Mastering the art of breast play (or boob play informally) is no easy task. Massaging and sucking them for a few seconds wouldn’t cut it. If you want to give your lover the immense sensations that they deserve, you need to learn the best ways on how to play with breasts.
You’re probably chilling in your room, reading the opening text, and thinking: “Does this activity even a big deal? It’s just part of the foreplay; my partner would surely prefer getting on the f*cking part…”
Yes, it does matter. Most people think that you only play with breasts as a teaser to the main event, aka sexual penetration. However, as long as you put enough attention and stimulation to your own or your lover’s breasts, it could be the main thing. On top of that, you can even get crazy nipple orgasms that just add up to breast pleasure!
The breasts, specifically the areola and nipples, are considered an erogenous zone as they are rich in nerve endings. Not only that, but a study has shown that the sensations that you’ll feel from nipple stimulation travel to the same part of the brain as sensations from your genitals. So yes, nipple orgasms are possible.
So you’re probably wondering right now… “Okay, this seems interesting. I want my partner to be quivering in ecstasy when I play with their breasts. How would I do that?”
Well then, settle down, as you’ll be taking a lot of notes from this guide. We will show you how to play with breasts in a fun and pleasure-filled way. You’ll be learning a step-by-step guide in breast play, some basic massaging techniques for breasts, nipple stimulation methods, breast play and nipple play tips, and the best sex toys for breast play and nipple.
Exterior Anatomy of the Breast
Before we move on to the guide, you must know the external parts of the breast. By understanding each part’s location and function, you’ll have a clear idea of which areas to focus on.
Though the size and shape of breasts vary from person to person, all breasts are made up of the same parts. Here are the key exterior parts of the female breast.
Skin – This is the larger, more prominent part of the breasts. The skin surrounding the breasts contains the other parts of the said organ, such as the areola, nipples, and Montgomery glands.
Areola – It’s a circular area around the nipples and surrounding skin with darker pink or light brown color.
Nipple – It’s the protruding tip with several small openings that allow breast milk to flow from the breast. This is also the most sensitive part of the breasts and known as the key to experiencing a nipple orgasm.
How to Play With Breasts
Ready to give your lover the *steamy lovin* that they deserve? Here’s the step-by-step guide on how to play with your partner’s breasts. Read on!
1Communicate with your partner first.
Before engaging in this sultry act, it’s best to ask your partner first if they’re interested or not. Some people, particularly the gender non-conforming peeps, have complicated feelings about their chests. Some people love getting their breasts played. However, some may not be interested at all or have specific requests when receiving one.
Once you’ve got your partner’s consent, discuss each other’s expectations, desires, and limits. Ask your partner if they’re also open to getting their nipples nibbled, licked on, etc. and/or having a nipple orgasm. You can also explain some of the stimulation techniques that you want to try on them.
We get that you want to keep things unpredictable and surprising. But you can do just that without putting them in discomfort by experiencing something that they disagreed with (because it was never discussed in the first place).
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2Set the scene.
If you want your lover to fully experience the pleasing sensations from breast play, setting the mood is a must. Make sure that the space you’re in is free from distractions. Light up some scented candles. Dim the lights if possible.
Besides preparing the space, you can also set the scene by teasing your partner over the phone. You can send some sexts, saying how you’re excited to play with their breasts, how you want to savor every inch of their body, how you can’t wait to make them cum– you get what we mean? Make your partner get hella excited for the deed.
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3Start with a steamy makeout session.
We know you’re so excited to massage those boobies… but hold it in, okay? Making your partner aroused is a crucial step. Jumping directly to breast play without your partner’s arousal will result in discomfort on their end.
Start the intimate sesh with slow and soft kisses to your partner’s lips. After a few seconds of teasing pecks, you can then deepen it, sending fiery sensations to their mouth. Gently pull away after a few minutes and start kissing their ears, neck, and other erogenous zones– except for the nipples and their genitals. Make them crave for more.
