Newsflash, you can enjoy being single! It’s time to ditch the notion that single people are always lonely and crying themselves to sleep. Some people even think that the single life is better than being in a relationship. Being single doesn’t mean you’ll have to eat ice cream every day while binge-watching a new series. Whether you’re a newbie or a renowned veteran to this, you can still enjoy the no-strings-attached life!
There are so many things that you can do as a single person. Being single gives amazing freedom to do what you want to do, be where you want to go, and be who you want to be. You can learn and hone new skills. You can experience new things. The key to enjoy being single is to take advantage of your freedom to know yourself more as you decide what you want in the future.
Sure, it can be annoying to always be the third wheel or to keep updating your Tinder profile. Not to mention those eye-roll-worthy comments like “When are you gonna get a new jowa?” or “Haven’t you met someone new yet?” But overall? Single life is an amazing journey that everyone should cherish while they can!
Benefits of Being Single
But before we proceed to the different ways to enjoy being single, let’s discuss why the single life is better for other peeps. Find out why being single isn’t as bad as one might assume and why spending some time without a romantic partner can benefit you.
1You’re free to do whatever you want.
One of the best things about being single is that you’re free to do whatever you want. Want to have a spontaneous vacation at the beach? Want to stay up all night and party with your friends? Do you want to adopt more cats? Go for it! You’re free to do whatever you want. You don’t have to “ask permission” from someone since you’re single.
2You’ll have more time for yourself.
Being in a relationship can take up most of your free time. You’ll be out on dates most of the time, and if you’re not hanging out with your boo, you’re most likely talking to them over the phone. It’s fun, yes, but let’s be real here… It also takes away some of your me-time.
This is why being single is a great opportunity to try out new things for yourself. You’ve got plenty of time to try new hobbies, attend new classes, create more memories with friends, bond with pets, and the like. You can also turn off the phone on your rest days and just sleep throughout the day, no need to update someone as you would in a relationship.
3Focusing on your personal and professional goals will be easier.
Whether you want to lose weight, get promoted on the job, double your business’s profits, you’ll get to do that seamlessly when you’re single. It’s nice to have a romantic partner as an inspiration, but as we’ve mentioned in the previous point, being in a relationship takes most of your time. You can use that extra time to cultivate your personal goals when you’re single.
4You’ll get more savings.
Another great thing about singlehood is that you’ll save more money! You no longer have to spend money on dates, new clothes, and other date-related expenses. You also have to save up for gifts for major days such as monthsaries and holidays. And if you want to spoil yourself, you can do that without jeopardizing your savings since you don’t have additional relationship-related expenses.
5You’ll have a better connection with family and friends.
Another reason why the single life is better than being in a relationship is that you’ll have more time for your friends and family. Since you’ve got extra time in your hands, you can bond over dinner, picnics, movie nights, museum visits, and such. These activities are fun and strengthen your connection with your loved ones.
6You’re free from relationship woes.
Another reason why the single life is better is that your mind is not cluttered with thoughts about the relationship. For real, though, relationships can be mentally exhausting at times, especially if you’re going through a major fight. There’s a lot of assumptions, questions, and other thoughts in your mind, which hinder you from your daily routine and responsibilities. When you’re single, you can kiss those worries goodbye and focus on your goals.
7It’ll be easier to make major decisions.
Another great thing about being single is that making major decisions may be easier. For instance, if you want to move to another province or country for a new work opportunity, you can simply process the papers and move. Of course, your family or friends will be sad about your departure but would also understand your decision.
On the other hand, if you have a long-term partner and you’re planning to move out somewhere far, it’ll be more complicated as your partner may not want to move with you or isn’t keen on being in a long-distance relationship.
This is why before venturing into a relationship, especially a long-term one, make sure to plan out your future goals and discuss them with them as you’ll need someone that is on board with your goals and also has a similar path with yours.
8Being independent can help your personal growth.
Another reason why the single life is better is it helps you improve your personal growth. First, being single allows you to become independent and self-reliant. You’ll have the time to learn more about yourself and your purpose in life and be able to reflect and assess your past experiences. Not only you’ll get to grow more as a person, but it will also help you have better romantic relationships in the future.
