Do you want to turn a simple massage into a sensual experience? Use massage candles. Not only will it turn your partner on due to its enthralling scents, but it also brings a warmer touch compared to regular massage oils. Think of them as those shy, stoic people with a wild side underneath. At first, they seem unsuspicious, looking like any regular candle. But once you light it up, that’s when the real magic happens.
Whether you’re a full-pledge kinkster, a bondage beginner, or a vanilla babe, you’ll love this sexual wellness item. But if you need more deets, we’re happy to help you. Let’s discuss massage candles and how they can reignite your intimacy and light up your sex life.
What is a Massage Candle?
A massage candle is specially designed to serve a dual purpose. Aside from being used for mood lighting and infusing the air with tantalizing fragrances like cedar leaf, it melts into a silky pool of warm oil when lit. You can then use the melted oil for sensual massages, adding a warm, arousing touch to the activity.
And if you’re worried about scalding yourself or your partner, don’t worry, as it has a low melting point. You can feel the heat when drizzling the newly melted oil in your body, but it’s not hot enough to irritate your skin.
You’re probably wondering what makes a massage candle so “massage-able?” Why do regular candles not turn into oil and harden instantly upon cooling? The secret is in the base ingredients. Unlike regular candles, which are usually made with paraffin wax, massage candles are made with soy wax, beeswax, and coconut wax blended with beeswax. They’re skin-safe, and when mixed with shea butter, jojoba oil, and other essential ingredients, they create a captivating formulation— it looks good, feels good, and smells good!
Ways to Use Massage Candles
Though it’s pretty obvious what a massage candle is for, it can actually be used in different intimate acts; more on that in this brief section.
The most common use of a massage candle is through massages. The fusion of tantalizing scents and silky-smooth oil relaxes the body and lets your partner warm up for what’s coming.
Though there are candles specifically for wax play, you can also use massage candles for this activity. The difference between sensual massage and wax play is that the oil is drizzled directly into your partner’s body while they’re restrained and gagged throughout the sensual sesh.
In most cases, lighting them up can already do wonders in your sexy sessions. A massage candle’s soft, flickering glow and relaxing scent create an ambiance synonymous with intimacy. Dim the lights, turn 2-3 of these bad boys, and let the sensual night begin.
Why You Should Try Massage Candles
Now that you’ve learned about what a massage candle is, you’re either stoked to try this out or confused as to why would anyone find hot oil sexy. As for the latter, here are some of the benefits one can have when using massage candles.
1It increases relaxation.
Most massage candles are infused with aromatic scents that can help you ease out the tension. It makes you more relaxed and lets you enjoy the act. The warm oil from the melted candle can also soothes your muscles.
2Adds another level of sensuality and enjoyment.
As we’ve mentioned in our brief storytime above, wax play and temperature play do exist. It makes the act more enticing, especially if you’re into other BDSM activities such as bondage play.
3Engages most of your senses.
Aside from adding another level of sensuality to your sexytime, using a massage candle teasingly plays with most of your senses. You’re enticed just by seeing the enthralling flame. You get relaxed with its heavenly fragrance. Then you feel an arousing sting coming from the hot oil.
4Features seductive scents that boost arousal.
As we mentioned above, most massage candles are infused with various aphrodisiac fragrances, making you and your partner hornier.
5Hydrates your skin with its rejuvenating ingredients.
For those who are very into #skincare, you’re in for a treat! Aside from the oils being gentle on skin, most massage candles have ingredients, such as Vitamin E, that can nourish your skin. What an amazing bonus, amirite?
How to Use Massage Candles
Now that you know the benefits of massage candles, we can sense your excitement. Looks like someone’s gonna lit up the bed tonight!
But as you look for massage candles on your local or online sex toy shop, you need to learn how to properly use it first. Knowing how to use massage candles properly is a must to ensure a safe and fun experience. With that, check our quick step-by-step guide below.
1Do a patch test first.
