Wanting to experience a threesome? Fantasizing about it? Wondering how it works? If you’re interested in this sultry activity, here’s a guide to help you out. We’re going to talk about the best threesome sex positions, as well as three-way beginner tips.
Most people have fantasized about the idea of getting a threesome. This deviant act can be thrilling, as you’re going through a range of motions and positions that’s not on your typical sexual routine. Not only that, getting pleasured by two people can be incredibly hot. As people say, two is better than one.
However, threesomes are also considered one of the most misunderstood sexual fantasies. People think that it’s sooo easy to go for this one, not thinking of the tedious planning, discussions, and preparation that you’ve got to go through just to have that satisfying session. That’s why reading guides like this are essential when trying out this activity.
Pros of Having a Threesome
Threesomes can be highly beneficial for your sex life, as long as you’ve planned it out properly. Here are some of the reasons why you should try a three-way.
1Sexually explore in ways you’ve never done before.
Being in a threesome allows you and your sexual partners to become more experimental in bed. You’ll get to experience sensations you’ve never felt before and try threesome sex positions. It also helps you discover new ways of touching yourself and your partner. Overall, it’s a new sexperience that’s worth trying out.
2You’ll get to improve your sexual skills.
People have individual preferences. That’s why when engaging in a threesome, expect to use skills that’re beyond your expertise. What’s great about this is that it enhances your pleasuring skills. Threesomes also help you be a better multitasker and become more receptive to your partner’s needs.
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3It’s fun to do!
Trying out threesome sex positions is simply fun to do! It can be exciting since you’re trying something that’s out of the norm. You’re also expanding your sexual horizons with new erotic visuals and sensations. Not only that, being in a threesome can rekindle that sexual passion with your partner since you’re both stepping away from routine-ish sex.
Cons of Having a Threesome
There are also cons to this set-up, especially if your partner is more invested in their sexual needs than your emotional needs. That’s why if you want a threesome to work, you need to communicate and prepare enough, or else the session can lead to this:
1It requires tedious preparation and communication.
All sexual activities should be planned out. However, with a threesome, you’ll need to triple that preparation. First, you and your partner must find the right third partner for the deed. You will then have to set up a meeting to discuss each other’s preferences, expectations, and limits. After that, you will have to prepare sex essentials such as condoms, lube, and sex toys. Aside from physically preparing everything, you will need to prepare yourself emotionally too.
Most threesomes don’t work because couples think it’s easy to achieve; just ask someone on tinder, and you’re good to go! But nope, hun. This kind of set-up requires extra work.
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2Conflicts may arise due to jealousy.
When expectations and boundaries are not discussed beforehand, your threesome session may end up in a conflict. How so? Well, engaging in a threesome without proper communication can trigger certain insecurities, such as body size or sexual skills. You may end up feeling threatened with the third partner, thinking that this person is a better fit for your partner and vice versa.
If you want to prevent conflicts from happening, communication and reassurance is the key! Also, don’t expect that your partner can read your mind. If you’re not comfortable with a particular act, whether before or during the deed, voice it out.
3You may experience performance issues during the deed.
This might happen, especially if it’s your first time. You might get so anxious that you might have a difficult time getting wet or keeping an erection. If you’re worried that this could happen, we suggest giving your sexual partners a heads up. A simple “This is new to me, so if I might get some difficulty in getting into the mood, please be patient.” message may suffice.
And if penetration isn’t plausible yet, just focus on pleasuring them through oral sex or nipple play. You can also use sex toys, lubricants, and sexual stimulants to help you with this issue.
Threesome Sex Positions
Now that you’ve learned about the pros and cons of having a three-way, we hope that you’ve already figured out if this kind of set-up is for you. If you’re still engaged in this frisky act, great! Here are some of the best threesome sex positions that you should try!
1Sultry Snacking
Let’s start with one of the most comfortable threesome sex positions on the list. The sultry snacking is perfect for women who love receiving oral action. This also doesn’t require any difficult positioning as compared to other positions.