4Give your partner’s boobies a massage– don’t focus on the nipples yet!
As you kissed their sweetest spots, you can hear the light moans coming from your lover’s mouth. This may get you so thrilled to flick, lick, and suck your partner’s nipples– but take it slow, pal. We’re just getting started.
Grab a bottle of sexual lubricant or massage oil, squeeze its contents into your palm, and start massaging your partner’s breast. The difference is sensual massages to nipple play is that– you guessed it right– it’s not focused on the nipples. With a breast massage, you’re merely touching the whole playing field.
When doing sensual massages, avoid roughly groping your partner’s breasts. Don’t also squeeze and make *honking* noises– we get that you’re just trying to joke around, but that might only ruin your partner’s sexy mood, and you could even get offended by it.
If you’re unsure of how to massage your partner’s breasts, don’t worry, as we have some of the basic techniques below. Just scroll to the next section of this guide!
5Gently play with their nipples with your fingers.
After a few minutes of giving them a sensual massage, you can now go over this play’s “main event.” As we’ve mentioned, the nipples are rich in nerve endings. In turn, experiencing a nipple orgasms isn’t so far off from getting an o’ from any type of breast play. So if you want to light up some orgasmic fireworks to your lover’s body, this is the part that you should be focusing on.
To play with their breasts, specifically with their nipples, put a few squirts of lube or massage oil to your fingers, then start giving circling motions on their areola. As much as possible, keep your finger(s) away from their nipples– let it gradually make circling motions around it.
Your finger(s) will then gradually make circling motions toward the nipples. Keep the action going until your finger(s) reach the top of their nips. Make light taps on the nipples for a few seconds, then slowly turn it into a rubbing or flicking motion. Remember, nipples are hella sensitive, so don’t pressure when flicking or tapping the said area.
If you want to learn more nipple play methods, scroll down and check the section after the massage techniques.
6Use your tongue.
By this time, your lover probably couldn’t contain themselves. They’re probably moaning your name, closing their eyes, and feeling all the pulsating sensations.
It’s time to make things a lot steamier. As you keep on stimulating their nipples with your finger(s), put your face right in front of their boobs. Slowly remove your finger from one of the breasts, and replace it with your lips. Give light kisses to it. As for the other boob, just keep your other finger(s) in there.
After a few seconds, start giving some sultry licking to your partner’s nipples while you start rubbing the other nipple again with your finger(s). Suck it up with so much enthusiasm. Give some gentle nibbles to it. After that, move on to the other nipple and do the same things you’ve done on the previous one.
7Keep things slow and steady; observe their reactions.
At this point, your partner is having a blast as they’re receiving oral and finger stimulations on their boobies. Now, you don’t have to switch things up during this time; keeping things steady is the key if you want your lover to experience a nipple orgasm. Same with G-Spot or clitoral stimulation, you need to build the sensations to get that sweet release.
While stimulating their nipples, it’s essential to observe their reactions to it. Check their breathing. Listen to their moans. Are they comfortable? Getting bored? Being in pain? Having the time of their life? This will provide the basis for switching the stimulation techniques, putting more lube, using a sex toy, or moving on to other sexual acts.
Once they’ve reached the big O, congrats! You’ve now learned how to play with breasts. On the other hand, if you haven’t made your lover cum through boob play, still give yourself a pat on the back. It’s normal for beginners to not master it right away. Just give it a few tries, and you’ll surely make them reach those euphoric orgasms soon.
Massage Techniques for Breast Play
As we’ve mentioned in the previous section, giving your partner a sensual massage before playing with their breasts is essential. Not only that it arouses them, but it also keeps them relaxed throughout the deed.
Keep in mind that there’s no right or wrong way to massage and play with breasts. But if you really want a guide for this, then we gotchu, pal. Here are the basic breast massaging techniques.
