Calling all cunnilinguists! If you haven’t heard of the Kivin method yet, you might be missing out on giving your partner some next-level pleasure.
The name might sound complex, but once you get the hang of it, you’ll probably wonder why you haven’t tried it sooner. But no worries—it’s never too late to step up your oral game! We’re breaking down all the deets so you can master this technique, plus some extra tips to make going down even better.
What is the Kivin Method?
The Kivin Method is a cunnilingus technique where the giver licks side to side instead of the usual up-and-down motion, giving the “k points” of your vulva or the small bumps on either side of the clitoral hood some much-needed attention.
To do this, the giver and receiver must be perpendicular to each other. Some swear by it as the “holy grail” of pleasure, while others just enjoy adding it to their oral playbook.
Its origins trace back to a 2003 issue of The Atlantic, in an article titled ‘Sex Week at Yale’ by Ron Rosenbaum. The piece covered the writer’s experiences attending various lectures and discussions on sexual wellness, including a session featuring Judy Kuriansky, a radio show host and author of The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Tantric Sex. The term “Kivin” was mentioned in her book, but Rosenbaum didn’t delve into the details, likely due to its explicit nature, as conversations around sex at that time weren’t as open as they are today.
Benefits
The idea of sideways cunnilingus might not sound groundbreaking, but plenty of testimonials online rave about this technique. Here’s why people love both giving and receiving it:
1It can stimulate other areas of the vulva.
Classic cunnilingus often focuses on the clitoris, leaving other parts of the vulva, like the labia majora, labia minora, K points (the sides of the clitoris), and perineum, without much attention. With the Kivin method, the giver’s tongue naturally moves up and down while positioned sideways, allowing them to stimulate these often-overlooked areas.
2You’ll get to try a new approach to cunnilingus.
One of the best things about the Kivin method? It’s something fresh! Adding new techniques to your bedroom plays is always a good idea. Not only is it new and exciting, but it also introduces you to sensations you haven’t experienced before.
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3It can help you or your partner climax more easily.
Some sexual wellness resources suggest that the Kivin method can help someone reach orgasm faster than traditional cunnilingus. While there aren’t scientific studies to back this up, plenty of testimonials from receivers and sex educators swear by its effectiveness.
How to Do It
For those eager to try this method, here’s how to do it. There are two key steps: first, getting into the right position, and second, mastering the stimulation.
Positioning
- Ask your partner, the receiver, to lie on their back with their legs slightly spread apart.
- You’ll lie on your stomach, positioned perpendicular to the receiver. Your face is directly over the receiver’s crotch. For better access, lift the receiver’s leg that’s blocking your face and drape it over your shoulder.
Stimulation (For Giver)
- Start with light teases. Glide the tip of your tongue along the sides of the clitoral hood, making slow circular motions.
- Gradually build up. After a few minutes, begin gliding your tongue in an up-and-down motion, increasing the pace as you go.
- Keep a steady rhythm. Once you’ve found a good pace, maintain it—especially if your partner says it feels good or they’re close to climax. Avoid suddenly changing the pace or switching to sucking, as consistency is key!
Additional Tips
Aside from mastering the Kivin method, there are plenty of other ways to level up your cunnilingus game. Here are some extra tips to take the pleasure even further:
1Foreplay is everything.
You know what makes cunnilingus even more intense? A slow, sizzling buildup. Unless your partner specifically tells you to devour right in, take your time with foreplay. Start with soft kisses, gentle caresses, teasing touches, and light finger flicking, anything that gets their body warmed up and craving more.
Don’t also forget to pay attention to their body’s signals. If their clitoris feels slightly swollen and their vaginal opening is moist or wet, that’s a clear sign they’re fully aroused and ready for the main event. Keep the foreplay going until you notice these cues, and you’ll set the stage for an even more orgasmic experience.
2Try stimulating or flavored lubes.
Flavored lubes add a delicious twist to the experience, making licking even more enjoyable— though let’s be real, their vulva already tastes amazing on its own.
And if you want to take things up a notch, stimulating lubes can do the trick. These are specially formulated to heighten clitoral sensitivity, making every lick feel even more intense. Some even provide a warming or cooling effect for an extra layer of sensation. Just be sure to follow the instructions carefully; they contain special ingredients designed to create those orgasmic effects, and using them correctly ensures the best (and safest) experience.