The first thing you’ll need to do is a patch test. This ensures that you and your partner aren’t allergic to the product. Light up the candle, wait a few minutes, then apply 1-2 drops of the oil to your wrist. See if there are any effects on your skin. If there’s itchiness, redness, or other symptoms, discontinue use.
2Follow the manufacturer’s instructions.
Check the packaging and see if there are further instructions from the manufacturer; in some cases, you may be asked to trim the wick, use certain fire-producing products, and other related instructions. Follow them, as it’s usually for safety purposes.
3Prepare the space.
Check your bedroom first. If you have flammable materials around your bedside table or wherever you place the candle, clear the stuff up. Remember, you want a steamy and sensual experience—not a fire accident. Also, place it on a stable surface to avoid other unnecessary mishaps.
4Light it up and burn it evenly.
Now that the space is clear, you can start playing. Light it up, then let it sit for 20-30 minutes. The waiting duration depends on the room temperature (if the candle is chilled up, it’ll take longer to melt), the size of the candle, and other related variables.
It’s quite a long waiting time, but by doing this, the wax will evenly melt the edges of the candle’s container. This step ensures that the candle remains usable after the first session.
While you’re waiting, you can do some sizzling foreplay. Have a passionate makeout session, engage in enthralling oral sex, or even go kinky with some roleplaying—the possibilities are endless.
5Blow off the flame.
This is common sense, but we cannot emphasize this enough— blow the light off before pouring the oil. If you’re worried that suddenly the candle will return to its solid form in just a few seconds, don’t fret, sweetie. It’ll take a few minutes to solidify again.
6Pour it on your hand or your partner’s body.
We recommend applying the oil in your hand first for sensual massages, then massaging it in your partner’s body.
If you’re doing it for wax or temperature play, you can directly drip the melted wax into your partner’s partner’s back, feet, butt, thighs, legs, and arms. Never put this in your partner’s vagina, vulva, penis, or anus; even though it’s skin-safe, putting oil in your genitals can cause irritation since it’s sensitive to certain chemicals and substances.
7Take a good ‘ol shower and properly store your candle.
After having a long and heavenly sensual massage, stay oiled up for a few minutes. Let the essential oils from the candle nourish your skin. After that, wash off the oils using your regular body soap and water. As for storage, we suggest putting the massage candle in a cool, dry, secure space, like a closet or shelf.
Frequently Asked Questions
Before we let you go, we know that there are questions that still lingers on your mind. With that, we’ve answered some of the frequently asked questions about this exquisite love toy.
1Are bondage candles the same with massage candles?
Since massage candles are used for wax play, most of you are probably thinking that they’re the same with bondage candles—but they’re not. Bondage candles are made with skin-friendly wax that does turn into melted wax, not oil. This type of candle has a higher melting point and is used for advanced BDSM wax plays. Also, bondage candles are used primarily for wax play and cannot be used for massages.
2Can I use regular candles for wax play?
Honey, as I’ve mentioned above, using regular candles will burn and irritate your skin. Don’t. Do. It.
3Should I shave my pubic hair before using massage candles?
Since the melted candle turns into body oils, it’s not challenging to get it off from your hair, just a quick shower will do—so no, you don’t have to shave. But for the love of your genitals, we highly suggest you don’t put the melted oil anywhere near your pussy or penis. #NotALubricant
4Can I just use a massage candle this as a regular candle?
Yep! Since most massage candles have stunning designs on them, you can use it as a living room décor. You can also light it up to fill the room with soothing fragrances.Just use it as a regular scented candle if you want!
5Where can I get massage candles?
You can buy it online from trusted love toy shops such as Lauvette. Check out our featured massage candle here.
Light it, Drip It!
Massage candles are beginner-friendly sex toys that will surely heat up the bedroom. They’re not as light as ticklers nor as intense as whips—just a well-balanced toy for someone who wants to experience both pain and pleasure.
Now, off you go! As long as you remember our guidelines above, you’re all set to send someone in a heated frenzy. Happy dripping!