Everyone has their own preferences when it comes to sex. This is why when starting a new relationship, it may take some time to figure out the best sex positions that would work for you and your partner. Fortunately, we’ve found a way that could help you figure out the position that you’ll both love. Instead of just trying out a bunch of positions and hoping for the best, go with sex positions for your love language.
This guide will list some of the best sex positions based on your love language. You can try these positions and see which ones would work and which ones don’t. Remember that this is only a fun guide and doesn’t necessarily work for all peeps.
As for the folks who just stumbled upon this article and have no idea what love language is, don’t worry, as we’ll share the basics. Let’s get started!
What is a Love Language?
A love language describes the way you express and perceive love.
This concept was introduced by Dr. Gary Chapman, an American Author, radio talk show host, and a senior associate pastor at the Calvary Baptist Church. He had years of experience counseling couples and helping them solve their relationship issues.
During this period, he discovered a pattern that causes conflicts within couples. He realized there are five ways that people express their love to someone, and couples that go through huge hurdles in their relationship often can’t reciprocate nor appreciate each other’s way of expressing love.
After coming up with the concept of love language, he started researching and writing his book, “The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate.” The book was published in 1992 and is well received by the public.
What are the Five Love Languages?
According to Dr. Chapman’s book, there are five types of love language. The first is Words of Affirmation. When a person has this love language, they express and perceive love through romantic messages, compliments, and other vocal forms of appreciation. They prefer having a partner who’s not afraid of expressing their feelings, and they express their love to that person through sweet messages, romantic posts on social media, and cute-sy call names for their partners.
The next type is Acts of Service, wherein a person expresses love by helping their partner. They also appreciate having a partner that would go the extra mile just to help them out.
Then there’s Giving & Receiving Gifts, wherein a person’s way of saying “I love you” is through gifts. People who have this love language tend to shower their partners with practical and sentimental gifts and often spoil them by taking them out to special dinners, surprise gifts, and others.
Another type is Quality Time, in which people express their love by giving time to their partners. People who have this love language would excitedly plan out dates and bring their partners to the best dating spots in their area. They also make time to visit their partner at home or call them at the end of the day.
Then there’s Physical Touch, on which people expresses their love through hand-holding, kissing, cuddling, hugging, and having sex. They prefer having a partner that’s into skinship.
How to Know Your Love Language?
Want to find out your own and your partner’s love language? There are several ways to do this. The easiest one is listing how you express love to your partner. You can then assess your list and see the love language that it falls into. If you feel that you express love in two love languages, that’s fine too. Aside from listing the ways you express love, you can also try online quizzes, such as this one from 5 Love Languages.
Best Sex Positions for Your Love Language
Now that you’ve learned about the concept, we’ll proceed to the best sex positions for your love language. As we’ve mentioned earlier, these sex positions are suggestions only and not necessarily something you and your partner would automatically love. Just give it a try and then see if it’s something worth adding to your sensual routine.
Take note that the giver is the one that penetrates their partner, and the receiver is the one that gets penetrated in the deed.
If Your Love Language is Words of Affirmation…
The best sex positions for this love language are the face-to-face ones, as the couple can say sensual messages and engage in dirty talk to one other. Here are some face-to-face sex positions that work well for this love language.
Into deep vaginal or anal penetration? You’ll love this one. The Love Bud position lets the giver go for deep thrusts with this sex position. This sex position also lets you have full-on eye contact with your partner.
To do this position, the receiver must lie down on their back and bend their legs. They will then press their knees tight to their breast. After that, the giver will sit down in front of the receiver, facing them. After that, the giver will place the receiver’s left foot on their left shoulder for support, while the right leg is freely placed on the same shoulder. The receiver’s hands are placed on the giver’s thighs. Once positioned, the giver can start anally or vaginally penetrate their partner.
One of the best sex positions for this love language is the Spread Eagle, a wilder version of the good ‘ole missionary. This sex position also brings a freeing feeling for the receiver as they fully let go and spread their legs as far as possible. It’s perfect for couples looking for a steamy sex position that lets them express their hunger and passion for each other.
The receiver must start lying on their back, with their hand crossed on their stomach. The receiver will gently raise their legs straight and stretch it out like the “V” letter. After that, the giver would go on top of the receiver, just like they would do in a missionary position. The giver’s arms must be straight and expose their palms forward, just right next to the receiver’s shoulders. Once positioned, they can start having vaginal or anal sex.