How to do it: This is from the perspective of the receiver. You’ll be the center of attention in this kind of position. Just stand up or sit down, spread your legs wide, then let your sexual partners eat you up in turns. They can also be eating you out at the same time– one in your pussy and the other’s up in your bum (rimming). Enjoy the blissful sensations you’ll get from this!
- Ideal for: All gender breakdowns
- Suitable for beginners? Yes!
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2Double Cowgirl
Spice up this tried-and-tested position by incorporating it in your threesome plays! What’s great about the Double Cowgirl is one of the threesome sex positions that can work on all gender breakdowns. You’ll just do some minor tweaks, and you’re good to go.
How to do it: This is from a third-person point of view. Partner A is the giver and the one who would be lying on their back, while partner B and C are the ones who will be on top. For starters, have partner A lie on their back. Partner B will then climb on top of partner A, assuming the standard cowgirl position. Partner C can then climb on the face of partner A for some oral action. Once everything’s set, partner A can start performing cunnilingus/blowjob to partner C, while partner B is penetrating or rubbing against partner A’s body.
- Ideal for: All gender breakdowns
- Suitable for beginners? Yes!
3Doggy for Three
Send yourself and your partners to a heated frenzy with the Doggy for Three! Same with the Double Cowgirl, this is one of the threesome sex positions that could work for all gender breakdowns. It’s also a beginner-friendly position, so if you’re just starting out on this set-up, check this one out.
How to do it: This is from a third-person point of view. Have partner A lie back on the bed. Partner B will then kneel in front of partner A, while partner C kneels behind partner B. Once everything’s set, partner B will bend over to perform cunnilingus/blowjob to partner A. Meanwhile, partner C will start penetrating partner B vaginally/anally.
- Ideal for: All gender breakdowns
- Suitable for beginners? Yes!
4Backdoor 69
Want to incorporate the 69 position into your threesome plays? We gotchu! This playful position works well with all gender breakdowns. You can also include sex toys such as mini vibrators and clit suckers.
How to do it: This is from a third-person point of view. Partner A will lie down, while partner B will climb on top, facing partner A’s genitals. Once they’ve assumed the 69 position, partner C will position behind partner B. Partner A and B can then perform oral sex upon each other. At the same time, partner C vaginally/anally penetrates partner B from behind.
- Ideal for: All gender breakdowns
- Suitable for beginners? Yes!
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5Center of Attention
If you’re engaging in a threesome because you want to get pleasured by two people at the same time, you’ll love this one! Same with the Sultry Snacking, the Center of Attention position is one of the threesome sex positions that focuses on one receiver.
How to do it: This is from the perspective of the receiver. First, you need to lie down on your back. Lift your leg as your partner A position themselves in front of you. Rest your knees on Partner A’s shoulders. Meanwhile, partner C will kneel on the upper side of the bed, just right above your head. Once everything is positioned, partner A will penetrate you vaginally/anally, and partner C will stimulate your clitoris or perform nipple play.
- Ideal for: All gender breakdowns
- Suitable for beginners? Yes!
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6Double Feast
Satisfy your sexual cravings with this fun position! The Double Feast is one of the threesome sex positions that require some precaution since you’ll go to do this at a table. If you’re tired of using the bedroom or simply want to spice up the three-way sesh, definitely check this one out.
How to do it: This is from a third-person point of view. Partner A will be the one lying on their back at the table. Partner B will be the one climbing on Partner A’s face. On the other hand, Partner C will be Partner A’s giver in the deed and stand up during the act. For starters, partner A must lie on their back, with their bum just positioned at the edge of the table. Partner C must then position themselves in front of partner A, positioning Partner A’s buttocks for support. Meanwhile, partner C will climb the table and onto Partner A’s face. Once placed, partner C can then start penetrating partner A vaginally/anally, while partner A performs oral sex to partner B. Enjoy the delicious sensations!
