Wondering how to use a fleshlight? Looking for a new way to pleasure yourself with a masturbator? Well, you just came to the right place. For this guide, we will be discussing the ins and outs of a fleshlight. So if you’re planning to buy one, we suggest checking this one to know if this adult toy is the right solo play buddy for you.
What is a Fleshlight?
At first glance, this toy might look innocent. With the cap on, it simply looks like any regular flashlight. But once you’ve removed the cap, you will see that instead of a small bulb, it features a soft-textured vulva. It also has a small hole that you can penetrate your penis in.
A fleshlight is a sex toy that’s meant to simulate the feeling of penetrating a vagina. It features a flashlight-like outer shape, a realistic vulva with a hole in it, and a bunch of ridges and bumps inside for your maximum pleasure.
As for its material, the hard case is usually made with hard plastic. As for the inside sleeve, it’s made with medical-grade silicone or elastomer (TPE).
It comes in various shapes and sizes—some brands even offer fleshlights that are recreated from famous porn stars. There are also advanced fleshlight variants (also known as masturbators) that have vibrating features, warming features, or even audio features wherein someone is moaning as you play the toy.
How to Use a Fleshlight
As you’ve read our refresher above, you’re probably pumped to use a fleshlight. Heck, you’ve probably bought one already and just looking for detailed instructions. Well, we got you covered, pal. Here are 5 simple steps on how to use a fleshlight.
Before you use your fleshlight, take some time to prepare your environment and the toy. First, remove all distractions and lock the door—you don’t want your roommate seeing your pumping in and out of a plastic canister. Second, check if the fleshlight if it’s spotlessly clean. Is the toy already in tip-top shape? Good. Then, check if the lube is within reach.
Also, if you have some extra time, we highly suggest putting the inside sleeve in warm (not boiling hot) water. This will simulate the warmth of a vagina, giving a more realistic feel to it once you thrust it in.
Though this is probably the dullest part of the whole thing, this is a vital step when using fleshlights (and other sex toys for that matter). By not preparing enough, you might end up getting interrupted because of a phone call or because you couldn’t remember where your lube is.
2Get in the mood.
Once you’ve prepared everything, it’s time to get into the fun part. Start the deed by getting yourself aroused. It’s up to you on how to turn yourself on, but here are some suggestions.
- Check some pornographic content.
- Fire up your imagination and imagine a frisky scenario.
- Indulge in steamy sexting.
- Remember your hottest sexual encounter ever.
- Simply look at the fleshlight, then start fingering it.
3Use lots of lube.
All turned up? Great. Before thrusting in this adult toy, put lots of lube on the inside sleeve and on your penis to have a smooth experience. The amount of lube depends on the toy and your preferred sensation.
As for the lubricant type, we highly suggest using a water-based lube. Steer away from silicone-based and oil-based lube as it can damage the inside sleeve.
4Gently thrust your penis in.
You’re all heated up. You’re imagining to bang your favorite cam girl. The fleshlight is all lubed up. Lying on your back, grab the toy and manually stroke it in and out of your penis. Close your eyes and feel all the pleasurable sensations.
As for the depth and the pace, we suggest experimenting until you find the right speed and depth. Now, if your fleshlight has a small hole on the backside, you can use your fingers to cover and uncover the hole. Doing can give a suction sensation that will surely make you cum in minutes. You can also remove the fleshlight from the case entirely and let your hand adjust the tightness.
5Don’t forget the cleanup!
After having a blast with this toy, don’t just put it away and play some video games—clean it up as soon as possible. Here are the standard steps on how to clean a fleshlight.
- Remove the sleeve from the hard case.
- Clean the hard case first with mild soap and warm water. Thoroughly scrub the bottom lid as that is the part that collects most of your juices.
- After cleaning the hard case, just put it away, along with soap. Take note, you’re not going to clean the inside sleeve with soap—it can ruin the material of the inside sleeve.
- To clean the inside sleeve, simply rinse it with warm water for a few seconds. Put some running water on the hole and just let it overflow.
- After that, run the inside sleeve under running water again. The only difference is that you’re using your fingers to remove the secretions that got stuck on the crevices of the sleeve. Remember to gently scrub it—rough scrubbing can damage the sleeve.