Here’s another sex position that allows you to have eye contact and talk to your partner. The Deep Love is similar to the previous sex position, but this one enables deeper penetration.
For this sex position, the receiver must lie on their back, pulling their legs to their breast and placing their hands on their hips. After that, the giver will go on top of the receiver, as they do in a regular missionary position. The giver’s legs are slightly bent and moved apart. The receiver would then put their legs on the giver’s neck and wrap them on them.
This sex position isn’t technically face-to-face, but it still lets you engage in dirty talk and makeout due to the close proximity of your faces.
For starters, the giver must sit on their leg, with their back straight to the bed or couch. The receiver would then sit on their partner’s lap, with their legs bent and opened apart so that the giver’s penis/strap-on can access the receiver’s vagina. After that, the receiver’s hands would be around the giver’s hips, with their head leaning backward next to the giver’s neck. The giver can then lightly hold the receiver’s breast or give them a sensual caress on other areas. Once positioned, they can start making out, dry hump, or have vaginal/anal sex.
Looking for a unique face-to-face position? This is one of the best sex positions for this love language. The Glass is like the opposite of spooning, wherein the couple would lie in bed sideways, but instead of facing the same direction, they’re facing each other.
To do this intimate position, the giver would lie on their side with one leg straight. The other leg should be slightly bent at the knee, standing right on the first leg. After that, the receiver would lie on their side with their face to their partner; their one leg is straight, lying along the giver’s legs. On the other hand, the receiver’s second leg is straight and is lifted as high as possible. Once the receiver has raised their legs, the giver would put their hand on the receiver’s buttocks as additional support. The receiver would also hold their raised leg for extra support.
If Your Love Language is Acts of Service…
The best sex positions for this love language are positions that let you spoil your partner. You’re the type that enjoys giving more than receiving. You simply want your partner to give them the pleasure that they deserve, so you’re going all-in on your sexcapades with them.
With that being said, the best positions for you are the ones that let you have full access and control over your partner’s body. This means that both of your hands are free to roam around your partner’s erogenous zones and that you can touch these erotic regions with ease. Scroll down to see some of our recommended sex positions for this love language.
This position isn’t that intimate, but you’ll surely get to spoil your boo with this one. The 96 position is a variation of 69, wherein the receiver isn’t lying on their stomach but at their back. The receiver takes a passive role in this sex position, as the giver gets busy with caressing their bodies and performing oral sex on them.
The giver should be lying on the bed or floor; their legs must be opened and slightly bent on the knees. After that, put a small pillow between your knees. Then, the receiver would lie their head on the pillow, their arms stretched along the giver’s body and legs placed on the giver’s shoulders. The receiver’s crotch should be right in front of the giver’s face, while the giver’s hand should be placed on the receiver’s stomach or breasts. After that, the giver can start performing toe-curling cunnilingus, analingus, or blowjob to their partner, while the giver’s hands play with their partner’s other hot spots.
This is one of the best sex positions for this love language as it lets you fully play with your partner’s body while keeping the intimate vibe. You can gaze into each other’s eyes as you play with their erotic spots. This also works if your love language is both Act of Service and Word of Affirmation since you’ll be able to talk to your partner in this position.
To do this position, the receiver must lie on their back with one leg outstretched, and the other leg bent on the knee. The giver would then lie on their side, right next to the receiver. The giver’s leg is under the receiver’s bent leg; the other would lie next to the receiver’s outstretched leg. After that, the receiver would put their bent leg on the giver’s knee. Once positioned, the giver can start spoiling their partner with vaginal or anal sex, sensual massages, and passionate kisses.
This position is a slightly less intimate variation of the Flash but works well for couples into deep vaginal penetration. Same with the previous position, the giver has a free hand in which they can use to play with their partner’s body.
For this sex position, the giver must lie on their side, straight and slightly driven apart. However, their feet must be right next to each other. Meanwhile, the receiver would lie on their back, slightly sideways and facing the same direction as the giver. The receiver would then spread their legs wide apart, with their knees bent. The receiver would raise their right leg as the giver takes the receiver’s ankle for extra support and full access to its crotch area. After that, they can start having vaginal sex.
If you want your partner to simply relax and enjoy the orgasmic sensations, then this sultry sex position is a must-try!