- Ideal for: All gender breakdowns
- Suitable for beginners? Yes, but be careful when doing this position and use a durable table.
7Love Chain
If you’re looking for a great anal sex position that you can incorporate on a threesome, here’s something worth trying out. The Love Chain may not be as passionate-looking as the other threesome sex positions in the list, but it may help those that get awkward quickly with eye contact. Besides, two levels of backdoor penetration are more fun than one!
How to do it: This is from a third-person point of view. Partners A, B, and C will kneel and form a line. They will then start penetrating each other with their penises/strap-ons. For the person that’s on the start of the line and isn’t being penetrated, we suggest using a butt plug or prostate massager (for males) to amplify your sexperience.
- Ideal for: All gender breakdowns
- Suitable for beginners? As long as you’re experienced in anal sex, you’ll do fine with this position. But if you’re both a beginner in threesomes and anal sex, we suggest familiarizing yourself with backdoor play first.
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8Body Bridge
Stimulate all your senses with this steamy threesome position! This position is ideal for couples who don’t want to have intercourse with their third partner. The lady will still get to please their guest star through oral sex while her partner gets busy penetrating her on the other end.
How to do it: This is from the perspective of the Lady Partner. First, you will kneel on your hands and legs, basically assuming the doggy style position. Partner A will then kneel in front of her, facing her. On the other hand, partner B will kneel and position himself from behind. Once everything is set, partner B will then penetrate you from behind while you’re giving a blowjob to partner A.
- Ideal for: MMF
- Suitable for beginners? Yes!
9BJ Switch
If you’re looking for comfortable threesome sex positions, you gotta check this one out. It’s pretty similar to the Sultry Snacking, but instead of two people pleasuring one partner through oral sex, they will be both pleased with one partner. Now, if you’re a female giver in this position, we suggest using a suction cup dildo while giving blowjobs, so you’re being pleasured while doing this position.
How to do it: This is the perspective of the giver. You will need to kneel down as both men will stand in front of you. After that, you can then start performing blowjobs on each guy. Tip: While giving a blowjob on one guy, give the other one a handjob. We also suggest using a stimulating or flavored lubricant to spice up the deed!
- Ideal for: MMF and MMM
- Suitable for beginners? Yes!
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10Sex Sandwich
Get quivering in pleasure with this advanced position! This MMF position is perfect for those experienced with threesomes. Don’t forget the strap-on and some water-based lube!
How to do it: This is from a third-person point of view. Partner A must lie on his tummy, spreading his legs wide. The lady partner must then lie on her stomach too, wearing a strap-on. She must spread her legs also. After that, Partner B will kneel in front of the lady partner, facing the same direction as Lady Partner and Partner A. Once everything is set, the lady partner must start penetrating Partner A anally. On the other hand, Partner B will vaginally/anally penetrate the lady partner. As you would see in the illustration, the two guys sandwich the woman in this position, thus the position’s name.
- Ideal for: MMF
- Suitable for beginners? Not ideal for first-timers. This position may take some getting used to.
11Love Triangle
The Love Triangle is basically the 69 of threesomes. If you and your sexual partners love to give and receive oral sex, then you must try this one out. We also suggest using sex toys to each other, such as mini vibes, finger vibrators, and clitoral massagers, to amplify the sensations.
How to do it: This is from a third-person point of view. Partner A, B, and C must lie on their sides, facing each other’s genitals, making a triangle formation as they position themselves. Once positioned, they can start performing oral sex on each other.
- Ideal for: All gender breakdowns
- Suitable for beginners? Yes!
12The Vibe Club
Give yourself and your sexual partner some good vibes! The Vibe Club is basically mutual masturbation, but instead of one partner masturbating with you, there’s two. All you need is some sex toys, lube, and you’re good to go. Another great thing about this threesome position is that you can do this virtually– just go for sex toys with long-distance control.
