If you haven’t tuned in to the new season of Bridgerton, you definitely should. Once again, it’s another sibling of the Bridgerton family (Benedict specifically), with all sorts of interesting events in between that even Lady Whistledown can’t keep up with. More specifically, the rather intriguing dilemma Francesca faces within her sexual journey, especially as a wife to Sir John Kilmartin. Let’s delve deeper into this topic here.
What You’ll Learn
- Pinnacle 101
- Francesca and Pinnacle
- Lessons Learned
What is a Pinnacle?
Francesca’s Journey With Sex
Let’s start with the first sex scene of Francesca this season. It was light and romantic, sheets covered their genitals. Clearly, they’re in love. But as they finished (or at least John did), he asked her if he reached her pinnacle. Even clueless and feeling empty (while physically, the deed was enjoyable), she said yes. From there, that became one of those moments wherein sex may be a lot more than just love. And that love may not be enough. It was then accompanied with worry as they’ve been married for a year and not have not borne an heir. But with sweet John, he reassured her. As he always does.
But also, it deepened Francesca’s curiosity for more knowledge. Specifically, the pinnacle.
Historically, noble women were not educated on this aspect of marital life and as a duty as a wife. This leaves them conflicted and less aware of their body when they do get married. And even if they ask, they probably won’t get the answers they expect. It goes in contrast to the noble men at the time, who went to brothels and similar places to engage in the deed for their own pleasure and gain knowledge on how to please their future wives in the bedroom.
Back to Francesa, her urge to know more led her to Penelope, who was very much in love with Colin. Her fresh afterglow from carriage sex prior to their double ice cream date initially made her think that Francesca would relate and understand the tardiness. However, it only made Francesca more confused. And as Penelope explains, it fueled Francesca to learn more. Even going to her home to ask questions (before Eloise naively barged in), and inquiring her own mother about the matter.
Seeing how awkward the topic it was for mother and daughter as Violet stuttered and kept changing her words to make the topic a lot lighter to discuss, it only proves how sex is not an ideal topic for ladies to discuss.
But also at the same time, Francesca became bolder with how she approaches John and initiates a spicy time. While this is a great way to explore your desire, the line is drawn when it comes to pinnacles. Under the impression that you should be loud (and with Francesca still lacking knowledge), it led to fake pinnacles. Yes, fake orgasms. And John clocked her on that, which finally made her open up her concerns. He reassures her, comforting her that they go at her own pace and that they have all their life to try and learn about each other.
And while it improved their lovemaking, there’s still that hidden battle between Francesca and her feelings towards Michaela, John’s cousin. The plot thickens, and there’s more to unravel for her story in the future.
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What We Can Learn From This
A lot, really.
For instance, there’s more to sex than just reaching pinnacles. While Francesca has the purest intentions to learn more about it, reaching a pinnacle isn’t the only goal in sex. In fact, sex shouldn’t be goal-oriented! Sex is to bond with your partner, be in touch with yourself, and for many other reasons.
Another is that people pleasing in the bedroom is not cute. While hers was more subtle from the viewer’s perspective, it doesn’t make it right. If there’s something you don’t know or want to bring up to improve the sex, you have to speak up. That’s where open communication with your partner comes in handy. While this may appear like a confrontation to most, it’s better than having unsatisfying sex in the long run. Besides, you owe it to give yourself the best, and your partner wouldn’t know what best is unless you tell them.
Lastly, let yourself be curious, ask questions, and explore! In modern times, there are more open discussions about sex. If anything, we are a lot luckier that we can get answers right away and not get judged (unless you ask the wrong person). Regarding Francesca, if you feel something different towards someone, it’s worth exploring. Even if it may not be acceptable, you owe it to yourself to live life as your authentic self.
Summary
- Francesca is a great representation of sexually naïve people who are eager to learn more about it.
- Sex is a vast world to explore, and it’s more than just pinnacles.
- People pleasing in the bedroom only puts your own needs and desires aside, affecting you in the long run.
- Communication is key, no matter what era you’re in.
- Normalize equal sex education for everyone.
