Flatiron Sex Position 101: No Need For Ironing Here!

If you want to heat things up in the bedroom, perhaps the flatiron sex position may just be what you need to try! Another way to take things from behind yet still keep the intimacy is to sign us up ASAP!

Let’s unravel more about this sexy sex position through this guide down below.

What is the Flatiron Sex Position?

The flatiron sex position is a sex position wherein penetration happens from behind, whether it be vaginally or anally. An easier and more intimate take on doggy style, the receiver rests on their stomach while the giver goes on top and slides their length (actual or using a sex toy) inside them. It’s also almost like missionary in the case of one on top, except the receiver partner is lying on their stomach.

Benefits of Doing the Flatiron Sex Position

Browse through the different perks of having sex with this very sex position.

1 It promotes lots of physical contact and touch.

The flatiron sex position encourages more closeness and bonding between partners. It even promotes the very love language of physical touch, as the graphics already explain. In other words, the closer you both are, the better pleasure and satisfaction you’ll receive. Not only that, the closeness can encourage steamy activities such as kissing, exchanging dirty talk, and syncing your breathing together.

2 It’s inclusive.

Any kind of couple can do this sex position, regardless of their gender and sex. It’s all about being flexible to adjustments. For a vulva owner – vulva owner pairing, having a strap-on dildo is encouraged. Then anyone of them can be the giver aka. the user of the strap-on dildo and receiver; it’s interchangeable, making things much more fun and exciting.

With a penis owner-penis owner pairing, any of them can go on top. As for the receiver, you just have to double-check that your own penis won’t get too squished when lying down on your stomach.

And for a vulva owner-penis owner pairing, either one of you can go on top too! While it’s pretty self-explanatory on what a penis owner would do when they’re on top, a vulva owner can do pegging in this sex position if that’s what they and their partner are into.

Literally so many ways to do this, and it’s all about being creative and thinking outside of the box!

3 It’s easy to do.

The execution level of this sex position is low. Hence, beginners and more experienced partners can do this and adjust as needed.

How to Do The Flatiron Sex Position

Let’s delve into what the giver and receiver do during this sex position.

1 Giver

Best believe, the giver will be working extra hard here. Being on top, they take charge of the pace, rhythm, and how deep they want to thrust. But of course, they also consider their partner’s desires too. Alongside this, there’ll be a lot of trial and error to truly hit the receiver’s sweet spots while also exploring more on what makes them feel good in this sex position. 

In the meantime, they can touch the receiver’s erogenous zones, kiss their neck and chest, and grip their hips tighter to pull them in closer even!

2 Receiver

On a soft, cushioned surface, they lie down on their stomach. Once they’re settled, the giver slides inside them. They can grip the surface they’re lying on as they enjoy the sensations or get handsy with their partner. They can link their arms around them to bring them down for a kiss or moan in their ear a lot closely. 

Given also how close they are to the giver, they can either straighten their legs further or curl them up as a way to change the angles of penetration. In other words, such changes can make penetration deeper or more shallow, which are both great ideas.

More Variations of the Flatiron Sex Position

Explore more ways to enjoy this sex position to your liking and preference here.

1 All The Way

The classic take of this sex position has the giver fully up. But in this variation, they’re resting completely flat on the receiver’s back. Resting their hands and arms beside the receiver, the giver can still thrust in and out of them. Only this time, the receiver can also rock their hips against theirs for either more subdued or added pleasure.

2 Pillow Talk

If you want deeper penetration, placing a cushion like a sex pillow or a regular one can do the job! Not only can that enhance the receiver’s pleasure, but it may unlock more pleasurable sensations and sweet spots within them. This very pillow must be placed right under the receiver’s hips, providing extra comfort on their chest.

Tips to Remember Before Trying This Sex Position

Before you get into the fun part, read through this list of vital tips that focus on safety and further amplification of the deed here.