How to do it: This is from a third-person point of view. Depending on the people’s preferences, the partners may sit down or lie down on the bed. They can then start using their sex toys in front of one another, getting off on the sight of each other.
- Ideal for: All gender breakdowns
- Suitable for beginners? Yes!
13Triple Spoon
Here’s a sultry twist to the well-loved spooning position. What’s great about this one is that it doesn’t require complicated positions. It’s also one of the most intimate positions on the list as it allows you to snuggle and cuddle with each other.
How to do it: This is from the perspective of the lady partner. First, ask the male partner to get in the spooning position with you; he is the bigger spoon. Open your legs wide and let his penis slide inside your vagina/anus. On the other hand, the third partner should be lying on their side, facing the same direction as you and your partner. However, their head should be just right at the middle of your legs. Once positioned, your thirdy will perform oral sex, specifically in your clitoris. If you’re going for anal penetration with the other partner, you can request the thirdy to finger you while eating you out. Switch roles from time to time.
- Ideal for: MFF
- Suitable for beginners? Yes!
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14Live Show
If you have a voyeur fetish, we recommend starting up with this threesome position. It’s also one of the simplest threesome sex positions on the list, so beginner couples should definitely check this one out.
How to do it: This is from the perspective of the third partner. For this position, simply sit on the side and watch the couple have sex. You can finger yourself or use sex toys while watching them. This position also lets you observe the stimulation that they like during the deed. Once you’re ready to play, you can simply ask them to join in.
- Ideal for: All gender breakdowns
- Suitable for beginners? Yes!
15Rowdy Ridin’
This position is pretty similar to reverse cowgirl, only with a rowdy twist! This beginner-friendly position is also great if you want to spoil your man, as he’ll get to be pleasured through his penis and anus.
How to do it: This is from the perspective of the male partner. First, you’ll need to lie on the bed, legs wide open. Ask your partner to get into the reverse cowgirl position. The third partner will then sit down right in the middle of your legs, massaging your balls and anal opening while your partner thrust in and out of your cock. If you like anal sex, you can also request the thirdy to penetrate you with an anal dildo, anal beads, prostate massager, or butt plug.
- Ideal for: All gender breakdowns
- Suitable for beginners? Yes!
16Wet & Wild
Ever wondered how shower sex works in a threesome? This position helps you maximize the limited space while keeping things steamy.
How to do it: One partner leans against the wall while the other two take turns stimulating them or making out. Due to space constraints, penetration might be tricky—but it’s possible depending on the bathroom size and body proportions of everyone involved.
- Ideal for: All gender breakdowns
- Suitable for beginners? Yes!
17Couple-Style Threesome
If you and your partner have a threesome fantasy but aren’t quite ready to bring in a third, a little imagination can do the trick.
How to do it: One partner lies on the bed (or any preferred position) while blindfolded. The other partner stimulates both their genitals and anus, creating the illusion of multiple hands at work. For an even more immersive experience, use sex toys like dildos, anal plugs, or beads.
- Ideal for: All gender breakdowns
- Suitable for beginners? Yes!
18The Switch
If you’re looking for a threesome position that keeps things exciting without getting too tangled up, this one’s a great pick. You can also easily incorporate kinks, like orgasm denial, impact play, or sensation play.
How to do it: Two partners get on all fours, leaning forward so their faces rest on a pillow. The third partner then stimulates one of them, either through touch or penetration (vaginal or anal).
For a fun twist, turn it into a game: The receiving partner must resist orgasm. If they can’t take it anymore, they shout, “Switch!” The giver would then move to the other partner. This back-and-forth continues until someone finally gives in.
Another approach? Set a timer. The giver stimulates one partner for a set duration (e.g., three minutes), then switches to the other, repeating the cycle until both partners reach climax.
- Ideal for: All gender breakdowns
- Suitable for beginners? Yes!