- Place the inside sleeve under running water for a few seconds and once you’re confident that it’s fully clean, simply put it away and let it air dry along with the hard case.
Other Ways to Use a Fleshlight
Did you know that there are other ways to use a fleshlight aside from manual stroking? Here are the other ways to use this alluring toy.
If you want to feel like you’re pounding someone in a missionary position, place your fleshlight under a pillow, get into position and start thrusting in and out of the toy.
If you like to pump in and out of the toy ala doggy style, simply put the toy between the base of the bed and the mattress. Get on your knees and start thrusting in and out of the toy. You can also do this position by putting the fleshlight under the cushions of your couch.
This may require some additional devices but the payoff on this one can be glorious. To use a fleshlight on the shower, purchase a fleshlight shower mount. Connect the mount and the fleshlight as instructed. After that, mount the fleshlight on your shower wall. The height depends on your preferred position.
Once you’ve mounted the fleshlight, you can start thrusting in and out of the toy, via standing or doggy-style position.
Yes, you can involve your partner in this. Mutual masturbation is fun yet underrated activity that can spice up the bedroom. To do this, simply ask your partner to masturbate with their preferred sex toy while you masturbate with a fleshlight. Watch each other until both of you reach climax. There are different techniques, positions, and approaches for this—experimenting is the key. You can also check our mutual masturbation guide below.
Frequently Asked Questions
As you’ve reached the end of this guide, you’re most likely ready to use a fleshlight. However, if there are still questions lingering in your mind about this mighty toy, no worries as we have answered some frequently asked questions about fleshlights. Read on!
1Is there a difference between a masturbator and a fleshlight?
The term fleshlight and masturbator are used interchangeably by various sex shops and other resources. Now, they’re basically on the same realm of sex toys for men but here are some notable differences between these two devices.
- Fleshlights are usually made with a hard case and an inside sleeve. A masturbator doesn’t need to be designed with a hard case.
- Fleshlights is designed with a realistic vulva on its opening. A masturbator can have other designs in its opening.
- Both fleshlights and masturbators have ridged textures inside, but masturbators have heating and vibrating capabilities.
2What are the things I should consider when buying a fleshlight?
For starters, you need to determine your needs. Do you want to feel like having vaginal, anal, or oral sex? Do you like a fleshlight with vibrating or heating features on it? Would you prefer a variant that is compact or a heavy-duty type? Maybe you want a masturbator instead?
Here the questions that you need to answer before getting a fleshlight. As for the budget, we suggest investing in more expensive variants. Cheaper fleshlights can break down easily and are usually made with toxic and porous materials.
3Is it possible to get my penis stuck inside a fleshlight?
If you’re hesitant to use a fleshlight because you’re afraid to get your penis stuck inside, we’re here to clarify that fleshlights don’t work like that. It’s not some trap so take a chill pill, buddy.
Now, let’s say you got into that situation, what we can suggest is that you get into the shower and get cold water in it. The water will get inside the sleeve and loosen up the toy. But again, this is like a one-in-a-million case. As long as you’re using the fleshlight properly, there’s nothing to worry about.
4Can I use a hairdryer to dry my fleshlight?
We get that you want the toy to dry up quickly but for the love of your fleshlight, don’t do that. The material of the inside sleeve is pretty sensitive, so by using a hairdryer to dry up the toy, you might end ruining the material.
5I didn’t like how a fleshlight feels. What should I do?
It’s normal for a first-timer to feel a sense of weirdness or discomfort when using a sex toy. Now if you’ve tried the fleshlight and don’t like how it feels, we suggest giving it a second try. Experiment with different techniques and positions. If you still don’t like it, then maybe this sultry toy isn’t your cup of tea. Check other sex toys instead.
Fleshlights are considered the crowd favorites in the realm of masturbators and other male sex toys. After all, who doesn’t want a sex toy that can simulate the feeling of thrusting a vagina? It also comes in various textures, vulva openings, and even special features that fit in with your kinks and preferences.
Just remember to use a fleshlight that is body-safe and non-porous for a safe experience. Also, lube is your friend! Don’t forget to use it during the deed. Happy thrusting!