Mastering the art of breast play is no easy task. Massaging and sucking them for a few seconds wouldn’t cut it. If you want to give your lover the immense sensations that they deserve, you need to learn the best ways on how to play with breasts.
You’re probably chilling in your room, reading the opening text, and thinking: “Does this activity even a big deal? It’s just part of the foreplay; my partner would surely prefer getting on the f*cking part…”
Yes, it does matter. Most people think that you only play with breasts as a teaser to the main event, aka sexual penetration. However, as long as you put enough attention and stimulation to your own or your lover’s breasts, it could be the main thing. You can even experience intense orgasms just with nipple stimulation!
The breasts, specifically the areola and nipples, are considered an erogenous zone as they are rich in nerve endings. Not only that, but a study has shown that the sensations that you’ll feel from nipple stimulation travel to the same part of the brain as sensations from your genitals. So yes, nipple orgasms are possible.
So you’re probably wondering right now… “Okay, this seems interesting. I want my partner to be quivering in ecstasy when I play with their breasts. How would I do that?”
Well then, settle down, as you’ll be taking a lot of notes from this guide. We will show you how to play with breasts in a fun and pleasure-filled way. You’ll be learning a step-by-step guide in breast play, some basic massaging techniques for breasts, nipple stimulation methods, breast play tips, and the best sex toys for breast play.
Exterior Anatomy of the Breast
Before we move on to the guide, you must know the external parts of the breast. By understanding each part’s location and function, you’ll have a clear idea of which areas to focus on.
Though the size and shape of breasts vary from person to person, all breasts are made up of the same parts. Here are the key exterior parts of the female breast.
Skin – This is the larger, more prominent part of the breasts. The skin surrounding the breasts contains the other parts of the said organ, such as the areola, nipples, and Montgomery glands.
Areola – It’s a circular area around the nipples and surrounding skin with darker pink or light brown color.
Nipple – It’s the protruding tip with several small openings, allowing breast milk to flow out of the breast. This is also the most sensitive part of the breasts and known as the key to nipple orgasms.
How to Play With Breasts
Ready to give your lover the *steamy lovin* that they deserve? Here’s the step-by-step guide on how to play with your partner’s breasts. Read on!
1Communicate with your partner first.
Before engaging in this sultry act, it’s best to ask your partner first if they’re interested or not. Some people, particularly the gender non-conforming peeps, have complicated feelings about their chests. Some people love getting their breasts played. However, some may not be interested at all or have specific requests when receiving one.
Once you’ve got your partner’s consent, discuss each other’s expectations, desires, and limits. Ask your partner if they’re open to getting their nipples nibbled, licked on, etc. You can also explain some of the stimulation techniques that you want to try on them.
We get that you want to keep things unpredictable and surprising. But you can do just that without putting them in discomfort by experiencing something that they disagreed with (because it was never discussed in the first place).
2Set the scene.
If you want your lover to fully experience the pleasing sensations from breast play, setting the mood is a must. Make sure that the space you’re in is free from distractions. Light up some scented candles. Dim the lights if possible.
Besides preparing the space, you can also set the scene by teasing your partner over the phone. You can send some sexts, saying how you’re excited to play with their breasts, how you want to savor every inch of their body, how you can’t wait to make them cum– you get what we mean? Make your partner get hella excited for the deed.
3Start with a steamy makeout session.
We know you’re so excited to massage those boobies… but hold it in, okay? Making your partner aroused is a crucial step. Jumping directly to breast play without your partner’s arousal will result in discomfort on their end.
Start the intimate sesh with slow and soft kisses to your partner’s lips. After a few seconds of teasing pecks, you can then deepen it, sending fiery sensations to their mouth. Gently pull away after a few minutes and start kissing their ears, neck, and other erogenous zones– except for the nipples and their genitals. Make them crave for more.
4Give your partner’s boobies a massage– don’t focus on the nipples yet!
As you kissed their sweetest spots, you can hear the light moans coming from your lover’s mouth. This may get you so thrilled to flick, lick, and suck your partner’s nipples– but take it slow, pal. We’re just getting started.
