Yeehaw! If you haven’t heard of the cowboy sex position, well giddy up because you’re in for a hot, wild ride! And if you’re wondering if it’s linked to the classic cowgirl position, the answer is yes.
So if you’re down to learn more about it, then keep on reading this fun guide!
What is the Cowboy Sex Position?
The Cowboy Sex Position is the reverse position of the Cowgirl, wherein a penis owner is on top of a vulva owner during vaginal sex.
As the latter position makes the vulva owner do most of the work and hold most control, they get a break during the Cowboy sex position. Because this time around, they’re lying down with their legs wide open as the penis owners hovers over them. From there, their penis or even just the tip teases the vulva owner’s clitoral hold and also a bit of their folds.
Then eventually, they enter inside them, mainly downwards. It all depends on the angles, so it’s important to study them and then act accordingly to maximize the experience and pleasure.
The cowboy sex position is very similar to missionary, but both partners’ legs are closed together, which makes things feel tighter.
Modifications of Cowboy Sex Position
While the original way to do this sex position requires a penis owner and vulva owner, it doesn’t mean it can be modified. Keep reading this section to learn more.
1 Vulva Owner – Vulva Owner
To make this sex position work, one of them wears a strap-on dildo and straddles their partner. They’d adjust said strap-on to the liking of the receiving partner while also listening to their own body cues and not straining themselves.
2 Penis Owners – Penis Owner
One penis owner on the receiving end is lying down with their legs wide open while the other, who’s the giver, is right on top of them. The latter would slide their length inside the receiver in their backdoor area, commencing anal sex.
Why People Like The Cowboy Sex Position
Explore the potential reasons for couples to enjoy this bold sex position down below.
1 It’s a fun twist on a classic.
Who doesn’t like being on top and going all cowgirl with their boo?! While that sex position feels very empowering for the receivers, it’s always fun to take a mini backseat and let your partner take the reins for a change. Hence, this sex position exists to keep things more thrilling.
2 It encourages novelty and self-discovery.
Chances are you’ve heard of the cowboy sex position online rather than word of mouth. Well, that’s quite the reality with sex knowledge these days. That’s not necessarily bad, as it encourages learning new things and exploring them in the process. Having an open mind here works hand in hand as well.
Moreover, this unique sex position encourages you to further understand and learn just how far your body can go for sex. Plus, you see more layers of your sexual pleasure than you’ve ever seen.
3 They experience a lot of pleasure here.
While it can take a few tries to get this sex position right, accomplishing it feels rewarding. And by rewarding, there’s a lot of sexual and orgasm bliss. From there, you’d want to do it over and over again. Not to mention, there are lots of hormones released here that add to those feel-good sensations. There’s serotonin, dopamine, endorphins, and oxytocin, to name a few!
Factors to Consider During Cowboy Sex Position
Browse such factors to ponder over in regards to the sex position through this section.
1 Penis Flexibility
Bad Girls Bible mentioned this skill to be important when doing the cowboy sex position as there are various angles involved. Even more so when their penis is “strained downwards while penetrating you” when doing it. But the angle is different and much more manageable unless they’re leaning over you. Regardless, the penis owner must have a good and strong one to make this sex position work. This also applies to a vulva owner using a strap-on dildo.
2 A Good Level of Sexual Experience
This sex position is best for those who are more versed in sex as it requires a lot of body angling and strength. Doing it as a beginner may cause lots of unnecessary discomfort and wrong usage of body parts. In other words, being more experienced in sex is ideal and can save you the pain beforehand.
3 Size of Penis
Given the angles and work needed to make this position, being well-hung may be advantageous. Plus, if you’re into shallowing, or pleasuring the vaginal opening or the first few inches of the vagina, penis size can ensure maximum pleasure.
How to Do This Cowboy Sex Position
Explore the various POVs of this sex position down below.
1 Giving Partner’s POV
This person can lay back and relax with their legs apart as their partner takes on most of the work. They can also be the submissive as they give in to their partner’s demands but also show dominance by telling them what more they want. Any route they choose is a-okay. Alongside this, they’ll be able to tell if their partner is having difficulty entering them. In that case, they can lift their hips up to meet their level.
2 Receiving Partner’s POV
This person hovers their partner on the bed or any cushioned space that can accommodate both of them. They can either slide their length or strap-on dildo forward or backward, depending on what feels good. Their hips are also coordinated here with said length or strap-on dildo.
Whatever angle of entry they choose to do, it should be able to tease and pleasure the clitoral hood of the vulva owner. Or even slightly bump with the penis or balls of their penis owner partner, which also elicits sexual pleasure and bliss.
Helpful Tips to Maximize the Cowboy Sex Position
Make the most of your steamy session with this sex position through our list of tips here.
1 Warm up and stretch!
The Cowboy Sex Position is physical and can get taxing if you’re not using the right muscles and body parts. It can add more discomfort if you have tense muscles to begin with. Hence, doing a short warm-up and stretch can help ease your body into things, even before the foreplay. Sex is a workout, after all, so you should treat it as such to reap more benefits.
2 Maximize your foreplay.
Seeing that the Cowboy Sex Position can be tricky and challenging, it’s best not to get into it right away. Like honey, this sex position is not for quickies! Hence, getting started through foreplay and making the most of it can warm your bodies up for what’s to come. Whether it be making out in various positions, oral sex, fingering, handjob, and other non-penetrative sexual activity out there, doing it makes the transition to sex a lot easier and more satisfying.
3 Communicate all throughout the deed.
With a sex position like this one, communication is key to ensuring you’re both on the same page the whole time. It’s also how you express what’s alright and what can be fixed mid-sex so things get better and more pleasurable. Hence, communicating must be a constant so neither of you hold any grudges or secrets against each other.
4 Take your time.
Once you’re all warm and intimate with your partner, it’s time to get into position. If you’re not in your bed yet (or any other cushioned space), be gentle and slow with it. Kiss each other gently before the giver goes on top, and then carefully discard your clothes. Once you’re skin-to-skin, the giver can tease the receiver’s folds before inserting their penis. Adjust it accordingly if necessary, whether the angle feels wrong or you want to try a different approach.
5 Get really hands-on!
The Cowboy Sex Position gives your hands more leeway to do whatever they want. So while penetration is happening, the giver can place their hands on their partner’s clit or any nearby erogenous zone for added pleasure. As for the receiver, they can all do the same or tug on their partner’s hair as a way to show them that you’re feeling oh so good.
6 Incorporate sex toys.
Given that you’re both hands-free, using sex toys is another option to increase the pleasure while having sex in the cowboy sex position. For instance, the giving partner can place a clit sucker on the receiving partner’s nipples to get them a lot more sensitive and hard. Another sex toy a couple can use here is a pair of handcuffs if there’s that desire to hinder the ability of the receiving partner to get freaky and touchy with their partner.
Get super creative here and explore various sex toys that pique your fancy.
7 Use lube!
Regardless of what kind of couple you guys are, adding lube to your sex routine changes everything! For one, it lessens friction during penetration, especially between body parts that don’t self-lubricate. Adding lube here also makes the sex more pleasurable and smooth, keeping the mood up top and o’s mind-blowing. In this scenario, using water-based lube is your best bet.
Takeaway
The Cowboy Sex Position is a thrilling way to switch things up in the bedroom. All while also reliving a bit of a classic sex position. A mix of both can result in pure, orgasmic bliss, but only if both parties equally cooperate and take their time in figuring things out. Other than that, we wish you an enjoyable experience with the cowboy sex position!
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