Here are some stimulants and lubricants to check out:
3Don’t forget the other pleasure zones.
With this method, your hands are completely free, so let them explore! Gently tease their inner thighs, run your fingers along their nipples, and slide a finger (or two) inside their vagina. Pay attention to their reactions; if they moan, arch their back, or grip the sheets, you’re on the right track.
4Guide your partner or ask them along the way.
Though the Kivin Method is a great way to switch up oral sex, it’s not a one-size-fits-all technique. Some women may absolutely love it, while others might not find it as pleasurable.
For the givers, check in with your partner as you go. Ask what feels good, and be open to adjusting based on their feedback. And for the receivers, don’t be shy about guiding your partner—whether that’s giving gentle suggestions to improve the experience or showering them with compliments when they’re nailing it. A little encouragement goes a long way!
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5Add some sex toys to the mix.
Going down on someone might seem straightforward, but let’s be real—your tongue and jaw can get pretty tired, especially if you’re at it for a while. To take some of the pressure off and keep the pleasure going, why not bring in some love toys?
A mini vibrator, clitoral vibrator, or clit sucker can give the clit some extra love while you focus on your technique. Want to take it up a notch? Try using an egg vibrator, classic vibrator, dildo, or vibrating dildo to stimulate the G-spot while you’re mouth is busy stimulating your partner’s vulva. The combo of sensations can make your partner climax even faster!
Recommended Sex Toys
For those looking to spice things up with some sex toys while trying out the Kivin Method, here are some of the best clitoral toys that are tried and tested by our clientele. You can also click here to check out the full range of clitoral toys available in the shop.
1Satisfyer Twirling Pro
When it comes to clitoral stimulation, the Satisfyer Twirling Pro truly lives up to its name. This versatile toy combines two powerhouse features in one: a tip vibrator and an air pulse stimulator (aka clit sucker). The air pulse stimulator delivers contact-free pleasure, mimicking the sensation of cunnilingus, while the vibrator’s slim, precise tip lets you target different areas of the vulva with ease.
And the cherry on top? It’s app-controlled, meaning you can explore endless ways to play and customize the experience exactly how you like it.
2SVAKOM Mini Emma Neo
This compact wand massager may be smaller than the average wand, but it can certainly pack a punch!
The SVAKOM Mini Emma Neo features premium-grade motors that deliver deep, rumbly vibrations. It’s app-controlled, offering multiple ways to play, but if you’re not in the mood to use your smartphone, it also comes with pre-set vibration modes and an intelligent mode for effortless pleasure. Plus, SVAKOM is known for its whisper-quiet toys, making this a perfect pick for discreet fun.
3Lovense Exomoon
If you and your partner love to travel and want to bring some naughty fun on the go, you need to check out this bestselling mini vibrator from Lovense! At first glance, it looks just like regular lipstick, but press that small button at the base, and you’ll be met with deep, powerful vibrations. And just like the other toys on this list, it’s app-controlled, so you can use it however you want.
4Satisfyer Threesome 2
If you’re looking for something unique, the Satisfyer Threesome 2 is a must-add to your collection. Designed with three flexible vibrating arms, this toy delivers exciting new sensations to the clitoris and can also be used on other areas of the vulva and even the nipples. While it doesn’t have app-enabled features, it offers 12 vibration modes, all optimized to give you a fresh and thrilling experience.
5ROMP Lipstick Clit Sucker
If you want a discreet clit sucker that’s easy to bring along for those steamy meet-ups, this one’s a winner! The ROMP Lipstick Clit Sucker features a vibrant, playful casing that looks just like a quirky lipstick. It offers 7 intensity levels, comes with a hygiene cap for safe storage, and is IPX7 waterproof.
Takeaway
Whether you’re looking for a more effective way to make your partner climax or want to expand your cunnilingus skills, the Kivin Method is definitely worth a try.
As mentioned earlier, it’s not a one-size-fits-all technique. Some may love it, while others might not be into it. That’s why communication is key! Check in with your partner, explore different techniques, and experiment to find what works best.