Grab a bottle of sexual lubricant or massage oil, squeeze its contents into your palm, and start massaging your partner’s breast. The difference is sensual massages to nipple play is that– you guessed it right– it’s not focused on the nipples. With a breast massage, you’re merely touching the whole playing field.
When doing sensual massages, avoid roughly groping your partner’s breasts. Don’t also squeeze and make *honking* noises– we get that you’re just trying to joke around, but that might only ruin your partner’s sexy mood, and you could even get offended by it.
If you’re unsure of how to massage your partner’s breasts, don’t worry, as we have some of the basic techniques below. Just scroll onto the next section of this guide!
5Gently play with their nipples with your fingers.
After a few minutes of giving them a sensual massage, you can now go over this play’s “main event.” As we’ve mentioned, the nipples are rich in nerve endings, so if you want to light up some orgasmic fireworks to your lover’s body, this is the part that you should be focusing on.
To play with their breasts, specifically with their nipples, put a few squirts of lube or massage oil to your fingers, then start giving circling motions on their areola. As much as possible, keep your finger(s) away from their nipples– let it gradually make circling motions around it.
Your finger(s) will then gradually make circling motions toward the nipples. Keep the action going until your finger(s) reach the top of their nips. Make light taps on the nipples for a few seconds, then slowly turn it into a rubbing or flicking motion. Remember, nipples are hella sensitive, so don’t pressure when flicking or tapping the said area.
If you want to learn more nipple play methods, scroll down and check the section after the massage techniques.
6Use your tongue.
By this time, your lover probably couldn’t contain themselves. They’re probably moaning your name, closing their eyes, and feeling all the pulsating sensations.
It’s time to make things a lot steamier. As you keep on stimulating their nipples with your finger(s), put your face right in front of their boobs. Slowly remove your finger from one of the breasts, and replace it with your lips. Give light kisses to it. As for the other boob, just keep your other finger(s) in there.
After a few seconds, start giving some sultry licking to your partner’s nipples while you start rubbing the other nipple again with your finger(s). Suck it up with so much enthusiasm. Give some gentle nibbles to it. After that, move on to the other nipple and do the same things you’ve done on the previous one.
7Keep things slow and steady; observe their reactions.
At this point, your partner is having a blast as they’re receiving oral and finger stimulations on their boobies. Now, you don’t have to switch things up during this time; keeping things steady is the key if you want your lover to experience a nipple orgasm. Same with G-Spot or clitoral stimulation, you need to build the sensations to get that sweet release.
While stimulating their nipples, it’s essential to observe their reactions to it. Check their breathing. Listen to their moans. Are they comfortable? Getting bored? Being in pain? Having the time of their life? This will provide the basis for switching the stimulation techniques, putting more lube, using a sex toy, or moving on to other sexual acts.
Once they’ve reached the big O, congrats! You’ve now learned how to play with breasts. On the other hand, if you haven’t made your lover cum through boob play, still give yourself a pat on the back. It’s normal for beginners to not master it right away. Just give it a few tries, and you’ll surely make them reach those euphoric orgasms soon.
Massage Techniques for Breast Play
As we’ve mentioned in the previous section, giving your partner a sensual massage before playing with their breasts is essential. Not only that it arouses them, but it also keeps them relaxed throughout the deed.
Keep in mind that there’s no right or wrong way to massage and play with breasts. But if you really want a guide for this, then we gotchu, pal. Here are the basic breast massaging techniques.
Have your partner lie down at their back. As you sit beside them, put a few squirts of massage oil or lubricant to your hand. Place four fingers on top of each breast, applying gentle pressure to it. Start massaging the area outside the areola– slow circular motions. You will then gradually move inside the areola.
Avoid touching the nipples, as this technique is supposed to be a teaser for nipple play. Once your fingers are close to the nips, keep on making circular motions but moving outside the areola.
This method is pretty similar to the previous one, but for this technique, you’ll be massaging not only the breasts but the armpits and breastbone as well.
