When it comes to oral sex techniques, you’ve probably heard about rubbing, pressing, and sucking. Those have always been considered as the basics when giving someone a blowjob or cunnilingus. However, there’s one effective method that isn’t mentioned in most oral play guides— swirling.
It’s pretty much an underrated technique; that’s why we’ve created this guide to introduce swirling and to help you provide new oral sex sensations to your lover.
What is Swirling?
Swirling, also known as swirl job, is an oral sex technique wherein you swirl your tongue in a clockwise or counterclockwise motion. It’s pretty simple and easy to do and poses some challenges, such as tongue pain after the deed or difficulty in tongue coordination. That’s why practicing this method is a must when doing this technique, as you’ll solely rely on your tongue for this one.
As for the receiver, getting swirled can bring tons of orgasmic sensations to their pleasure points. How so? Two words— pinpointed stimulation. With swirling, they’ll get to be pleased directly to their most sensitive spots; clitoris for females and glans penis (head) for males.
How to Perform Swirl Job
Wanted to give your partner the swirl job that they deserve? We got you covered. Here’s a brief step-by-step guide on swirling. Let’s get started!
1Clean your tongue.
A few hours before engaging in swirling play, we recommend brushing your teeth and tongue. Emphasis on the “a few hours before” as you shouldn’t brush or floss your teeth before performing oral sex. If you want to freshen up your mouth right before the deed, use mouthwash instead.
If you and your partner feel a bit adventurous, you can opt for mint-flavored or any mouthwash with a cooling effect. It’ll surely add exciting tingles on your partner’s head/clitoris as you swirl their genitals.
Same with other forms of sexual activity, don’t just dive straight into the act. You need to tease your partner’s senses first.
Start with some sensual massages using a scented oil or massage candle. You can also try to have a long and passionate makeout session. Or if you’re feeling a bit kinky, why not go for wild impact play first? It’s up to you and your partner what foreplay activities you should do; just make sure that you’ve got the right love toys and intimate products when doing it.
3Go for basic oral sex techniques, then slowly transition to swirling.
Once you’re done with the pre-game, ask your partner to get in a comfy spot, sit down or kneel right in front of their penis/vulva, lean over, and start performing oral sex on them. Go for the basic techniques first, such as licking and sucking. After a few minutes, gently move into swirling. Here are the specific steps on how to do it.
For a male partner: Focus on the glans penis (head/tip). Place the tip of your tongue to the base of the head, and start moving it around the glans penis in a clockwise rotation. Keep on swirling your tongue as you gently push your mouth further into his shaft. You can also use your hands to provide a swirling stimulation on the shaft, specifically near the base. Just put your lubed-up hands on the shaft and start gently twist it as your tongue swirls in and out of your partner’s penis.
For a female partner: Swirling will be done specifically on the clitoral nub. Gently press the tip of your tongue to the clit and start making a circular clockwise motion to the area. While doing it, we recommend using your dominant hand to finger her g-spot, a highly sensitive region located 2-3 inches deep in the upper vaginal wall. You can then use the other hand to give her body additional support (depending on the position you’re both in) or use it to massage her breasts.
4Switch techniques from time to time.
As you perform swirling in your partner’s intimate area, we suggest switching it up from time to time. You can create a specific pattern; for example, you’ll lick, suck, and swirl, then repeat the process until your partner cums. You can also have a surprise pattern; you just switch the techniques with no specific pattern in mind.
5If your partner is about to cum, keep the speed and technique.
As we’ve mentioned in the previous step, you’ll need to switch the methods and pace from time to time. However, once you feel that your partner’s about to orgasm, just keep on doing the same thing until they reach their peak.
One of the common misconceptions about oral sex is that you’ll need to speed things up to make your partner cum. That’s not necessarily as most people prefer a steady pace when they’re about to reach orgasm.
However, everyone is different when it comes to their preferred stimulation. Maybe some men and women prefer a quicker flicking or swirling to reach their Os. With that, we suggest being attentive and observing your partner’s reaction when giving them head or going down on them. You can also ask them about their preferred stimulation down there.
Now, if you don’t want your partner to cum just yet, simply stop the swirling and wait for them to calm themselves up, then repeat the play. This is called edging, and most people are into this as it can unlock stronger and longer orgasms.
As you’ve learned the five vital steps when swirling someone, we can sense your excitement about trying this oral sex technique. But before you start asking your partner for a swirl job session, we recommend checking these quick tips to ensure a safe and fun experience for you and your boo.
1Practice is the key!
Swirling is pretty simple— just move your tongue in a circular clockwise motion, right? However, if your tongue isn’t used to swirling for long periods, it may get tired easily or even become sore (rare cases) on the actual deed. That’s why a few days before the deed, just take a few minutes of your time to “exercise” your tongue. For instance, as you brush your teeth, just spend at least 2-5 minutes moving your tongue in a clockwise or counterclockwise motion.