1Circular Rubbin’
Have your partner lie down at their back. As you sit beside them, put a few squirts of massage oil or lubricant to your hand. Place four fingers on top of each breast, applying gentle pressure to it. Start massaging the area outside the areola– slow circular motions. You will then gradually move inside the areola.
Avoid touching the nipples, as this technique is supposed to be a teaser for nipple play and a potential nipple orgasm. Once your fingers are close to the nips, keep on making circular motions but moving outside the areola.
2Ayurvedic Massage
This method is pretty similar to the previous one, but for this technique, you’ll be massaging not only the breasts but the armpits and breastbone as well.
Just have your partner lie on their back while you put some massage oil/lube in your palm. Place four fingers on top of each breast and make circular motions with it. Just apply gentle pressure on it, don’t put so much weight into the massage unless your partner asks you. After that, you can move on their breastbone and armpits, making the same circular motion.
By doing this method, you’re not just teasing them on what’s about to come; you’re also helping them release the tension on their bodies. Take note though, ask them before the deed if they’re comfortable with getting massaged in the armpits or breastbone.
3Rub & Squeeze
With this technique, you’ll be involving the *hoely* nipples. So if you’re looking for a massaging method with nipple stimulation, go for this one.
Have your lover lie on their back as you sit on their side. Put some lube/massage oil on your palm, and then gently cup their breasts. Wrap your fingers around their boobs, softly squeezing them. After a few seconds, slowly rotate your palms around the entire surface of their breasts.
As you do this circular massage, you may give gentle pinches on their nipples. Just lightly grab your partner’s nipples between your thumb and index finger. Using your sultry bedroom voice, ask them if they want to apply more or less pressure. Follow their preference.
4Four Points Massage
With this massaging technique, we suggest that you familiarize yourself with the previous methods first since there are many motions with this one– you or your partner might get overwhelmed with this.
Once your partner has lied down on their back, place your three lubed-up fingers on your partner’s nipples, then gently push downwards. Apply only gentle pressure to it, or your partner might end up with discomfort on this step.
After a few seconds, lightly massage the breasts with a kneading motion. Do this for about a minute. Just focus on one breast, then rub the other afterward.
Next, cup your partner’s breast, then gently rotate your hands in a clockwise motion. Once you’re done with ten rotations, follow it up with an anticlockwise motion. Do it ten times.
Lastly, put your palms on one of your partner’s breasts. Put it side by side, keeping the nipples exposed. Once it’s positioned, gently push your palms downwards so that the fingers rub against the breast’s side surfaces. As we’ve mentioned, make sure that nipples are exposed– they’re just in the middle of your palms. Keep in doing this ten times, then move on to the other breast.
Thrilling Breast Play Sex Positions
Okay, let’s get into more work towards playing with breasts with these satisfying sex positions here.
1Hotdog Sandwich
Skill Level: Experienced
When you put one and one together, it resembles as such! This breast play sex position is ideal for those who truly love breasts, as it focuses on penetration, especially on the giver’s or penis owner’s end. The receiver gets to press their breasts together here, which can go both ways. It can be tricky if they’re on the smaller side, or a breeze for those who are packing. Moreover, the receiver can also spare a hand to their other erogenous zones to further get off.
How to Do This
- Step 1: The receiver lies down preferably on the bed and places their hands on their breasts, slowly pressing them together.
- Step 2: The giver hovers over the receiver’s chest, holding on to the bedrest. They position themselves by the gap between the breasts and slowly insert themselves.
- Step 3: The receiver may need to push their boobs closer or give more space, depending on the giver, until they both feel comfortable.
- Step 4: For more pleasure, the receiver can touch themselves with their free hand or a love toy.
2Tantra Chair
Skill Level: Experienced
Tantric sex allows you to slow down and truly connect with your partner, matching their sexual energy and being sensual with them. If that’s something you want to try with your partner, this breast play sex position is for you. Whether there’s extra penetration happening or strictly playing with breasts, both scenarios equate to maximum pleasure.
How to Do This
- Step 1: The giver sits on a chair with their legs slightly spread apart.