Just have your partner lie on their back while you put some massage oil/lube in your palm. Place four fingers on top of each breast and make circular motions with it. Just apply gentle pressure on it, don’t put so much weight into the massage unless your partner asks you. After that, you can move on their breastbone and armpits, making the same circular motion.
By doing this method, you’re not just teasing them on what’s about to come; you’re also helping them release the tension on their bodies. Take note though, ask them before the deed if they’re comfortable with getting massaged in the armpits or breastbone.
3Rub & Squeeze
With this technique, you’ll be involving the *hoely* nipples. So if you’re looking for a massaging method with nipple stimulation, go for this one.
Have your lover lie on their back as you sit on their side. Put some lube/massage oil on your palm, and then gently cup their breasts. Wrap your fingers around their boobs, softly squeezing them. After a few seconds, slowly rotate your palms around the entire surface of their breasts.
As you do this circular massage, you may give gentle pinches on their nipples. Just lightly grab your partner’s nipples between your thumb and index finger. Using your sultry bedroom voice, ask them if they want to apply more or less pressure. Follow their preference.
4Four Points Massage
With this massaging technique, we suggest that you familiarize yourself with the previous methods first since there are many motions with this one– you or your partner might get overwhelmed with this.
Once your partner has lied down on their back, place your three lubed-up fingers on your partner’s nipples, then gently push downwards. Apply only gentle pressure to it, or your partner might end up with discomfort on this step.
After a few seconds, lightly massage the breasts with a kneading motion. Do this for about a minute. Just focus on one breast, then rub the other afterward.
Next, cup your partner’s breast, then gently rotate your hands in a clockwise motion. Once you’re done with ten rotations, follow it up with an anticlockwise motion. Do it ten times.
Lastly, put your palms on one of your partner’s breasts. Put it side by side, keeping the nipples exposed. Once it’s positioned, gently push your palms downwards so that the fingers rub against the breast’s side surfaces. As we’ve mentioned, make sure that nipples are exposed– they’re just in the middle of your palms. Keep in doing this ten times, then move on to the other breast.
Nipple Stimulation Techniques
As you’ve learned the different massaging techniques in the previous section, you’re one step away from ultimately learning how to play with breasts. Here are the nipple stimulation methods that you can do with your fingers or mouth.
- Tapping: You’re gently tapping the nipples with the finger(s) in varying patterns.
- Flicking: You’re giving an up-and-down motion to your partner’s nipples with your finger(s).
- Circling: You’re making circular motions on the areola and nipples with your fingers.
- Pinching: Gently grab your partner’s nipples with your index and thumb finger, then lightly squeeze it.
- Kissing: Using your mouth, start giving your partner’s boob some gentle pecks. You can then eventually involve your tongue in the process– just kiss it the way you would do on a regular momol session.
- Licking: Using your tongue, start licking your lover’s nipples back and forth.
- Sucking: Put the nipple in your mouth (don’t involve the teeth) and suck it gently.
- Nibbling: Put the nipple in your mouth, then give it a nibble (gentle biting).
Breast Play Tips
As you’ve learned the basics of how to play with breasts, we can feel your excitement about trying this frisky act. But before you start talking about this activity with your partner, we suggest checking out these tips first. This will ensure a safe, fuss-free, and fun breast play with your boo.
1Don’t forget the dirty talk!
Aside from giving them massages and stimulating the nipples, we also suggest incorporating dirty talk when you play with their breasts. Compliment their boobs– let them know how much you love to hold, lick, and suck them. Showing your enthusiasm with words and actions can serve as a confidence boost to your partner, making them more engaged with the play.
2Use flavored lube.
If you’re going to stimulate your partner’s nipples with their mouth, we suggest using flavored lubricants! These edible lubes will surely make you more engaged in the play, as they will leave a delicious taste in your mouth. Invest in affordable yet high-quality lubricants, such as Lauvette’s water-based lubes.
3Say yes to temperature play!
Want to spice up the play? You can use your warm breath or ice cubes as you play with breasts. This will provide additional sensations that your partner will surely love. You can also try sexual stimulants– these specialized lubes have cooling, warming, or mixed sensations when used.
4Experiment with sex toys.