If you’re doing it with a male partner and you own a dildo, try practicing it with it. Not only will it help you get used to swirling, but you’ll also get to practice thrusting the penis while swirling the head/shaft.
2Use flavored lubricants.
Want to make your swirling play a whole lot sweeter? Get yourself some flavored lubricants. This is perfect for those who are a bit iffy with sucking and swirling their partner’s genitals, as it gives a sweet scent and taste to the area.
3Keep the hotness meter up with eye contact.
You know what’s hotter than swirling? Swirling with eye contact. As your tongue is busy during the deed, you can use your eyes to express your enjoyment— it’s like a non-verbal form of dirty talk!
Keep in mind, though, there’s a difference between a sultry look and an awkward stare. With that, we recommend giving your partner eye contact at the point of the play wherein you genuinely enjoy the deed. Do it preferably in the middle of the play, not at the beginning, where you’re still figuring things out, and not at the end, where your mouth starts to feel tired.
4Experiment with different positions, toys, and kinks.
Though swirling is a fun and effective oral sex technique, it can get pretty boring if you just keep doing the same thing over and over again. So go ahead and be creative with your sexcapades! Try different positions while swirling your partner. Use sex toys for added stimulation, such as dildos, vibrators, butt plugs, prostate massagers, and nipple suckers. Heck, you can even try swirling in public— please be lowkey with this and never leave your condom wrappers and lube bottle behind!
5No partner? Use sex toys with swirling features.
If you’ve read this guide and wanted to experience swirling but didn’t have a partner to try it with, you can opt for pleasure toys with swirling features.
If you have a vulva, you can try the Lelo Ora 3. It’s powered by the PreMotion™ Technology and designed with a firm rotating nub, simulating the feeling of getting swirled. As for our male folks, you can try the Omega Masturbator. It comes with a rotating feature, giving you that “handjob swirl” when using it. To learn more about these toys, check out the next section of this guide.
As you’ve learned the swirling steps and tips, you’re now ready to experience or try this oral play technique. But before you do just that, check out these swirling essentials first. These pleasure toys and products will surely keep you and your partner cumming back for more!
1Lauvette Green Apple Lube
As we’ve mentioned earlier, flavored lubes can definitely spice up your swirling plays. It’ll make you feel as if you’re licking a sweet and fruity treat! With that, here’s a water-based lube that can help you quench that sexual thirst.
The Lauvette Green Apple Lube reduces friction during penetrative sex, protecting you and your partner from having vaginal or anal pain. It’s edible, making it a great pleasure staple for oral sex. It’s also made with a high-quality, non-greasy, non-staining, and long-lasting formula, ensuring a fun and safe experience with every use.
2Orgie Orgasm Drops Kissable Intimate Gel
If you have a female partner, you might want to try this clitoral stimulant. The Orgie Orgasm Drops Kissable Intimate Gel is made from an exclusive and groundbreaking formulation, providing a mix of tingling, heating, and cooling sensations in your own or your partner’s clit. It’s kissable but not necessarily edible, so we recommend waiting for drops to get absorbed on the clit before swirling the said area.
3Vibrating Handjob Stroker
If you have a male partner, this is a must-try when swirling him! The Vibrating Handjob Stroker has an open design and can be stroked while you’re blowing your partner. It’s equipped with 10 pulsating vibration modes, adding buzzing pleasure to your schlong. It also comes with sleek textured lines for added sensations. To use this while swirling him, just put the lubed-up toy on his shaft, turn on the vibrations, and stroke him while your tongue is busy swirling the head of his penis.
4Lelo Ora 3
If you’re going solo but still want to have the swirling experience, we highly recommend this toy. The Lelo Ora 3 is the world’s most intuitive oral sex simulator, featuring a firm rotating pleasure nub. Aside from the innovative nub, this love toy also comes with 12 pulsating settings, bringing rumbly vibrations to your pleasure points.
For our mighty lads who want to experience swirling but currently don’t have someone to play with, you can opt for this sleek masturbator! With the Omega Masturbator, the journey towards a mind-blowing orgasm is just an arm’s length away.
It has automatic rotating motions that you can turn on with a switch so you can sit back and enjoy different intensities of pleasure. Not only that, but this pleasure device also comes with an audio feature that mimics the moan of a real woman. Just pop on some headphones (included with the love toy), and you’re good to go!
If you’re looking for oral sex techniques that are beyond the basics, you should definitely try swirling! It’s pretty easy and doesn’t require tons of practice just to master it. All you need is your willing self, an excited partner, a bottle of edible lube, and you’re good to go!
For more blowjob and cunnilingus tips, check out these oral sex and blowjob guides here. You can also drop a question to our resident sexpert, Dr. Sex, to get answers for specific sex-related inquiries. Happy swirling!