- Step 2: The receiver straddles the giver and wraps their arms around them while their legs dangle on the chair.
- Step 3: Once settled, the giver’s hands can stay on the receiver’s waist and suck on their nipples or fondle the receiver’s breasts.
- Step 4: If penetration is involved, the receiver can rock their hips back and forth while the giver pleases them.
3Nipple and Chill
Skill Level: Beginner
This, while having a lazy day and watching Netflix with your boo? So worth staying in and giving your breasts some lovin’.
How to Do This
- Step 1: The giver sits down on the couch or any seat (preferably a cushioned one).
- Step 2: The receiver positions themselves on top, facing the same direction. They lean back on the giver’s chest further for more stability.
- Step 3: Once settled, the giver grips the receiver’s waist and may give the receiver neck kisses and/or fondle the receiver’s breasts and nipples.
- Step 4: Bonus points to make it a game wherein the receiver has to train their eyes on the movie or TV show on the screen while the giver pleases them. If they lose, there are kinky consequences!
4Bonding Nips
Skill Level: Beginner
Makeout sessions with your chests out are a game changer. Might as well free the nipple more.
How to Do This
- Step 1: Both the giver and receiver are standing up, naked or not, against the wall or not. However, the former options obviously give them more access to each other’s bodies and stability.
- Step 2: Their chests must get really close before kissing, allowing your nipples to brush, graze, and touch one another.
- Step 3: Mid-makeout, either the giver or receiver can use their fingers to play with the other’s breasts or nipples for added pleasure. In circular, side-to-side, or pinching motions, a couple should learn what feels good for each of them.
- Step 4: As a bonus tip, using love toys on the nipples like a bullet vibrator or clit sucker enhances the entire experience for everyone.
5Full Peak
Skill Level: Beginner
When lying down, your breasts, especially your nipples, are pointing directly upwards. Like talk about full mount! And to do it on a desk? Such a view and position is perfect for a good ol’ nipple sucking and kissing.
How to Do This
- Step 1: The receiver lies down on the bed with their legs bent and spread apart.
- Step 2: The giver slides between the gap with slightly bent knees and leans down with their hands by the sides of the receiver.
- Step 3: The receiver can loop their arms around the giver to pull them closer to the breasts.
- Step 4: Once settled, the giver can lower down further and suck, lick, or flick the breasts and nipples to please the receiver.
6Solo Nipple Missionary
Skill Level: Beginners
No boo? No problem! Give yourself some love and care with this heated breast play sex position. Consider this a great solo date for days you want to stay private.
How to Do This
- Step 1: Lie down on your bed or any flat, cushioned surface.
- Step 2: Put on your chosen nipple love toys, like suckers, clamps, etc.
- Step 3: Once settled (or turned on), feel free to touch other erogenous zones to please yourself.
- Step 4: You may adjust the toys you’re using when you feel a bit overwhelmed or need more power from them.
Okay, Let’s Talk About Nipple Play
Aside from breasts as a whole, nipples are another erogenous zone you can play around with. That’s because it’s filled with many nerve endings. It’s no wonder they get perky and sensitive when you’re aroused too! Some may have a powerful nipple orgasm (or orgasms) from them or even mild ones. Still counts as an o!
So what makes it so fun to play with nipples? When your nipples get aroused, they send a message to the genital sensory cortex. It’s the same part of the brain that’s in charge of genital stimulation. So when you play with your nips, you’re basically sending a signal to your brain as if your genitals are being stimulated, leading to body-shaking orgasms.
You wouldn’t want to miss out on experiencing a nipple orgasm, right? Well, let’s discuss it further in the next sections.
Nipple Stimulation Techniques
As you’ve learned the different massaging techniques in the previous section, let’s focus more on the nipples and eventually achieve fun nipple orgasm. Here are the nipple stimulation methods that you can do with your fingers or mouth.