To do this sex position, the receiver must lie on their side across the bed, with their hips just right on the edge of the bed. The giver can then kneel or slightly squat right on the receiver’s hips (the giver’s position depends on the height of the bed). They would then take the receiver’s ankles with their hand, then start anally or vaginally penetrating their partner from the back.
This is one of the best sex positions for this love language as it lets you go all-in as you perform oral sex to your partner. This can also work for public plays, as you’ll just need a narrow and hidden space to do this sex position.
For starters, the receiver must stand with their feet on the same width as their shoulders; their knees are slightly bent. After that, the giver must sit between the receiver’s feet, raise their head up, and hold their partner’s lower back, hips, or thigh. Once positioned, the giver can then perform oral sex to their partner.
If Your Love Language is Giving & Receiving Gifts…
The best sex positions for this love language are the ones that let you give and receive, such as 69 positions! You love spoiling your partner with steamy kisses and passionate caresses, but you want to get some of that sugar, too. Check our suggested positions below and see what works for you and your boo.
This is one of the best sex positions for this love language as it’s a more relaxed version of the 69 Position. To do the Scorpio, the giver and receiver should lie sideways, facing each other’s crotch. The giver must take their partner’s leg with one hand and gently lift it up for better access to the crotch of their partner. The receiver can also do this the previous step or just use their hands to play with their partner’s genitals.
If you and your boo are into challenging sex positions, then the Golden Gate is a must-try! Remember that this sex position requires extra flexibility for the receiver/the person on top. If you or your partner have issues with their back or don’t have enough flexibility, then we don’t recommend trying this as it’s incredibly risky for your body. As for others who don’t have the mentioned issues, here’s what you should do:
The giver should lie on their back, with their legs spread apart and knees slightly bent. The receiver would then kneel right on top of the giver’s face. They must then gently press their crotch on the giver’s face, then stretch their body to reach the giver’s genitals. The giver should use their hands as support. Once positioned, they can perform oral sex on one another.
If the Golden Gate seems too much for you, then you can try this semi-challenging sex position instead. You just need a sturdy couch, and you’re good to go!
To do this position, the giver must sit on the center of the couch, with their body leaning back against the backrest and their hips spreading as wide as possible. The receiver would then position themselves with their buttock right on the giver’s face, spreading their legs wide apart and bend their body forward to access their partner’s crotch. The receiver would then place their hands on their partner’s thighs for support as they give and receive oral sex.
If you want to do 69 variations on the couch, but don’t like the idea of doing difficult positions, then this one will work best for you. The Inventive 69 lets you give and receive oral sex to your partner without bending your body to the extremes.
The giver should like on their back of the couch, with their head on the armrest. The giver’s legs should be stretched out, with one of the legs slightly bent at the knee. The receiver would lie across their partner, bending their legs at the knees and spreading their legs wide so that the giver has full access to their crotch. Once positioned, they can perform handjobs, blowjobs, cunnilingus, clitoral/vaginal fingering, or analingus on each other.
The Snuggle 69 is one of the best sex positions for this love language as it lets you spoil and get spoiled with your partner while keeping the intimate vibe going. For this position, the giver must lie on their back, with their legs slightly driven apart. The receiver would kneel, place their crotch right on the giver’s face, and lean forward to access their partner’s genitals. They can proceed on performing oral sex on one another.
If Your Love Language is Quality Time…
The best sex positions for this love language are the ones that enable a slow and sensual pace in the bedroom. People under this love language love spending extra time with their partners, including the steamy sessions in the bedroom. Below are some passionate positions that allow you to have long sexual plays.
The Binding is similar to the spooning position; the only difference is the receiver’s leg right leg is raised to provide better vaginal or anal access to the giver. Aside from being a highly intimate position, this position also lets you have longer foreplay.
To do this position, the receiver must be on their side, spreading their legs wide apart and slightly bending it at the knees. The giver would then lie on the side behind the receiver, putting one leg on the receiver’s hip. The couple can then spend a couple of minutes making out and touching each other’s bodies before proceeding for vaginal or anal penetration.
Another passionate sex position on this list is the Tango. This relaxed position lets you get that sensually slow pace— you can cuddle, makeout, and tease each other for hours with this one.
