Throughout the year, we’ve experienced some highs and lows with our sex drives. But is it possible that the cyclical seasons have an impact on it? Well, let’s find out more about this short yet packed guide down below.
Winter (December, January, February)
At least in a Philippine context, winter doesn’t exist. However, the months correlating to it brings a chill, relaxing vibes that has everyone feeling cozy and at home. But then again, it also does bring holiday stress (especially December) and those “winter blues” from the changes in weather, having absent loved ones, and less exposure to the sun (especially if you live farther from the equator).
You can also experience major physical changes, like flaky skin, increased colds and cough (bacteria thrives in the cold and constant social contact from holiday parties), and chills. Such factors can impact your sexual desire, whether it’s too cold to do the deed or you’re simply not too elated to entertain the idea.
If any of the scenarios above resonate with you, yet you still want to have sex, it’s possible. For one, shower sex or bathtub sex provides you with the warmth and closeness you crave during the chilly period. The extra wetness makes things a lot steamier and playful too. Spooning sex is great too when you’re on the lazy side yet still want to get off with your boo.
For those who are LDR, using long-distance toys can definitely get rid of the FOMO. As for the solo players, engaging in masturbation in the tub or shower works just as well, and you can spoon with your chosen love toy!
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Spring (March, April, May)
Spring is associated with revival once the chill is gone. Perhaps Filipinos will miss it because of how hot the weather can get, but it’s also a chance to get playful and creative! Your sweaters can take a backseat for a bit as you start showing off some skin bit by bit.
In line with sexual desire, you may feel more inclined to try something new. If that’s the case, it’s time to do a self-reflection on the sexual acts you have had done. It can be using anal beads, motorboating, whatever it is that you just haven’t gotten the time to do so.
Speaking of new things, sex positions count too. For instance, you want to do a position that involves a backend to work on those back muscles (best if you’re flexible) or a position involving squatting to work on your glutes. Location-wise, outdoor sex for exhibitionism’s sake and to get some fresh air may be a good idea too, as long as you act correctly.
Summer (June, July, August)
This heated season can go several ways. For one, it’s a sexy time when you’re more likely to wear less fabric to let your skin breathe (e.g., shorts, cropped tops, bikinis) and even go on vacation to the beach! Like hello, the sun’s out! There’s a lot more freedom, especially when you go on break. As a result, you want to take advantage of this time and seek out your options. Ehem, sex! Even more so with lesser clothing, it’s only natural to act out on instinct and sleep with them.
Though you gotta be extra cautious if you’re from the Philippines, and this period also clashes with the wet season. Not just that, too much heat can irritate your skin and make you sweat so much, which lowers your arousal levels. And getting wet from the rain and not washing up right after? It’s giving lagnat season instead.
All reminders aside, ideas for summer sex are jampacked. There’s vacation sex, wherein you can hook up with someone or take it as a chance to rekindle the spark between you and your partner. There’s also beach sex if that’s your chosen vacay spot, just as long as you’re both in a private spot away from prying. Just like earlier, having shower or bathtub sex can wash away the heat.
Food play is good too, especially with colder dishes like ice cream and fruit. And oh, playing sex games makes things more exciting, especially when you’re on vacation with other people who are eager and consent to the activities laid out. It can be spinning the board with a bunch of sexy tasks, and wherever the arrow lands, the person has to do it. Another person can be involved in it too!
Fall (September, October, November)
Oh yes, the Ber months! But it won’t have us brr-ing just yet. This season is the perfect balance between the former scorching heat of summer and the latter chill of winter. In terms of sexual desire, you’re more likely to get aroused.
Like think about it: you’re cozied up on the couch and cuddling with your partner, wherein it’s not out of getting warmth alone. But rather, you get to focus more on the intimacy instead of shivering and such. Sure, you can adjust the AC if you live in a tropical country. But usually, the Ber months can get a little colder than usual, and for some, cold sex isn’t ideal.
Moreover, there’s usually a renewed sense of discipline and order that comes with the fall season. Or the ber months, whichever feels right to you. That’s usually because it’s the last hurrah to push forth your goals before a new year comes. Not to mention that December can get too busy as well. In line with discipline and order, getting into BDSM and sensation play is amazing during this time. Switching from dom to sub or vice versa, getting tied up, and even getting blindfolded while feeling various textures on your skin? Yup, sign us up!
Since we also mentioned that fall or Ber months are a balance of hot and cold weather, trying out temperature play works here too. For the former, you may use warm massage oil, warm lubricant, and candle wax (with proper practice and consent). Then, as for the latter, ice cubes, cooled glass dildos, and even ice cream for the extra food play can make ber month sex a lot more thrilling.
Takeaway
It’s highly likely for a lot of us to experience changes in sexual desires based on the ever-changing seasons. Then again, everyone’s sexual desire varies. Don’t feel weirded out if you’re not as horny as expected in one of the seasons. Or that maybe you get super horny during the non-peak ones. Our bodies are unique from each other, and other factors in play affect your sexual desire.
But hey, isn’t it cool that the seasons can impact how aroused we feel? Yeah, it can give a lot of “Eureka” moments from time to time.
And with that, we hope this guide taught you something new today and helped make sense of things going on in your body and in your life overall!
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