1Circling Technique
Works for: Solo Play & Couple Play
To get a nipple orgasm through this method, your fingers will do a circling motion around your nipples. Start with a light touch and a wide circle. Then, as the circle gets smaller, you will put more pressure on the motion. This technique can possibly reach you to climax, but it’s usually used to build anticipation.
2Rubbing Technique
Works for: Solo Play & Couple Play
Once you’ve built the anticipation, start playing with your actual nips through this technique. For this one, you will be rubbing your fingers (or hands) on your nipples. You can rub it up-and-down or side-to-side. As for the speed, we suggest starting with slow rubs then increase the speed later on.
3Pinching Technique
Works for: Solo Play & Couple Play
If you feel more pressure on your nips, you’re basically going to love this technique. For this one, you will simply pinch your nipples. The pinch will send a rush of pleasurable sensation throughout your body, making it one of the best techniques to get nipple orgasm. As for the pressure and pinching pattern, we suggest playing around with this and figure out what works best for you.
4Lick & Suck Technique
Works for: Couple Play
You will need your beau for this method. As the name implies, your partner will be sucking and licking your nipples. Let them trace little circles around your areola or give light rubs with the tip of their tongue. You can also ask them to flat out their tongue for more coverage. Once you’re all hot and bothered with the licking, your partner can then move to do some sucking. As your partner sucks your nipples, your nips will stimulate extra blood flow and can increase sensitivity.
5Nibbling Technique
Works for: Couple Play
If you like it rough, then you will surely enjoy this one. For this technique, your partner will nibble your nipples. The gentle bites will increase more sensation and even lead to a powerful climax. Just make sure to communicate your preferred pressure on this. If you’re feeling more pain than pleasure, let them know.
Breast Play and Nipple Play Tips
As you’ve learned the basics of how to play with breasts and nipple play, we can feel your excitement about trying this frisky act. But before you start talking about this activity with your partner, we suggest checking out these tips first. This will ensure a safe, fuss-free, and fun session with your boo.
1Tease your mind and body first.
Don’t just go straight to breast or nipple play! You need to be mentally and physically ready before getting into action.
For starters, remove any distractions in your head. Let your mind wander off. After that, tease yourself with audio and visual cues. Indulge in erotica and audio erotica. Have a sexting sesh with your boo. Imagine your hottest encounter.
Once you’re all hot and bothered, you can then move to touch yourself—but not on the nips yet! Start with long, deep breaths to help you relax. Using massage oil, start giving sensuous massages to yourself. Play with your other erogenous zones such as your scalp, thighs, and neck. Let the sensations build up first. After playing with your other hotspots, you can now start playing with your nips.
2Ask your partner for their preferences.
Communication is key during sex! Before getting into things, ask them what makes their boobs feel good. Then when you follow their words, take a few minutes to ask for comments. Do they want rougher rubs? Want to try a different type of lube or massage oil? Do they prefer gentle suctions? By knowing their thoughts on the deed, you’ll be able to improve your technique.
3Communicate with your partner throughout the deed.
Some people may get too excited with the boobies that they may get carried away and forget how sensitive they are, so it’s important to guide them through the process. And by guidance, we mean communication!
Don’t let your partner be too aggressive with your nipples; tell them to stop if needed. Remember, nipple play is supposed to feel tingly, pleasurable, and ticklish at times— it’s not supposed to hurt.
4Ask your partner for a breast massage before proceeding to nipple play.
Another great way to warm your body up for nipple play is by having a breast massage first. Ask your partner to massage and caress your breasts; tell them not to focus on the nipples and simply massage the area for a few minutes. Here’s an example, commonly known as Ayurvedic Massage, that you or your partner can use:
This part is for the masseuse/masseur. Have your partner lie on their back. After giving your partner a few minutes of relaxing massages on the other parts of their body, place your four fingers on top of each breast and make circular motions. Keep gentle pressure as you move your fingers on their breasts. After that, you can move on their breastbone, going for the same circular motion. You can also do this massage on their armpits if they’re comfortable with it.
