It’s Valentine’s Day. Your social media is filled with romantic posts and photos from couples. Flowers and heart balloons are all over the city. Chocolates take centerstage in the stores. Your couple friends are busy preparing for their dates, confirming reservations and such.
Everyone seems to be all over the place– except you. You’re single. There’s no reason to do special stuff, right?
Valentine’s Day reminds us to celebrate love, but this day often comes with some serious pangs of loneliness, especially with single people.
Maybe you’re one of them. Maybe you’re not. But whatever you’re feeling, here are 10 reminders that we think you need to hear right now.
1Don’t feel sorry for yourself
Remember, your value isn’t tied up to your marital status. There’s nothing wrong with being single. You’re not broken just because you’re not dating anyone right now.
Instead of sulking, why don’t you celebrate your freedom?
What’s great about being single is that you can do anything. Single people have time and energy to explore friendships, art, scholarly pursuits, religion or hobbies in a way most married people cannot.
So go ahead and live your single life, indulge yourself in things and experiences you’ve always wanted.
2Valentine’s day isn’t an excuse to hate on love
Most of the time, singles on Valentine’s day resort to posting passive memes on how cheesy love can be.
They share memes about how love isn’t that amazing, that Valentine’s Day is just a way for businesses to earn money and all that blah blah blah.
Don’t be that person. No one will benefit from unpleasant remarks about love, not even you. If you caught yourself with some negative thoughts, shift your mindset. Remember, bitterness isn’t sexy.
3You don’t need a partner to celebrate love
Love comes in different forms. If you want to celebrate it with your family or friends, go and have fun! Celebrate the love you have for them. Have some exquisite dinner with your parents. Stay over at your bestfriend’s house. Explore that newly-opened museum.
Valentine’s day is not just about romantic love. Don’t stop yourself from celebrating V-Day just because you don’t have a romantic partner.
4You can be your own Valentine
Didn’t receive gifts at all? Treat yourself instead. Get those lovely flowers. Buy some chocolates.
Treasure the relationship you have with yourself. You’ll have more love to give to other people if you know how to fully love yourself.
5You don’t have to go out
Some people are so pressured to go out and have fun during Valentine’s Day. They don’t want people to think that they’re such lonely losers. So they just go out and drink all night, even if all they want to chill in their bed.
Here’s the thing: If you’re comfortable staying in your bedroom with some Netflix on, then go for it. You don’t need to prove anything. Enjoy this day by doing the things that genuinely make you happy.
6It’s still possible to have a last-minute valentine
If no one’s available but you still want to go out, you’re in luck. There are lots of Valentine’s Day activities catering to singles.
Go on speed dating events, gigs or club parties. Who knows? Your valentine could just be chilling on these events.
7You’re not missing out on as much as you think
You get gifts. You go out and have some dinner. Then you make love.
All of these things can still be done on any day– okay maybe not the make-love part. But so what? There are love toys for that. *wink* The only difference with this day is that chocolates and flowers are pricier than usual.
If you’re seeing valentine surprises on social media, don’t get swayed too much with the hype. Love is not about grand gestures.
If you’re with someone who truly loves you, everyday is Valentine’s day.
8Your exes are still sh*t
For some, this day can make them romanticize their previous partners. They may have remembered how their partner did this amazing surprise from last year’s Valentines. Maybe their ex gave them an expensive Valentine gift. Maybe they had the most romantic dinner date.
It’s okay to miss your ex. It’s normal to remember some beautiful memories with them.
What’s not okay is making yourself miserable by filling your thoughts with someone you’ve ended terms with. Remember the reasons why you’ve broken up. Remember the pain that your ex has caused you. You’re no longer in love with them, you’re just lonely right now. Divert your mind to other things, sweetie.
9You’re saving a lot of money
If only your wallet can talk, it’s probably thanking you right now.
Valentine’s day comes with a lot of expenses. Imagine the money you’ll spend on new clothes, haircuts, food, flowers, chocolates, gifts, tickets, etc.
Thankfully, you’re single and don’t need to spend that much. Cheer up, your singlehood is helping you save up some cash for the future.
10Valentine’s day is just a day– release the pressure.
In the end, Valentine’s day is just a day. You don’t need to do anything special. Stop stressing out or questioning your self-worth because of a holiday.
Want to stay in and have some tea while watching Sex Education on Netflix? Sure, get some popcorn while you’re at it. You do you, boo.
Life is a continuous cycle between loneliness and love. We are capable of love because we know loneliness, and we know loneliness because we are capable of love.
So instead of sharing bitter tweets, dusk off the negative feelings and fill your heart with hope. It takes strength to pick ourselves up and believe good things are yet to come.
Maybe by next year, someone will see that hope in you. Until then, keep on believing. Happy Valentine’s day!