Some say squirting is the epitome of female ejaculation, while some say it’s just pee. Scientists may be debating about its real nature, but one thing’s for sure, those girls who are lucky enough to experience the bliss of squirting look back at their squirting memory with satisfied grins on their faces. And for good reasons!
When it comes to the most intense ways to reach your climax, squirting is surely up there. While squirting may be a magical experience for a girl, making a girl squirt doesn’t just happen magically. It takes some real skills and a little bit of exploring before you get to that point. Female ejaculation takes time, effort and energy.
We’re not scientists so we’re not here to settle the debate whether squirting is actually female ejaculation or adult bedwetting. But we do have our own share of expertise.
Here’s an easy guide you can use to walk you through the female passions:
1 It starts with the setting
Before you head for the actual action, you first need to get the setting right. When it comes to getting her to squirt, rushing into things isn’t going to help you. It’s not going to be a quickie so you’re going to put more time and effort than usual. But seeing your girl sprawled out in bed, moaning in pleasure and heady with lust, is a huge ego booster and not to mention hot as hell.
2 Get her comfy in bed
If her nerves are frayed, and her mind is somewhere else—worrying about her exams next week, or her overdue bills, or her unattractive underwear—then she’s unlikely to enjoy the sex, much less, reach orgasm.
Relaxation, at least in the mental part, is crucial for female ejaculation. If she’s tensed, she can’t fully process the different sensations of the stimulations you’re giving her. Which means, no matter how good you’re eating her out, it’s all for naught because she’s way too busy fretting. You need her to be in the moment, enjoying every tongue action and every caress you’re giving her.
So how do you make her ease up during sex? There’s really nothing like a sensual massage to get her soft and mellow. It works even better if you’re using a scented massage oil just to add in aromatherapy for good measure. Make your strokes slow and long, nothing too forceful, just enough pressure to get her to relax her muscles and calm her mind. Make sure you knead her sensitive spots to make her more sensitive and responsive to your touch.
3 Use everything you know to get her super horny
Once she’s relaxed and settled in, you can now put your foreplay skills into use. Be as creative as you want here. Go wild. Fondle her breasts, lick her nipples, blow hot air on her neck, nibble her earlobe. Go down on her and suck on her clit. Bite her inner thighs till she’s rolling her eyes at the back of her head and squeezing your head with her legs. Again, you don’t want to rush her. Take as much time as you need. As long as she’s melting and taking in the moment, you’re definitely at the right track.
4 Long sharp nails are a no-no
This really goes without saying. Making your girl squirt or reach female ejaculation involves you inserting your fingers inside her vagina. You don’t want your nails to be sharp when you’re playing inside her. You may end up nicking and hurting her. So trim those nails immediately. Cut them super short and file them too just to be safe.
5 It can be messy so use a towel or cloth underneath
If you’ve watched squirting porn before, you’re probably imagining a strong rush of fluid shooting out of the vagina (it even fogs up the camera sometimes). Don’t believe that. It’s mostly fake and usually involves douches. What’s true, however, is that there’s going to be liquid. Whether it’s gushing out or simply trickling down, is going to depend on your girl. So you may wanna prepare a towel or cloth underneath beforehand if you don’t want to make a sloppy mess on your sheets.
Remember to keep in mind these 4 key pointers. From here on out, you’re going to learn about the proper squirting techniques that are going to make you a master in female ejaculation.
Squirting techniques to get her crazy in bed
1 Make sure she’s nice and wet
Before you slide your finger in her vagina, make sure your fingers are lubricated enough. If you took the previously discussed pointers to heart, she should be nice and wet for you by now. You can use her own arousal for an all-natural lube. Or you can always use store-bought lube. There are some great ones out there that don’t contain harmful irritants and are therefore super friendly on your girl’s intimate parts.
2 Hit that G-spot and never let go
The G-spot is essential for female ejaculation. When hitting her G-spot, it’s going to be all about internal pressure. You can do so by stimulating her G-spot with your fingers. It’s only 1-3 inches deep so there’s really no need for deep penetration. First, insert two of your fingers, push as far back as you can. Curl them inwards but only slightly and feel for the G-spot. You’re going to know it’s the G-spot because it feels like a moist raspberry. Once you find it, don’t let it go. Press on it as if you’re pressing a button, or slightly curl your fingers in a come hither motion, with increasing speed and pressure. You can also use sex toys that are specifically designed to easily locate and stimulate the G-spot. They are called G-Spot Vibrators.
3 Double the pleasure—stimulate her G-spot and clit
To take it up a notch, it’s time for you to include her clit as well. The double stimulation is a sure winner in attempting to reach female ejaculation. While your one hand is busy with her G-spot, let your other hand play with her clit. Or you can ask her to rub it herself while you help her with the G-spot.
4 Crab sex position and jockey position are your best bets
The crab sex position is similar to that of cowgirl position, which you’re probably more familiar with, except that she’s arching backward and supporting herself using her hands beside her. It’s a position that gives her a lot of control. The jockey position is a variation of the doggy style. Not only does it give you a fresh view but it also lets you be in total control as you straddle her from behind while she lies down on her stomach. In this position, instead of just thrusting inside, grinding is a much better way. Both positions allow you to stimulate her G-spot easily with increasing pressure. As you keep rubbing on her G-spot, she’s going to come closer and closer to her squirting orgasm.
See was that hard? Female ejaculation takes just a bit more effort but we assure you it’s all worth it.
Frequently Asked Questions
1Is the liquid that comes out during squirting the same as pee?
No! While it may contain a bit of pee because the liquid comes out of the urethra, the liquid itself is not actually pee.
2Can all women squirt?
All women squirt, but not all women squirt with the same intensity. Some will produce a fountain, while others will release just a little more liquid than usual. Don’t compare yourself to the people and actions you see on the internet.
3Me and my partner have been trying, but I still can’t squirt!
Stop putting so much pressure on yourself. A big part of being able to squirt is being relaxed and completely trusting your partner. It takes a lot of faith in your partner to relax your pelvic muscles enough to let the liquid release. So breathe and enjoy the moment instead of having sex with the pressure of squirting.
4Do squirting and orgasm go hand in hand?
No, not really. Orgasm is a bodily reaction to extreme pleasure, while squirting doesn’t necessarily act and is merely a knee-jerk reaction to certain sensations. Banish the idea that squirting is the height of expression of pleasure.
5Do you need to have a vagina to squirt?
Yes. Biologically, the physiology of the human body is different and trans women are not made to have that biological reaction. There are still, however, a multitude of ways you can express your sexual pleasure.
Making your girl squirt or reach female ejaculation may take a few trial and errors. But you can get there faster if you’re open to each other and have no problems giving each other feedback. Ask her what positions she enjoyed best or how she like her G-spot stimulated. Knowing what she wants and how she wants it can improve your squirting skills significantly. Also, keep in mind that not every girl is a squirter. And like we’ve said before, what you’ve seen from porn, where there’s a strong gush of fluid coming from her vagina, is usually fake. So don’t expect the same. At the end of the day, it’s all about having fun and giving your lady the pleasure she deserves.