Ever considered mixing food and sex? Well, you’re not alone in this one.
Food sex, also known as food play, is a sensuous practice that uses food as part of foreplay.
Though it’s an unconventional way of spicing up the bedroom, people have been trying this practice for years. Studies show that there is a very close relationship between love, sex, and food—so it’s not that much of a stretch for people to incorporate food in their steamy sessions.
This frisky act is also shown through TV shows and films, just like the iconic scene from 9 ½ weeks where Mickey Rourke teases Kim Bassinger with random foods from his ref.
However, just like any other sexual act, you need to be well-prepared. Food sex can be a hot experience or a hot mess, depending on your preparation. Don’t worry about that though as we’re here to help.
Here’s a quick guide about the best foods that you can indulge in during food play. We’ve also included foods that you should avoid during this activity as well as food sex tips.
Foods that are Perfect for Food Sex
Your chosen food can make or break the sexperience. Be careful when choosing the main course! To help you decide, we’ve listed 15 of the best foods that you can use for food play. Read away!
Whipped cream makes sex as delicious as your favorite dessert. It’s fluffy texture also makes it great for food sex since it’s not going to drip all over your body and stain your favorite sheets. To use during the play, just spray it on you or your partner’s erogenous zones such as the neck, chest, navel, or inner thighs. You can also add some toppers such as berries to get that dessert vibe.
Using honey during sex can be messy AF but it’s all worth it. It has a sticky texture that brings a subtle yet sultry vibe while having a delicious taste that’s definitely fun to lick in. To use this ingredient, you can either rub in on your erogenous zones or pour it all over your partner’s mouth, just like how Mickey Rourke did it.
Craving for some voyeuristic dining? Grab your favorite sushi rolls and indulge in Nyotaimori, the art of eating sushi off a naked body. Now, before doing this activity, make sure that you or your partner, depending on who will be the human sushi plate, can endure hours of stiffly lying on the bed or table. You can also use bamboo leaves to separate the sushi rolls from you or your partner’s skin, but for the adventurous ones, just all in and put them directly!
Care for some cake? Satisfy your carnal cravings by using cake during sex. If you’re wondering what flavor you should be using, go for something simpler and without grainy toppings such as sprinkles. To use this, you can either play around and smear the icing on each other’s bodies or eat the cake without using your hands just like what the Glory and Niko did in the film Glorious.
Not a sweet tooth? Well, here’s a food that’s not typical in food sex but actually works. Molten cheese, also known as fondue, can be a sensuous as honey. If you’re into sensation play, you can incorporate it with this ingredient—tease your partner with the heated fondue and clumsily drip it on their most sensitive areas (except the genitals!)
Getting into a heated frenzy and want something to cool you down? Grab some ice cream and have some frisky fun! To use it, have your partner lie down on the bed or table, drop a dollop of ice cream onto their thighs, navel, or chest, then start licking. Once you’re done, you can then lie down and let your partner have some ice cream too.
Want to do so much more than licking? Try using strawberries. These irresistible treats are sweet and mess-free! To use it, you can simply place it on your partner’s navel or other applicable zones then start devouring them without using any hands. You can also use whipped cream for extra fun (but if you really don’t want any mess, just stick with the strawberries alone!)
Another healthy treat on the list, there are tons of ways to incorporate grapes in your steamy plays. First, you can treat your partner like royalty and feed them with grapes, Cleopatra style. You can also incorporate sensation play with this treat—simply put some in the freezer, then when it’s time to get steamy, run the frozen grapes over you or your partner’s erogenous zones.
Tease your man and entice him with popsicles. Since most variants are phallic shapes, you can show him your blowjob skills by sucking and licking it profusely in front of him. You can also use it for temperature play and run this frozen treat to your partner’s most sensitive zones. Take note though, no matter how tempting it is, never uses popsicles for penetration!
Of course, the heavenly chocolate belongs to this list. There are several ways to use this on food sex. You can place small bars of chocolate to your partner’s body and eat them without using hands. You can also melt those luscious treats and drip them all over you or your partner’s body for some sensuous licking.
Cherries bring a certain allure, as they’re usually used as garnished for your sultry cocktails. That’s why if you want to use cherries during your food sex play, go for it! They’re as fun as strawberries; just put these sweet treats all over your body or your partner’s erogenous zones, and you’re good to go! PS. Amp up your hotness meter by tying the stem with your tongue!
You might not realize it, but grapefruits can amp up the intensity of your couple plays, specifically in the blowjob area. All you need to do is find an unpeeled and room-temp grapefruit. If you or your partner has a grapefruit allergy, a simple orange can work for this too.
Once you’ve got the fruit, roll it against a hard surface for a couple of minutes; this keeps the insides more juicy and squishy. Next, gently slice the navel; the ends are off. Next, cut a hole in the fleshy middle of the grapefruit, the same diameter as the diameter of your partner’s penis. If you’re up for the mess, you can do this in the bed; just put some towels up. But for easier clean-up, just do this in the bathtub or shower. Next, make your partner aroused by giving him a regular bj. Once he’s fully hard, slip the grapefruit over his erection and start twisting the fruit up and down the shaft. Meanwhile, keep on sucking his glans penis (head) while doing the twisting thing.
Basically, the grapefruit works as an open-ended masturbator, giving your partner a blowjob and vaginal sex sensation at the same time. To learn more about the “grapefruit” technique, we highly recommend checking this video by Auntie Angel of Angel’s Erotic Solutions.