5Don’t forget the dirty talk!
Aside from giving them massages and stimulating the nipples, we also suggest incorporating dirty talk when you play with their breasts. Compliment their boobs– let them know how much you love to hold, lick, and suck them. Showing your enthusiasm with words and actions can serve as a confidence boost to your partner, making them more engaged with the play.
6Use oils, lube, and lotions to spice things up!
Wanting to feel various sensations with each boob play or nipple play sesh? Ramp it up with some oils, lube, and lotions. It can enhance arousal and even makes your nipples more sensitive than usual. For beginners, we suggest using an oil-based lube since it doubles down as a massage oil for sensual massages.
On another note, flavored lubes are a must-have, especially for nipple play! They leave a delicious taste in your mouth alongside making the sesh run smoothly. Invest in affordable yet high-quality lubricants, such as Lauvette’s water-based lubes.
7Say yes to temperature play!
Want to spice up the play? You can use your warm breath or ice cubes as you play with breasts and nipples. This will provide additional sensations that your partner will surely love. You can also try sexual stimulants– these specialized lubes have cooling, warming, or mixed sensations when used. These add-ons can definitely spice up breast play and nipple play, leading to a good breast or nipple orgasm.
8Try getting to the edge!
If playing with ice and fire ain’t your thing, how about trying edging? One of the most popular masturbation techniques for women, edging is when you withhold your orgasm to get more intense orgasms later on.
To do this, just play with your nipples by using the different techniques above. Once you feel like reaching a nipple orgasm, stop touching your nips. Wait for a few minutes to subside the orgasmic feeling, then start all over again. Do this for 2-3 times and then release for a blissful breast or nipple orgasm in the end.
9Experiment with sex toys.
Once you and your boo are experienced with breast play, you can now take it to the next level using nipple sex toys, such as nipple suckers and nipple clamps. You can also use mini or finger vibrators to give your partner’s breast some good vibes. If you’re looking for love toy suggestions, you can check the next section below! Thank us later when you experience a really good nipple orgasm (or orgasms)!
10Practice and memorize what worked.
It’s normal to not experience nipple orgasm in your initial attempts. But instead of quitting and claiming that it’s just some pseudoscience myth, just keep on trying new breast and nipple play techniques. Assess each session and check what works and what doesn’t work for you. And besides, a nipple orgasm can come from a flurry of techniques, so it’s really all about exploring and having an open mind.
11Take your time.
Keep this tip in mind when doing breast or nipple play. If you’re planning to have such sessions with yourself or with your partner, set up an ample amount of time; make sure there are no distractions so you can concentrate. Don’t expect to cum within a few seconds of rubbing your breasts or nipples. You need to warm your body up, make yourself relaxed, massage your breasts for a bit and do similar activities.
12Don’t focus on the orgasm… let the pressure go.
Here’s an important tip that will surely help you get a nipple orgasm. Stop. Thinking. About. Orgasming.
Thinking about when or how a nipple orgasm should feel will result in a distracted mind. Instead of savoring the moment and enjoying the orgasmic sensations that your body feels, you’re just putting unnecessary pressure in your head regarding orgasm; this especially happens when your partner is the one stimulating your nips.
If you really want to reach a satisfying nipple orgasm, then let go… Just think of the activity as something that you enjoy and not just something you’ll reach an orgasm with.
Best Sex Toys for Breast and Nipple Play
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Takeaway
Breast play and nipple play are more than just squeezes and licks, making them challenging to do. That’s because they’re sensitive from all the evident nerve endings. Thus, it’s key to be in tune with your partner’s body, learn several nipple stimulation techniques, and even become a masseur at some point. You may also need to do more breast play 101 and nipple orgasm and play 101 research aside from this guide afterwards.
But with enough preparation, practice, and patience, you’ll soon make your lover reach the euphoric orgasms. May it be a breast orgasm or nipple orgasm.
Good luck, reader!
