Just like any relationship, friendships have deal breakers too. It’s a must actually.
We must know when to draw the line with someone who isn’t benefiting our time and effort and only makes us feel negative about ourselves when we’re spending time with them.
Let’s break down the 7 most vital and key friendship deal breakers that’ll help you filter out or break up with toxic friends.
1 They talk ill of you.
In front of you or behind your back, they always bring you down and do it intentionally too. Whether it’s to make them feel better about themselves or fit in with people, it doesn’t matter to them if they verbally and emotionally hurt you.
Like the audacity, especially if you’re right beside them and they don’t apologize right after!
2 They only come to you when it benefits you.
If you have something that can benefit their status (e.g. connections to their dream job), they’ll only ever put in the work to get close to you to get to their final goal. And if they get it? They just drop you because your purpose to them has been served. In other words, your friendship was mainly rooted on convenience and favors. Such a thing can play mental and emotional games on you.
3 They showcase jealousy or competitiveness towards you.
When you accomplish something, big or small, they don’t congratulate or celebrate with you. Instead, they try to undermine it and point any flaws that came up before you succeeded in the thing as if to . In fact, they’ll feel threatened and do everything in their power to do and be better than you.
4 They peer pressure you.
If there’s something they want to do but you don’t, they’ll really push you to do it. They may even belittle you in the process as a way to give you “bravery”, when really, they’re being selfish.
5 They’re emotionally immature.
Emotionally immaturity can look like not taking accountability for their mistakes, being unable to apologize when necessary because of petty reasons (e.g. their pride and ego), throwing tantrums when they don’t get what they want, and many more. If your friend exhibits any of these signs and it’s consistent, you may want to evaluate your friendship and the standards you currently have and set.
6 Things run one-sided with them.
This sign can go many ways. For instance, you initiate contact and conversation constantly but they don’t try to reach out to you on your own. Not once.
Then when they need you, you’re there. But if it’s you who needs a companion? They don’t reciprocate the energy. In other words, you always give and give while they keep taking from you.
7 They always bring negativity in your life.
When you’re hanging out together, they constantly bring up something that angers or saddens them. Like sure, it’s one thing to rant and vent to them when things get tough. But if that’s always the energy with them? It affects your own energy too, draining you rather than empowering as all of this unnecessary drama impacts your overall mood and mindset.
Takeaway
Friendship deal breakers are important when filtering out the good friends from the toxic ones. They also provide a better guide on what specific traits doesn’t resonate with you so you can spare yourself time and effort. Plus, it’s empowering to know what you want in your relationships as you value your social circle and overall being.
We hope this short guide helped you in reevaluating your current friendships and in creating new ones!
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