The Electrifying Truth About Sexual Awakening

At least for this author, seeing Jade West and Beck Oliver from Victorious was a major sexual awakening. Comes to show that this author can feel a strong attraction towards girls and boys, even if she leaned further to the latter upon getting older. Then again, it just made this author realize just how beautiful the baddie girls can be!

If you’re someone who’s had a similar sexual awakening or wants to know more about this phenomenon, you’re at the right place! Let’s learn more about it through this informative guide down below.

What is a Sexual Awakening?

Sexual awakening can be defined as someone’s first “eureka” moment in terms of feeling lust, arousal, or intimacy towards someone. It can be a real-life person, a celebrity, or even a fictional character. Or in other words, your sexual awakening is sparked by the content you consume, like books, films, and TV shows, or someone in your life whom you find attractive or desirable.

When Can Someone Have Their Sexual Awakening?

This type of occurrence can happen during early adolescence, but it can also occur when you’re a little older and reach puberty. Your hormones, such as estrogen and testosterone, start to take on a stronger presence. All of these contribute to the initial awkwardness you feel towards your body as it adjusts to the new guests and impacts how you view certain people. If you notice that you’re more conscious and aware, that’s normal (even if it doesn’t feel that way).

But honestly, there really is no exact time when you’ll have your sexual awakening. Our bodies are unique from each other, functioning at their own pace. One day, you can be watching a sweet TV show, take a deeper look at one of the main leads, and say, “Oh wow, I seriously want them in my bed right now.”

Signs That Point to Having A Sexual Awakening

Pay close attention to these crystal clear signs that direct an inner part of you and are ready to come out and perhaps create interesting havoc in your life.

1 Your perspective on other people begins to change.

Your childhood best friend with whom you spend almost everyday and every weekend with? Suddenly, your feelings towards them feel weird and confusing. And often, if not most, this is a potential romance story trope in any media outlet just waiting to happen. But then again, this can still be a case-by-case scenario.

Other than this, you start developing crushes towards things and people that didn’t spark a thing before. And by crushes, we’re talking DEEP ones. You start picking up every detail, minor or major. Oh, they have such nice eyes and long lashes too.

You may garner a first love (or loves) along the way, too, even if they only last a week. The whole daydream-like state is upon your fingertips without you realizing it. Playfulness aside, all the messy feelings experienced here help you figure out what you want in a potential relationship and how to connect with others.

2 There’s a greater eagerness to learn more about their own bodies (and yours).

After that strong spark, you find yourself pondering about your body. Its various sensations and what you can do to make it feel good. As a result, you look up different sources and guides on pleasure and satisfaction online and offline. Ours included. Regardless of how awkward it is to search them because it’s your own journey of self-discovery. 

Then as an extra source, you may delve into how other people’s bodies work too.

3 You become more eager about your sexuality.

Quite in line with the previous point above! While discovering how your body works and what makes you feel good, you ponder, “Who makes me feel this way?”, “Who am I attracted to?”, or “What am I into?” 

You may even find yourself drawn to certain personalities and identities that initially surprise you. Some examples of this that you may search online about include (and not limited to):

1. What does it mean to be bisexual?
2. Signs of being sapiosexual (or being sexually attracted to intelligence)
3. How come tall guys are so attractive to me?
4. What are the different gender identities out there?
5. What does it mean to be demisexual?

All these kinds of questions, no matter how random they can be, help you unravel what you’re into and encourage curiosity in your life.

4 You’re emotionally conflicted during this time.

While a sexual awakening elicits excitement and curiosity, the awkwardness that comes with it can make us doubt ourselves. Is this normal? Am I weird for being into this and that? There’s also some guilt and shame in the uncertainty of things, even more so if it sparks feelings that aren’t deemed acceptable in certain cultures and religions. 

And even if you want to ignore them, they keep popping up in your mind. However, amid it all, just know that your feelings here are valid. The things you’re into are just as real, and nothing, and no one should discourage you.

5 Everything starts to feel new and more electric.

A sexual awakening literally awakens a deep part of your identity that you never knew existed, which affects how you see everything and live your life. Suddenly, maintaining eye contact a second longer makes your heart flutter rather than leading to awkwardness. Or perhaps a compliment starts to hit differently from a certain person. Maybe when a hug deepens, there are major fireworks in the air!