Once you and your boo are experienced with breast play, you can now take it to the next level using nipple sex toys, such as nipple suckers and nipple clamps. You can also use mini or finger vibrators to give your partner’s breast some good vibes. If you’re looking for love toy suggestions, you can check the next section below!
5Ask your partner for their preferences.
Sometimes, all you need is to ask your partner. After you play with their breasts, just take a few minutes and ask for their feedback. Do they want rougher rubs? Want to try a different type of lube or massage oil? Do they prefer gentle suctions? By knowing their thoughts on the deed, you’ll be able to improve your technique.
Best Sex Toys for Breast Play
Wanting to experiment with sex toys when you play with breasts? Not sure what to get in our shop? No worries, as we will be sharing with you the best love toys for nipple play.
1SVAKOM Cookie Clitoral Vibrator
The SVAKOM Cookie Clitoral Vibrator comes in a pastel beauty with an ergonomic design, ensuring sweet sensations with every use. Its petite body is made of eco-friendly ABS and has a velvety-smooth silicone coating. It features three (3) fingers that vibrate and get all wobbly when you turned this toy on.
What makes this vibe ideal to play with breasts is its three-finger design. You can place those “fingers” on your nipples, giving pulsating vibrations to the area.
2VeDO Yumi Finger Vibe
This VeDO Yumi Finger Vibe has a tear-drop shape body with a velvet-soft silicone finish. It features 10 pleasurable vibration modes, ensuring to match up your preferred pressure and rhythm. It’s designed with a tiny nub for pinpointed clitoral stimulation. It also has a sleek finger holder on the back part of the toy, fitting your index and middle fingers seamlessly.
This toy is perfect for breast play due to its compact size, ergonomic finger sleeve, and tiny nub at the tip. With this love toy, you can please your partner’s nipples with ease and precision.
3Jellybean Clit Sucker
The Jellybean Clit Sucker features a sleek design and powerful suctions. This dainty toy is excellent to play with breasts; as you suck the other one, you can put this clit sucker on the other breast. Not only that, it’s discreet, compact, and versatile– making it a great companion for out-of-town vacays.
4Roxie Adjustable Nipple Clamps with Metal Ring
Now, for those that are unfamiliar with nipple clamps, they basically squeeze/pinch your nipples, making them more sensitive to touch. If you’re interested in trying this love toy out, go for our beginner-friendly variant– Roxie Adjustable Nipple Clamps with Metal Ring. It has adjustable metal clamps that allow you to control the pressure. You can also attach some weights and chains to the rings, making them the perfect accessory for various kinky plays.
5Baby Kiss Finger Vibe
Send pulsating vibrations to your lover’s nipples with the Baby Kiss Finger Vibrator. It provides pinpointed stimulation towards your sensitive parts, such as the nipples. It’s also one of the most discreet love toys in the shop and can easily be carried inside your purse.
6Minerva Nipple Clamps With Bells
The Minerva Nipple Clamps features adjustable clamps, all chained up and accessorized with bells. It’s a charming and straightforward love toy that you can use to play with breasts. What’s great about this, though, is that you can incorporate it in various plays– vanilla, bondage, pet play, cyber sex, and more.
7Theia Adjustable Nipple Clamps
The Theia Nipple Clamps with Tassels will surely bring the BDSM fantasy you’re craving for. It’s accessorized with sleek tassels and is made with high-quality material that’s comfortable on the skin.
8Satisfyer Endless Fun
Whatever your gender or relationship status is, you can play this vibe with ease. The Satisfyer Endless Fun is a powerhouse of a vibe, featuring an ergonomic design that can stimulate most erogenous zones. You can use this love toy on your own or your partner’s vagina, clitoris, penis, balls, anus, and nipples. So go ahead, and experience unlimited fun with this premium vibe.
As we’ve mentioned earlier, it’s not easy to play with breasts–it requires more than just squeezes and licks. You need to be in tune with your partner’s body, learn several nipple stimulation techniques, and even become a masseur at some point.
But with enough preparation, practice, and patience, you’ll soon make your lover reach the euphoric orgasms. Good luck!