Threesome Tips
As you’ve read the different threesome sex positions above, we know that you’re getting more thrilled about doing this unconventional play. But before you start looking for the third partner to play with, here are some of the vital tips when getting yourself in a three-way set up.
1Have a heart-to-heart convo with your partner first.
Before getting all excited, make sure that your partner is down for this too. Ask them for consent and explain why you would like to try this set-up. It’s also important to reassure them that having a threesome doesn’t mean that you’re not sexually satisfied, and you’re just trying to be experimental in the bedroom.
If they say no or they’re not ready yet, then respect that decision. You can still experience that “threesome feeling” by getting yourself double-stimulated with vibrators, dildos, butt plugs, and fleshlights. You can also replicate some of the threesome sex positions above just to get that vibe.
If you’re going through relationship blues, we highly suggest stepping away from this just yet. Don’t use a threesome as a “band-aid” to solve your relationship issues. You might not realize it, but going for a three-way may create more problems.
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2Find a third partner that fits each other’s preferences.
So your partner said yes, great for ya! The next step is listing down each other’s preferences on your third partner. This step is essential since you would want to be with someone that you’re both attracted to. Imagine trying to have sex with someone you have zero attraction with while your partner is having the time of their lives? That’s not the position you want to be with during a threesome sesh.
3Don’t just focus on dating apps when looking for your threesome lover.
One of the biggest hurdles on a threesome set-up is finding the right third partner. With that, we suggest thinking outside of the box when looking for that person. Don’t just focus your efforts on dating apps. Go to local parties. Try matching up with a friend of a friend. Check out local sexual forums. Or better yet, avail a service from an experienced sex worker. What’s great about the last option is that they’re experienced enough for such set-up.
4Make sure to make your third partner feel welcomed.
When meeting the other partner, don’t focus the discussion on you and your boo. Take time to know your third partner and engage with their stories. Getting connected with the third-party will make the deed much pleasurable.
This tip applies during the deed as well. Make sure that you’re pleasuring the third partner and take turns in pleasing them.
5Don’t forget protection!
Never forget to bring boxes of condoms on D-day! You sure don’t want to get the scenario as Gaspar Noe’s Love, wherein (spoiler alert) the lead guy ended up impregnating the third-party during their threesome.
Also, when using condoms, make sure to change every time you’re switching partners and holes. Having vaginal sex with your partner? Use a condom. Going for anal with the third partner? Use a new condom. Getting penetrated by your partner? Use a new condom.
6Stay sober!
A common misconception about sex is that being drunk will make the deed wilder than ever. That’s why some couples who are engaging in unconventional sexual activities, such as threesomes, would often try drinking a lot just to get those sexual nerves to kick in.
However, having drunk threesome sex can bring more harm than good, as the boundaries are blurred, and you wouldn’t be able to coordinate with your partners as sharply as you would if you weren’t drunk AF. Males may also have a hard time getting an erection if they’re drunk. That’s why if you’re planning to drink as a pre-game, just stick with 1-2 glasses of wine.
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7Don’t set high expectations, especially if it’s your first time.
If you’re new to threesome plays, you’ve got to accept that things wouldn’t go as smoothly as expected. There would be some awkward fumbles or funny mishaps along the way. So don’t be pressured to make things perfect or try to impress your partners. Just go with the flow and enjoy the play.
8Add sex toys in the mix!
Engaging in threesome sex positions can be hella tedious, as you’re multitasking with your partners. That’s why if you’re a newbie to it, you might want to consider using sex toys to make the sexcapades a lot easier. You can opt for dildos, vibrators, bondage toys, impact play toys, butt plugs, and more. Just remember, though, don’t use the same love toys with each other, or wrap the penetrative toys with condoms if you want to share them with your partners.
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9Include everyone in aftercare.