After a sexual awakening, your senses are a lot more sensitive. Thus, chemistry, attraction, and tension towards other people come about, even if it’s not physically obvious. Internally, your emotions are throwing a party that can seem difficult to contain, but eventually, you start vibing along with them while respecting and honoring your boundaries.

6 Various fantasies and daydreams start coming up in your head.

A lot of which can be wholesome while the others… not so much yet you’re so into them!

Those unique scenarios may or may not have a targeted person in mind, yet they spark many feelings in you. And what makes them hotter are that they’re private and specifically yours, almost like a little secret! 

They may also be a bit confusing because you don’t know where they’re coming from, but over time, you’ll understand that they’re a part of your self-discovery journey. And that in itself is exciting! Like who would’ve known getting tied up in bed by a prospect turns you on?! Such scenarios can be oh-so unpredictable.

How to Navigate This Novel Journey

As your sexual awakening becomes a lot more crystal clear to you, you’re gonna need some help getting around it. Given that it’s uniquely yours, you want to ensure things run smoothly and safely. And so, get started on your journey through these helpful tips.

1 Keep an open mind.

Your sexual awakening is a whole journey, not an overnight feat. This is a period where you let yourselves be curious, explorative, and experimental. While it’s also common to ask yourself if a certain interest is weird or normal, or you may even surprised by what your inner world wants to check out, don’t be judgmental towards yourself. It only encourages more guilt and shame into your personal journey, even more so if you grew up with societal pressures. 

Thus, look into each of those new thoughts, feelings, or things with an open and curious mind to promote a growth mindset. It’s either that or you shut them down completely, stunting the progression of your self-discovery journey.

2 Give yourself permission to evolve.

Most of the time, what you’re into right now may change. It’s normal. Interests are fluid, wherein they come and go. You’re not flip-flopping; you’re simply adjusting and testing the waters. As growth isn’t linear, you don’t owe anyone your final identity even more when it’s always changing in various ways.

3 Recognize the awkwardness.

Throughout your journey with your sexual awakening, you’ll find yourself experiencing cringeworthy moments. Suddenly snorted mid-kiss. Got turned on at the most wrong time and moment. Someone knocked on your locked door as you masturbated. Yup, these will continue to pile up, but it makes the journey a lot more authentic and special, even if it doesn’t look or feel that way. 

Plus, ever seen or met anyone confident and comfortable in their own sexuality? Well, spoiler: They have their cringeworthy moments, too, but they own and embrace that side because it’s a part of them.

4 Stay informed with certain words and labels.

In regards to sexuality, knowing the different words and labels like “butch”, “pan”, “non-binary”,  and many more encourages a deeper understanding of oneself. They aren’t boxes for you to cage yourself in but rather a tool that can be used and hide away when it’s no longer applicable or needed. 

Having an eager mind about language encourages a more respectful and empowering self-discovery journey that also lets you connect with other people around you.

5 Explore safely and respectfully.

Whether it’s solo or partnered exploration, it’s important to value consent, communication, non-negotiables, boundaries, and your individual limits. While you figure things out, the person you’re with (if applicable) is also feeling the same way. Practicing kindness and grace as you continue to explore yourself, and if something does feel off, take a moment to pause, step back, and reassess your situation.

6 Be gentle with yourself.

Upon having your sexual awakening, it leads to a major transformation of who you are. It’s bound to have its ups and downs, which can make you feel good and challenged. Hence, remember to take breaks in between and to just breathe when it gets too much. You can cry too and just say “not yet” to the world so you fully process everything before stepping outside again. Just don’t isolate yourself, and do surround yourself with people who support you.

And amid those rocky roads, don’t forget to celebrate small wins along the way! First time admitting something truthful about yourself? Okay, slay! Fully embraced being into a certain kink? Omg, yes bestie! Every moment of self-understanding is worth a mental high-five and a physical hug, too!

Takeaway

Sexual awakening is a uniquely curated experience for everyone, sparked by different aspects and influences in their life. However, what they do have in common is that they start exploring and letting their curiosity take over, and occasionally feel awkwardness and a sense of challenge throughout the journey. Regardless, this phenomenon is a part of life, and we can only grow as we continue to devote ourselves to it. 

We wish you a happy and safe journey into exploring your sexual awakening!

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