When we talk about exploring pleasure, we often focus on things like trying new stimulation techniques, switching up sex positions, or experimenting with sex toys. But truly tapping into your erotic self goes beyond just the physical. It also means understanding what really makes you tick—and no, we’re not just talking about sexual fantasies.
Ask yourself: what kind of scenarios turn you on more than others? What type of energy excites you in the bedroom? What vibes feel most natural and pleasurable for you?
That’s where the Erotic Blueprint comes in. It’s a groundbreaking concept created by Jaiya, an award-winning sexologist and bestselling author. Her Erotic Blueprint helps people understand their sexual language, helping countless individuals and couples enhance their sexual experiences.
What is an Erotic Blueprint?
In her interview with Goop, Jaiya described the Erotic Blueprint as “a map to your own wiring and your own turn-on.” Much like Gary Chapman’s Love Languages helps explain how people give and receive love, the Erotic Blueprint sheds light on how individuals get turned on and what fuels their sexual desire.
Once you discover your Erotic Blueprint, you can begin to adjust your surroundings, the types of sexual activities you engage in, and even how you connect with your partner in the bedroom. It allows both you and your partner to better understand and meet each other’s erotic needs.
Each blueprint also has its “shadow” or the negative traits or challenges associated with type; we’ll explain more in the next section.
Erotic Blueprint Types
Now that we’ve got a quick rundown of what an erotic blueprint is, let’s move over to the main types:
1Sensual
If your Erotic Blueprint is Sensual, you’re most turned on when all five senses—touch, taste, smell, sight, and sound—are ignited.
Creating an arousing space is key to unlocking your desires, like transforming your bedroom into a sensual sanctuary—think soft sheets, dim lighting, scented candles, and sultry music. Foreplay is a big deal for you, too.
The shadow side of the Sensual Blueprint is that you might become too focused on the environment. If something isn’t right—like an off-putting smell or an unexpected noise—you may find it hard to stay in the moment. This can lead to getting distracted and losing focus on the deed itself.
2Sexual
If you’re the type who gets easily aroused by seeing your partner naked or when you’re being touched in certain erogenous zones, you most likely align with the sexual type. For you, sex is all about body pleasure, and the excitement kicks in when things are direct, intense, and no-holds-barred—like tearing each other’s clothes off and going right into the action.
You may also find yourself drawn to visual stimulation, whether that’s through watching explicit content or using realistic sex toys during solo play. The visual aspect really helps ignite your senses and amplify your experience.
The shadow side of this blueprint is that you might miss out on the other beautiful aspects of sex, like building anticipation or showing affection. Since you’re mainly focused on reaching orgasm, this can cause some friction if your partner leans more toward the other blueprint types.
3Energetic
If you have this blueprint, you might be more aroused by the buildup than the act itself. It’s the slow burn that gets you… The lingering touch, the pause before a kiss, or smoldering eye contact that says it all. A playful whisper or gentle caress can drive you even wilder than sexual visuals or genital stimulation.
For its shadow, you might feel overwhelmed or turned off when things move too fast. Quick and intense trysts, like what someone with a sexual blueprint might enjoy, don’t really do it for you. You need time to build anticipation, and when that’s skipped, your arousal can take a hit. On the flip side, your partner might get a bit frustrated if they feel like you’re teasing too much without getting to the action.
4Kinky
People with this blueprint thrive in exploring taboos—think BDSM, anal play, roleplaying, and everything in between. You’re adventurous and imaginative, and there’s never a dull moment with you in the bedroom.
Now for the shadow side: because your desires often lean into areas that society still labels as “taboo,” you might struggle with guilt or shame around what turns you on. That inner conflict can sometimes hold you back from fully enjoying your experiences or being open about them, even with someone you trust.
5Shapeshifter
“Versatile” is the perfect word to describe those with the Shapeshifter Erotic Blueprint. You’re turned on by all of the types we’ve talked about—sensual, sexual, kinky, energetic—you name it!
What makes you stand out is your ability to match your partner’s vibe. Whether they’re craving something slow and intimate or edgy and taboo, you’re fully there for it and can easily adapt to their needs.
The shadow of this blueprint is that your strong desire and openness to all kinds of stimulation can sometimes feel a bit much for your partner. Since you’re often down for the deed and always craving more, it might lead to pressure on your partner to keep up with your energy.
How to Know Your Erotic Blueprint
The best way to discover your Erotic Blueprint is by taking the official quiz created by Jaiya herself. The Erotic Blueprint Quiz™ gives you an in-depth look at your unique turn-ons and even includes a 28-page personalized report to help you learn more about your erotic self.
Aside from the quiz, you can also reflect on your own. Try journaling your thoughts after exploring new sensations or touching different body parts. Sometimes, self-awareness starts with simple curiosity.
Once you’ve uncovered your primary blueprint, you can align your experiences and communication to fulfill your desires and create the pleasure you’ve always craved. Click the button below to take the quiz and access the free quiz sample from the Erotic Blueprint Breakthrough.
Takeaway
Since we’re all unique, discovering what truly turns us on isn’t always as straightforward as it might seem. That’s why tools like the Erotic Blueprints are so valuable. They serve as insightful guides to help you understand your desires, turn-ons, and how you experience pleasure on a deeper level.
But here’s the thing… While the blueprint can show you the way, it’s still just that: a guide. It won’t magically transform your sex life unless you actively choose to explore, communicate, and nurture your sexual self. At the end of the day, it’s your responsibility to tune into what your body wants and seek the kind of intimacy that truly satisfies you.
