Blossoming Through the Lotus Sex Position

Craving deeper intimacy and connection with your partner? Well, the Lotus Sex Position may just be what you need.

This wonderful sex position blends in mutual sexual pleasure and promotes intimacy between couples. Plus, there are other variations of it as it’s been around for a very long time. So naturally, people would want to switch things up in their sex lives.

In this guide, we’ll delve into just that, alongside the benefits, steps on how to do it, and important tips to keep in mind. Happy reading!

What is the Lotus Sex Position?

Masterclass defined the lotus sex position as “a tantric sex position in which one partner sits in the other’s lap, facing each other for intimate penetration or external stimulation.”

Tantric sex centers on mindfulness and developing a deeper union with your partner through various activities like embraces, extended eye contact, and breathwork. Hence, this kind of sex position encourages sexual energy to flow through easily and promotes more sensuality between partners.

Benefits of the Lotus Sex Position

Unveil a few yet strong perks of this intimate sex position down below.

1 It’s hands-free.

Even if the classic variation shows that your arms are enveloped around theirs, you can always move them around however you please. You can cup their face in for a kiss mid-sex, grip their waist tighter, and even support yourself from behind to let your hips do more of the moving.

Moreover, your hands can explore all over their body and vice versa. The lotus sex position grants you visual access to their erogenous zones. In turn, you can touch whichever part pleases your partner the most. For example, between a penis owner–vulva owner pairing, the penis owner can rub their thumb over the vulva owner’s clit during penetration.

2 It’s gender-inclusive.

Regardless of how you identify and who you’re attracted to, the lotus sex position can be done by anyone. Aside from the penis owner-vulva owner tandem, a vulva owner-vulva owner pair can do it with the use of a strap-on dildo or any phallic sex toy. As for a penis owner-penis owner pair, they can do the classic variation, backdoor style.

3 It strengthens intimacy between couples.

As mentioned earlier, the lotus sex position falls under tantric sex. Even more when the pair are facing one another, that takes a bigger step into deepening the bond. Plus, every other sensual action comes naturally, like going in for a closer hug and kissing slowly and more affectionately.

Steps on How To Do The Lotus Sex Position

In this section, we’ll explain the step-by-step breakdown of the classic variation of the Lotus Sex Position. The latter steps can change depending on whether or not you pursue a different variation. But hey, it helps to get the basic steps down.

The bottom partner sits on the bed or any cushioned surface cross-legged. Moreover, the giver must either have a penis, strap-on dildo, or any other sex toy since their current spot is responsible for penetration.

The top partner situates themselves on top of the giver and slides down the giver’s length or sex toy. In turn, they’re straddling them with their legs linked behind their waist and their arms behind the neck.

Once both partners are settled and comfortable, the top partner motions their hips back and forth at a slow pace. Their technique here would be to rock and grind against the bottom partner’s groin.

The bottom partner may touch other parts of their partner to add more pleasure. This is also an opportunity to do any of the tantric-related activities we mentioned above and more.  And when your orgasm comes, hold onto each other tight! Even try to sync yours and theirs together for a much more intimate experience together!

More Variations of the Lotus Sex Position

Beyond the classic variation above, explore more ways to do this sensual sex position here.

1 Kneeling

The bottom partner may experience some potential lower-body aches as they support the top partner’s weight. To solve or avoid that, the bottom partner can kneel so they have more breathing room and leeway while still being physically and emotionally connected with their partner. They can also move more in tandem with the one on top, even giving the top partner the option to ride them almost like cowgirl style!

2 Legs On Both Shoulders 

If you’re a flexible vulva owner, you’d want to try this sexy lotus sex position variation!

Even more so if you like being on top, putting your legs on your shoulders makes it possible to reach deeper erogenous zones and more pinpointed clitoral stimulation. Both of which are important components of female pleasure. The bottom partner can be cross-legged or kneeling.

The same goes for anyone else who’s flexible and would want to try it through the backdoor as long as there’s a lot of lube involved for safety.

3 Legs On One Shoulder

Take the previous variation but with both the top partner’s legs draped on one shoulder of the bottom partner. It may be a challenge, but with lots of communication, trust, and strength, both partners would be able to pull this through.