20 Ways to Enjoy Being Single
Being single provides you an opportunity to discover things about yourself that you didn’t know before. So live life to the fullest, sweetie! Here are some of the ways to enjoy the single life.
1Pack your bags and go!
Want to fully enjoy the single life? Travel by yourself and see the world! You don’t have to have or wait for a partner to go to your dream locations. See the cherry blossoms in Japan or go visit the Eiffel Tower in Paris. You can do it by yourself.
Solo travel is fun and gives you time for self-reflection. It opens you to new sights and experiences in an entirely different way than traveling with other people. You gain a new perspective on your own unburdened by any group itinerary. Wander the streets without any destination. Get lost in the museums, parks, and cafes. But ultimately, find yourself.
2Do spontaneous things.
Now that you’re single, you can enjoy and do the things you’ve always wanted to do. Get that puppy you’ve always wanted. Nobody is going to stop you. Maybe you can even get yourself a tattoo or those constellation piercings you’ve always raved about.
The point is, you can now make snap decisions without worrying about a partner’s comments or opinions. Those things that your partner finds childish? You can now enjoy that because you’re single. No one will get annoyed by your choices. The only feelings that matter are your own!
3Spend time with your loved ones.
Relationships come and go, but your family and friends are more or less, permanent (at least within this lifetime). Now that you’re single, you can enjoy having more bonding moments with them. Hang out and do things you’ve always planned on doing or go to places you’ve dreamed of going with them.
Being single means that you now have more time and energy to put in your friendships and family. Some studies even show that single people are happier due to the strong and fulfilling relationships that they form. You don’t wanna look back and regret that you didn’t spend enough time with them. So use your time wisely and enjoy the single life with those who matter the most to you.
4Do the things you’ve been putting on hold.
Enjoy being single and do the things you’ve been putting on hold. Read those books that have been gathering dust on your shelf. Watch movies and series you always said you’re gonna watch. We all give the same excuse: I don’t have enough time.
Well now that you’re single and don’t have anyone eating up much of your time, you can do those things. Now that you don’t have a special someone, you can spend it instead on a good book. Or maybe buckle up with your popcorn and ice cream and binge-watch romantic comedies all day. It all depends on you.
5Organize your room.
I know cleaning and organizing isn’t everyone’s idea of “fun”. It’s not the first thing that pops in your head when you “wanna enjoy being single.” But it’s proven to be therapeutic. Why else would Mari Kondo be such a popular figure? Your space is where you spend most of your time.
A messy, crowded room can affect your mood and be more depressing. As such, clean and organize your room to feel better. This time, you don’t have to care what your partner might say. Organize it the way you like. Put things in order. Put your life back together.
6Donate or sell some old things.
As you organize your room, maybe you’ll find things that you no longer need. If they’re from your ex, then maybe you can throw them away or give them back. But if you have other things like old shirts, bags, shoes, etc… that you don’t use anymore but are still in good condition, then maybe you can just donate them.
Another good idea would be to make some money out of it. Have a garage sale or post them online. You’ll not only earn money you can use for other ventures, but you can also meet new people in the process.
7Take up a new hobby.
Don’t just sulk in there and enjoy being single! Maybe you’ve been dying to try scuba diving or knitting. Stop waiting around for nothing. Do it! Try something new and learn a thing or two. Everybody has something that they enjoy doing.
Whatever that is for you, this is your chance to focus on it as much as you want. It’s yours, and you don’t have to share it with anybody. It will not only take your mind off of things, but you will also be equipped with new knowledge and be even more awesome! This is another great way on how to enjoy being single.
8Try a new workout.
Yes, having to sweat buckets may not be how you wanna enjoy being single. But listen. You still have to take care of yourself. While you enjoy being single, take some time to improve yourself too. Go to the gym. Do yoga. Or Zumba. Whatever it is that you’d always wanted to try, do it now. Stop making excuses. Exercise is always good for the mind and the body. It will not only give you more energy, but you’ll also feel better about yourself.
9Invest in sex toys.
