Chinese herbal medicine has increased their time before ejaculating by about 2 minutes.
- Zinc Supplements – As mentioned in the last treatment option, zinc is known to help with sexual function and maintain an erection.
If you’ve tried all the home remedies and it still didn’t improve your PE, consult a urologist and take prescribed medications. There are medications mentioned online, and you may be tempted to get them yourself— don’t do this! It can do more harm than good to your body. Talk to a specialist before taking any medication.
Sexual Wellness Products That Can Help With Premature Ejaculation
Aside from getting medical or natural treatments, you can also use sexual wellness products to help you with premature ejaculation. However, note that these are more band-aid solutions and wouldn’t necessarily diminish your condition.
1Genital Desensitizers or Delay Sprays
As the name implies, these products are formulated to desensitize or gently numb the penis, resulting in prolonged erections. Put a few drops on your erect penis (glans or shaft, depending on the product’s instructions), then proceed on the deed.
Remember to wait for it to dry or wear a condom, or you might end up numbing your partner’s genitals. Below are some of our recommended genital orgasm delay products:
Aside from protecting you from unintended pregnancies and sexually transmitted infections, condoms can lessen the sensation you might feel during penetration. So go ahead and use a love glove in your sessions; the thicker, the better. Below are some of our recommendations:
Using personal lubricants, particularly the ones with a thicker consistency, can reduce sensations you may feel during vaginal or anal sex. When there’s less friction, there’s a less stimulating sensation. Check out some of our thick lubes below:
If you’re looking for a sex toy that could delay your climax, you’ve got to get a cock ring! They’re created to restrict blood flow in the penis, resulting in firmer and longer-lasting erections.
Not only that but there are penis rings that have vibrations on them. If you have a female partner, that would be highly beneficial as the vibes can stimulate their clit, resulting in quicker Os. Check out some of our bestselling penis rings below:
Another pleasure toy that could help with your premature ejaculation is a penis pump. This device has two parts: the cylindrical tube you put your penis in and a manual or automated pump. It’s designed to make your penis firmer and longer-lasting. Below are some of the must-try penis pumps that we have in the shop:
Frequently Asked Questions
Still have questions about premature ejaculation? We’ve answered some of the frequently asked questions about PE below. For specific queries, you can also ask our resident sexpert, Dr. Sex; click here to send a message.
1What’s the best sex position for someone with premature ejaculation?
You can count on the classic cowgirl position. What’s great about this is the female partner is in control, which prevents you from thrusting vigorously and cumming quickly.
2How common is rapid ejaculation?
It’s reported that 20-30% of the sexually active age group experience PE. American Urological Association also mentioned that PE is the most common type of sexual dysfunction for men.
3Can I still satisfy my partner with this condition?
Yes, you can still satisfy your partner through non-penetrative sexual acts, such as oral sex and fingering. Then, once your partner has orgasmed, you can proceed with penetration. Since your partner already came, there’s no pressure to last longer.
4What would happen if premature ejaculation is left untreated?
If a person has PE, it can be incredibly distressing to have sex, as they might worry about ejaculating way too soon. It can also negatively affect self-esteem, resulting in psychological stress and relationship problems.
5Do women experience premature ejaculation?
There are rare cases of female premature orgasm. However, studies are limited since it’s rare and isn’t even a major issue for women; they’re capable of multiple Os.
Consult your doctor before taking any medication, cream, gel, or other products. Don’t also resort to sketchy products that promise a 100% effective cure for PE. Some of these so-called gels or pills may be unregulated and cause more harm than good. Treating this condition takes time, but with perseverance, you’ll soon find yourself lasting longer in bed.