Disclaimer: This article reports on a penis going soft during sex or losing erections during sex. All of which were thoroughly researched in various medical resources online. This is not a substitute for direct consultation with a doctor. Seek help from a medical professional if you’re experiencing a severe case of this condition.
There’s no bigger turn-off or mood killer than when your penis goes soft during sex. Or in other words, losing its erection just as things were getting hot, with little to no chance of getting it up for the time being. Because even if you do other sexual, non-penetrative acts, it may not feel the same to most. Such a situation is a type of erectile dysfunction.
With that in mind, let’s discuss the potential reasons for a penis going soft during sex. That way, you can be more mindful of how you live your life and take care of yourself.
Lifestyle
To be more specific, indulging in vices such as drinking and smoking goes against erections. Though with the former, a light to moderate amount is okay. It depends on the person’s tolerance, but it’s best to either not drink or avoid going in excessively. Excessive drinking relaxes your body and messes with your cognitive thinking (ahem, being drunk).
Sure, it feels good thanks to the release of dopamine, but it actually slows everything down. Thus, it becomes difficult to get your dick hard in the first place or maintain it when it does get hard. Drinking alcohol also makes you prone to frequent restroom breaks and dehydration, which affects your blood flow to go through your penis.
As for smoking, it negatively impacts your blood flow and vessels to go to your penis. It can even make you less aroused, making it more difficult to get it up.
All in all, these vices can affect your overall health, which affects your genital health as a result.
Physical
Some medical conditions can cause or lead to erectile dysfunction. Given that it’s a blood flow issue, underlying conditions like hypertension, type 2 diabetes, and heart and blood vessel disease to contribute to ED.
But don’t assume just yet! It’s key to see a medical professional, like a urologist, if you’re noticing any erectile issues.
Taking certain medications also meddle with your penile health. Hims shared that antidepressants, recreational drugs, antihistamines, and decongestants are some examples. But again, it’s advised to consult with your doctor to make any necessary changes regarding this.
Another reason why your penis became soft is because you already reached your o’. Whether you realized it or not (now that may mean you experienced premature ejaculation), you have to wait until your refractory period is up. This period is the time after you reach an o’ and ejaculate, which varies per person. It can be a few minutes, hours, or even days before you get hard again. The unresponsiveness of your body makes you feel impatient when you want to go for round 2.
Psychological
Feeling nervous before sex is normal. It’s part of the experience, but to let it completely wash over your mind, body, and soul is a different thing. That can be a form of sex-related anxiety, or sexual performance anxiety. You may find yourself heavily worried that you won’t do well during the deed. Your partner might look at you differently, have body insecurities, and more reasons.
But whatever it is, this puts your body in fight or flight mode. All the nerves and stress can unconsciously hinder your blood flow to your penis, keeping or making it soft.
Being diagnosed with mental health illnesses like depression may also affect your sexual health, impacting your erections.
How to Have and Maintain Your Erections
This all boils down to making changes in your lifestyle, getting medical treatment, and consulting with a medical professional (e.g., therapist, urologist).
Lifestyle changes range from choosing healthier food and options, moving your body to get your heart pumping (because an erection is all about healthy blood flow), and avoiding overindulging vices as much as possible. Or just indulging them in general. Talking to your parnter/s about this is also helpful in building transparency and trust, so you’re not alone anymore. You’ll also feel a lot closer and more open to them when those bouts of negativity hit.
For medical treatment for erectile dysfunction, Cleveland Clinic suggests taking oral medications like “sildenafil (Viagra®), vardenafil (Levitra®), tadalafil (Cialis®) or avanafil (Stendra®).”
Then, for healthcare help, a urologist can provide you with personalized advice and treatment by assessing your medical history, conducting physical examinations, and performing diagnostic tests. Another important here is a sex therapist, who can explore the psychological root of your ED by learning about your thoughts, feelings, and more. Your partner may or may not be involved here if you choose so.
Takeaway
Going soft during sex can spark a flurry of emotions, most of them being negative. It can be embarrassment, anxiety, shame, guilt, sadness, and many more. The reasons behind vary from psychological, physical, to lifestyle reasons. However, they can be treated by making the necessary changes to your current life and health status.
We hope this short guide provided you with the needed knowledge and hope into treating ED or a soft penis.
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