1 Communicate all throughout the process.

Just like any kind of sexual act, communicating as you go through the flatiron sex position is crucial. At the start, you learn each other’s thoughts about it, whether it’s worth trying in the present or future. Even though it’s something either one of you is interested in. When you’re both down for it, then you start planning when, where, and what you’ll need. That way, it puts both of you on the same page all throughout. No secrets here!

When you’re now doing this sex position, communication lets you check in with each other. Whether an adjustment is needed or to praise each other, you feel more connected and trusted. Non-verbal communication counts too, like moans and groans. It can also be something planned, like a tap on the thigh to signal to slow down.

As things wind down, communication comes in the form of debriefing. Telling each other what went right and what can be improved to what can be added next time, you further understand their thoughts and sentiments and vice versa. It encourages deeper honesty, which promotes better sex. Communication here can also look like pillow talk, wherein both of you are just praising each other and getting intimate and close, thanks to the oxytocin and endorphins released prior.

2 Take your time.

While this sex position may be easy to do for most, it can still pose a challenge when you’re still starting out and getting the hang of it. Hence, be slow in following the steps and work with what your bodies can physically do at the moment. If you’re the receiver and you can’t lean back to see your partner, staying flat on the bed with your head on the side is okay. Sex toys seem too overwhelming to try? Save it for next time and prioritize physical touch instead.

Sex isn’t a race, and your journeys are uniquely yours. Be gentle and graceful all throughout it.

3 Get kinky!

The flatiron sex position is an avenue to let your BDSM fantasies run wild. One scenario is having a power exchange, wherein the top partner can cage their partner while the bottom partner follows their rules. The top can also safely choke their partner, given their position is extra ideal for it. Using BDSM toys like handcuffs and a mouth gag can take things up a notch in case the sex position becomes too easy when you do it often. Boredom, who? We don’t know her!

4 Use lube!

Lube is known to make sex run smoothly and comfortably, enhancing the sensations felt, which then promote more o’s in the process. It’s extra important to have it on standby when you and your partner are taking things to the backdoor to avoid sex-related injuries and irritation.

5 Add sex toys!

Aside from a strap-on dildo if it’s a vulva owner-vulva owner situation, there are more sex toys you can play around with when having sex via flatiron sex position. Some examples include:

1. Placing a lay-on vibrator against the receiver’s clit if they’re a vulva owner!
2. Putting on nipple clamps for that pinching pleasure (bonus points if it vibrates!
3. Inserting a buzzing anal plug for extra pleasure for either the giver or receiver!

6 Don’t forget aftercare!

This final tip can impact numerous aspects of your sex life, so pay attention! Aftercare is the final stage of sex, wherein you and your partner give mutual care and attention after such heated emotions were exchanged and vivacious body movements were done during sex. This step helps you return to reality with ease rather than overwhelm, which can then lead to post-coital dysphoria. A lot of people disregard this step, but you, reader, better not!

Aftercare has different looks, depending on the setting and type of partner you’re with. And yes, a sex toy counts as one. Or maybe you’re doing things solo, and yet aftercare is still important.

But besides the point, aftercare is important. In this case of the flatiron sex position, it normally involves two partners. If it’s you and a one-night stand, aftercare can look like getting each other water, wiping any discharges off each of your bodies, and a bit of small talk. As for exclusive couples, you can copy and paste the aforementioned but add more intimacy like cuddling, pillow talk, and even a shared shower or bath together. Get creative here, especially when it’ll benefit your overall health and view on sex!

Takeaway

The flatiron sex position further shows how taking things from the back can be an intimate and sensual experience, not just being rough and animalistic, for a sexually active couple. With more ways to do this very position and its highlighted perks, this sex position adds more joy and sparks into your sex life. As long as you and your partner communicate and honor each other’s boundaries, then things will run smoothly just like lube (which you shouldn’t forget either!)

We hope this guide lit a flame of sexual excitement and the urge to try something new today or tonight!

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