Imagine this. You’re wearing a candy necklace on your thighs or neck. Your partner starts licking and nibbling the candies, building immense teasing on your end.
What a hot scenario, isn’t it? That’s why if you’re looking for a fun food item to have foreplay with, make sure to get yourself some candy necklaces and bracelets.
Want something sexier than candy necklaces? Then you’ll surely love this one. Edible underwear is designed for sexcapades, usually comes in the form of a bra or thong. It’s usually made from gummies or candies and comes in varying flavors. So if you want an item that’s designed for food sex play, go for this one.
Same with cherries, there’s a sensual allure to champagne. Its bubbly texture and sophisticated taste will surely tease your partner’s senses. For this drink, we recommend both of you to drink champagne while making out. You can also start lightly pouring some champagne on your breasts and watch your lover lick those sultry juices.
Foods to Avoid During Food Sex
While some foods are meant for pleasure, some foods are a big nope during food play. Aside from bringing tons of mess, these food items can also harm you or your partner.
Hard Liquor may not be as messy, but using it during food sex play can make you get drunk, resulting in unpredictable mishaps. You may end up sleeping the whole night, or worse, start puking in the bedroom. That’s why if you’re planning to incorporate alcoholic drinks during sex, just stick to the light stuff.
Unless you or your partner has a kink on putting spicy food in your genitals, you should never try mixing spicy food in the bedroom. Instead of reaching for the lube, you may end up reaching for a healing ointment. Just don’t.
3Any Phallic-Shaped Vegetable
There’s a saying that “Anything can be a dildo if you’re brave enough.” but for the love of your genitals, don’t use phallic-shaped veggies for penetration. There’s a chance the vegetables can break off, as they’re not as durable as the good ‘ol dildo. You wanna reach the heavens, not the emergency room!
If you want that sweet coconut oil scent all over your body, you can still go for it. However, be mindful when using it, as it can deteriorate latex condoms. For good measure, just use it as a pre-game, specifically for sensual massages. Then, once you’re done with the massages, move that bottle of coconut oil and go for body-safe and condom-safe lubricants.
There’s nothing wrong with experimenting, but using complex meals is a big nope when it comes to food sex. Not only can it be incredibly messy, but certain smells and textures can make you or your partner all turned off for the play. So as much as possible, keep it simple and try our recommended food items instead.
Food Sex Tips
Now that you know the different foods that you can use (and avoid) on food play, you can start planning your steamy session! But before diving in, make sure to check these food sex tips first for a more successful sexperience.
1Preparation is the key.
Before anything else, talk about this activity with your partner first. Once you get their consent and discussed the agreed terms and limits, you can start shopping for your main course.
Food sex can get real messy, so you must prepare for the cleanup too. If you’re going to it on the bed, use your least-favorite sheets since there’s a chance for stains. If you’re gonna do it on a table or kitchen counter, clean and sanitize the surface before the deed. Have alcohol and wet wipes within reach too.
2Ask your partner about their food allergies.
Though this is part of the preparation step, we wanted to emphasize this one. Make sure to take note of your own and your partner’s food allergies. Anaphylactic shocks aren’t just a major boner killer but also dangerous AF. There are also tons of alternatives that you can try, so don’t fret if a certain food item on our recommended list is something you or your partner is allergic to.
3Play with your partner’s senses.
There are no specific rules on food sex play, so be as creative as you can be. However, we want you to take note of this simple tip— play with all of your partner’s senses. Make sure to get to see playing their bodies with food, smell the sweet juices of the said food item, and even have a bite of it. In addition, you can try giving “ASMR-like” sounds such as chewing or slurping.
Speaking of getting creative, try incorporating roleplay in the deed. You can try various fantasies such as the maid-boss dynamic. Don’t forget to dress for the part! There are tons of sexy costumes all over the internet that aligns with your kinky desires.
5Keep the food away from your genitals.
Though it can be tempting to put whipped cream in your genitals and have your partner lick it, doing this can do more harm than good. Putting cream-based and sugary foods in your genitals can cause infections, such as yeast infection. Instead of putting your sexual health at risk, just be creative and place those sensuous treats on other areas.
6Don’t wanna get messy? Try flavored lubricants.
For peeps who don’t want to ruin their valued sheets or are just not as interested in mixing food in their sexcapades, there’s still a way to add some flavor in the bedroom. Just go for flavored lubricants! Edible lubes lets you and your partner experience food sex play, but without the mess and infection risks. It may not have those additional textures that you can get from real food, but it still gives the same vibe to the deed.
Yes to experimenting! Try different food items, sex positions, and sex games when doing this type of play. You can also use sex toys such as mini vibrators or butt plugs to amp up the sensations. Just be cautious though, especially if you’re experimenting with foods that aren’t on our recommended list.
Things will do get messy. You’re probably fumbling around while trying to put some grapes on your partner’s mouth. The sheets may get stained at the end of the deed. But here’s the thing: so freaking what if those things happen? If things get awkward, just laugh it off. As long as you’re not doing something that could risk one’s health, you’ll do fine.
Food sex is an exciting way to spice up your sex life. It may be tricky when starting out but it is all worth it once you get the hang of it. As long as you’re prepared enough and is using the right treats for food sex, you’ll surely have a hawt and delicious experience. Now, go out there and get yourself that 5-star meal. Have fun!