Unless the thirdy has explicitly said that they don’t want to have aftercare, we recommend including your third partner on the post-sex aftercare. Snuggle with each other or have a steamy shower together. You can also ask them to have breakfast in the morning after. Remember, they’ve helped you and your boo experience this sexcapade, so don’t forget to appreciate them after the sesh.
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10Have a post-threesome discussion with your partner.
This tip is highly recommended for couples who are engaging in a threesome for the first time. After the threesome, ask them what they’ve felt during the deed. Did they enjoy playing with the third partner? What threesome sex positions did they like the most? Are they excited about trying a threeway again?
Listen intently to their answers. This will help you figure out what steps to take in your next threesome session. Don’t also forget to share your own thoughts about it.
And if your partner doesn’t want to engage in a threesome after the first try, you’ve got to accept it. Some people just don’t like threeways, so just try other sexual activities with your partner instead of pushing them to say yes for another round. And if you’re the one who doesn’t want to have threesomes anymore, don’t be afraid to speak out and tell your partner that you’re no longer interested in doing the act again.
Threesome Play Essentials
As you’ve learned the different threesome sex positions and threeway tips, you’re now almost ready to engage in this naughty act. But before you do just that, here are some recommended love toys and intimate products that you should prep before the deed.
Frequently Asked Questions
Now that you’ve learned the different aspects of a threeway, you’re now ready to try out this sultry act. But if you still have questions about threesome sex positions, don’t worry, as we’ve answered some of the frequently asked questions about threeways. Read on!
1I want to try having a threesome, but I’m afraid of getting jealous throughout the act. What should I do to control or eliminate this feeling?
Before engaging in a threesome, you’ll need to reframe your mindset over this activity. You need to see yourself, your partner, and your thirdy as a team— just a bunch of people fooling around and trying different sex positions. You shouldn’t see the third person as a competitor or even see the activity as a “who is better at sex” contest. Because if you’re thinking of it in that manner, you’ll never get to enjoy the threeway as you may end up with feelings of jealousy and frustration.
Now, we’re not saying that you’re not allowed to feel jealous; of course, it’s natural to feel some sort of jealousy since you’re watching your partner get pleasured by someone else. However, if you feel that you’ll end up resenting your partner because of enjoying a threesome, then you’ll still need time to learn more about it; you’re not yet ready for it, hun.
2How should I convince my partner to have a threesome with me?
No one knows your partner like you do, so it’s really up to you on how to introduce the act. If your partner doesn’t want to try it or is still thinking about it, don’t pressure them to say yes. Even if they just said yes for the sake of the relationship, you wouldn’t enjoy the activity as your partner isn’t as enthusiastic as you are.
3What are the things we should look for when searching for a third partner?
Find someone that matches your own and your partner’s preferences. You’ll also need to consider what the third person is looking for— do they want a vanilla session? Something kinky? Something with roleplaying? These are some of the things you’ll need to consider. Aside from meeting each other’s preferences, you’ll also need to check if you and your partner vibe with this person, even before the deed.
4Is it okay to have a threesome with my own or my partner’s best friend?
Even if your partner or your best friend is open with it, we honestly think that picking your own or partner’s best friend is a recipe for disaster. Even if you only did it one time, the sexual image will surely stay in your own and your partner’s mind. There’s also a possibility for conflicts, especially if you or your partner got jealous after the deed. So if you want to have a threeway, just stick to lowkey acquaintances or strangers.
5Is it bad that I don’t want to have a threesome at all? Am I being a killjoy for not wanting it?
Nope! Everyone has their own preferred sexual acts. If you don’t like it and prefer one-on-one sessions, then that’s fine. You’re not a prude nor killjoy for not wanting threesomes. Just experiment with sexual activities that you’re comfortable with.
Takeaway
Whether you’re the taken one or the fabulous third partner, threesomes can surely level up your sex life. Just make sure you’ve communicated with all parties involved, prepare the needed intimate essentials, and have familiarized yourself with the threesome sex positions above. May you experience triple pleasure with this frisky act. Good luck!