4 Moving Upwards

Take the kneeling variation to a more elevated height! When the bottom partner has some extra strength in them, as their top partner is wrapped around them, they can slowly lift themselves up. That way, they can add an upward thrusting motion that matches the top partner’s rocking. This takes a lot of trust to make things work, but hey, if it means some extra hot nipple play, then sign us up!

5 Leaning Backward

Another lotus sex position variation if you are flexible! 

If you’re the top partner who wants to achieve a different angle of pleasure, try leaning back slightly. Have your partner support your back so it doesn’t strain. Such minimal change can deepen the penetration and provide more access to your chest area, in which the bottom partner can take advantage of. The bottom partner can still be cross-legged or kneeling; whichever is more comfortable! Just comes to show how adaptable this sex position has become over the years.

6 Slightly Bent Legs

This lotus sex position variation is ideal for those who don’t have the most open hips, especially when being cross-legged encourages your hip flexors to widen. That can hurt a lot and stress you out physically and even mentally when you’re in that position for quite some time.

Thus, a solution to this would be having either one partner slightly bend their legs. Or even try to straighten one or both of them if that’s easier. This variation focuses on comfort while still receiving lots of pleasure and connection with your partner.

Tips To Remember When Trying the Lotus Sex Position

Hold your horses! Before venturing into this exciting sex position, do keep in mind these vital tips during your exploration.

1 Communicate with each other.

Beforehand, during, and after, communication regarding anything sex-related is crucial for both partners. It ensures safety through setting boundaries, being on the same page emotionally and sexually, as well as deepening your connection with each other. Which is basically one of the core factors of tantric sex.

2 Spice up the foreplay.

Aside from the tantric-related activities, infusing them with foreplay would make the sex a lot more meaningful and satisfying. Plus, foreplay helps prepare your mind and body before the actual deed. It helps heighten and transition things between you two easily. Without it, the sex won’t be as enjoyable as you thought. Because only having penetration can be meh, and not all partners would be able to orgasm on that alone. So many studies related to that, especially with vulva owners, have already proved that.

With that in mind, foreplay must always be included in every escapade. It’s literally one of the early steps of such. Adding tantric sex in the mix, the foreplay must be sensual, touchy, and purposeful. The kisses should be heartfelt, lingering touches roam specific yet sensitive body parts, and eye contact is mutual and fervent between you two. 

Those are just examples, but you get the gist of things.

3 Use lube.

We’ve mentioned this tip a bit earlier, but it’s important we share more insight about it! Lube encourages a smoother and more fluid experience between partners. It’s also a huge must-need (not just a must-have) item for when backdoor sex is involved to avoid any sex-related injuries. In this case, we recommend water-based lube, and to replenish each round you guys have and do!

4 Add sex toys into the mix.

Throughout the guide, we shared sex toys like strap-on dildos so all sorts of couples can try the lotus sex position. Hence, it counts as an inclusive sex position. However, the options don’t just stop there. Given the chest is up close, adding nipple clamps (with app control or not) can provide that extra pinch while being penetration. Either the top or bottom partner can wear it. 

Another example here would be placing a g-spot vibrator can also be placed in between to stimulate the clit of the top partner, wherein the bottom partner places it between them and the top partner who gets off on it the most. Even a butt plug can be used, either by the top or bottom partner. Bonus points if it vibrates.

5 Don’t forget the aftercare.

The best way to cap off any sexcapade is by doing sexual aftercare. The relationship label doesn’t matter; there are options for all. This step is important so both partners can properly unwind after having such an emotional and sexual high. It’s best to ride the waves rather than crashing down when one partner leaves or doesn’t do anything. That would lead to post-coital dysphoria.

And thus, we avoid that by doing aftercare. In this case, sensual and meaningful ways to do such can be by taking a warm bath together, massaging each other after getting clean, and cuddling in bed. What matters here is to continue nurturing the bond and balancing out each other’s energies as you replenish it.

Takeaway

The Lotus Sex Position balances sex and sensuality between partners. As a result, it creates a deeper bond and potentially delves into more tantric sex. With that being said, we hope that you and your partner explore and enjoy this sex position and get closer through it!

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