To do this passionate sex position, the receiver must lie on their back, stretching one of their legs while bending the other leg at the knee and gently lifting it up. The giver would then lie next to the receiver, slipping their hand under the receiver’s head and placing the other hand on their thigh. As for the giver’s legs, the left leg is lying along the extended leg of the receiver while the right one is pushed between the receiver’s raised leg. They can then spend some time having slow and sensual foreplay that’ll eventually lead to intense vaginal or anal penetration.
This is one of the best sex positions for this love language as it lets you spend more time on the foreplay part of the deed. The Oath also works best if you’re looking for sex positions that don’t necessarily need to have vaginal or anal penetration. We recommend using finger vibrators or mini vibrators for this one to amp up the sexperience.
For this position, the giver would kneel, keeping their back straight and opening their legs wide. After that, the receiver would kneel in front of the giver, facing the same direction. The receiver would then press their hips against the giver’s crotch. Meanwhile, the giver holds the receiver’s body, sensually caressing them.
Spiderman is a great sex position for couples looking for something that enables longer teasing or foreplay time and works for deep penetration.
To do this position, the receiver must lie on their side, with their arms bent in elbows— one is under their head and the other one right in front of their chest for additional support. The receiver would bend their left leg at the knee while the right remains straight. Then, the receiver must gently raise their right leg as the giver kneels down and goes in between the receiver’s legs. The giver would then put the raised leg on their shoulder. They can then proceed with the deed.
Another sex position that allows couples to have longer foreplay is the Reverse Spoon position. As the name implies, the couple lies sideways, but their heads are on opposite ends. This is great for couples who like spooning but want to slightly switch things up. To do this position, the giver and receiver must lie on their sides, but their heads are in a different direction. You can then give sensual massages, oral sex, blowjob or fingering, and other sexual activities.
If Your Love Language is Physical Touch…
The best sex positions for this love language, as the name implies, are the ones that let them get full skin-to-skin contact and tight hugs with their partners. Here are some of the suggestions:
Express your thirst for your partner with this intimate sex position. Not only you’ll get to hug and cuddle your partner, but you’ll be able to share a steamy makeout session with this position. For this one, the couple must lie on their side, facing each other. The receiver must hug the giver’s neck while the giver holds the receiver’s back or butt. They can then proceed with their preferred sexual activity.
Another great sex position for this love language is the Lap Dance. It’s great for couples who prefer plays involving deep penetration. We highly recommend putting some sensual music on and grinding with your partner before proceeding to vaginal or anal penetration.
To do this position, the giver must kneel down, with their legs tightly close together. The receiver would then sit on the giver’s lap. After that, it’s up to the couple if they want to make out first, have a hump and grind sesh, or have penetrative sex.
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The Basket of Love is one of the best sex positions for this love language as it allows the couples to have their bodies intertwined. To do this passionate position, the giver should sit down on the bed, couch, or floor, opening their legs wide. The receiver would then sit between the giver’s legs, hugging their shoulders or neck. The giver would then hold their partner’s waist as they pull them closer.
The Watering Can is a variation of the cowgirl position; there’s more skinship in this one than the classic position. To do this position, the giver should lie down on their back, slightly bending their legs at the knee and lifting them. The receiver would then go on top of the giver, positioning themselves in a normal cowgirl position. However, instead of sitting up straight, the receiver would lean forward and embrace the giver’s neck. They can then proceed on having a sensual makeout sesh or engage in penetrative sex.
Last but definitely not the least on this list is the Hill. It’s one of the best sex positions for this love language as it provides that intimate skinship that you want and brings out a unique experience for you and your boo. Make sure to have a sturdy chair without an armrest first before trying out this one.
For this position, the giver should lie on their back across the chair. The giver should slightly hang off their straight arms to grab the chair’s legs for support. As for their legs, they should be as straight as possible, and their feet should be tightly pressed against the floor. Once the giver is positioned properly, the receiver can climb on top of the giver and sit right on their groin area. The receiver would then lean forward on their partner while their legs are used for support. They can then proceed on engaging in their preferred sexual act.
And there you have it, the best sex positions for your love language! As we’ve mentioned at the start of this guide, this article is simply giving out suggested positions that you and your partner might like, based on the way you express and perceive love.
Don’t fret if you find yourselves not enjoying some of the suggestions; everyone has their own preferences when it comes to sex positions, so just keep trying out new ones until you find the positions that work for you and your boo. For more sex position guides, click here for other related articles. Good luck and don’t forget to have fun!