Who says you need a partner to have fun? You’re single but that doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy yourself, right? If you’re feeling a little dry then give yourself some love and invest in sex toys. From mind-blowing vibrators to cool glass dildos, there are just so many to choose from. Sex toys can be an awesome way to treat yourself and keep yourself from settling for something less than you deserve. Enjoy your single life and make the most out of your alone time. Please yourself and nobody else.
10Meet new people.
Another way on how to enjoy being single is to put yourself out there. We’re not saying go on dates already. Just get to meet new people and open yourself to different possibilities. Just because you’re happy with your current group of friends doesn’t mean you can’t have more. You don’t know who you’re gonna meet next time. So, put yourself out there. It doesn’t matter how or in what way. Just have fun getting to know more people.
11Go bar hopping.
Enjoy the single by unleashing your wild fun self! No one will get mad at you if you stay out late at night. And no one will question your choice of outfit. So do it. Hang out with your friends and wear whatever you want. Bar hop ‘til you drop. Meet people and flirt all night. No one will get mad (just do it responsibly, okay?) Stay out as late as you want and don’t come home until you’re dead tired from all the fun. The best bit is you can sleep all day. The worst bit is….the hangover.
12Don’t forget to reflect.
It shouldn’t be all fun and games. Make sure you reflect from time to time. Are you happy with what you did today? What do you want to do next time? How can you improve yourself? Don’t be too hard on yourself but also don’t forget that you need to take the time and think about yourself and your choices. Being single is an opportunity to get to know yourself more and connect with your values and thoughts.
13Have dates with yourself.
Another great way to enjoy being single is to have dates with yourself. Go out and shop or window shop in malls. Chill on your own in a coffee shop. Try out that new restaurant by yourself. We get that it’s better to go out with company but having self-dates will also help you enjoy your own presence and become more independent.
14Start a side hustle.
Being single means you have extra time in your hands. So if you want to increase your savings or want to save up on a major purchase, why not try taking a side hustle? You can work freelance or set up your own online business. With so many job postings and business resources available right at our fingertips, you can learn how to start a business or get a new paying gig in no time.
15Pamper your mind and body with self-care activities.
As we’ve mentioned above, you’ll save a lot of money and time when you’re single. This means you can spend more time and moolah for self-care activities, such as having a spa day, self-pleasure plays, and relaxing meditation sessions. Not only are these activities fun, but they’re also good for your physical and emotional well-being. So go ahead and book a spa appointment after reading this guide!
16Try challenges and join events for single people.
Another great way to enjoy being single is by trying out challenges and going to events for single people. Not only you’ll have so much fun, but you’ll get to meet new people, too.
If you’re not in the mood to join single-only events, you can also opt to try online challenges for single people, such as this 30-Day Challenge for Single Ladies or the 30-Day Personal Growth Challenge. These challenges aren’t just enjoyable but can also help you get out of your comfort zone.
17Have casual dates.
Another great way to enjoy a single life is to go on dates… but without the pressure of finding a partner. You can set up an online dating profile right now and just start swiping. You can also ask your trusted friends to set up a blind date for you to spice things up.
Remember that these dates aren’t necessarily to “find love.” Just be casual and go with the flow as you learn about your dates. Not only that, you’ll get to meet someone new and try out new experiences (and possibly sexperiences), it can also give you that confidence boost that was once lost because of your previous relationship. Don’t forget to tell your date that you’re not going for something serious yet for a seamless casual dating experience.
18Figure out your purpose in life.
Another great way to use your extra time is by learning more about yourself. Open yourself to new experiences. Reflect on the past and discover the lessons you can bring in the present time. Ask yourself, “What is my ‘thing?” and “What can I do and offer to this world?”
Some of you may think that it’s too “deep,” but knowing your current self and being able to figure out your purpose in life will help you move forward. Yes, your plans and purpose may change in the future, but it’s better to have a vision of yourself and what you want to do than to never reflect at all.
19Stop snooping on your ex’s (or exes’) social media accounts.
Honestly, this is one of the tips on this list that you should follow; you’ll be able to enjoy being single by following this step.
We’ve all been guilty of this. One day, while you’re waiting for a friend or chilling at home, your curiosity strikes. You remembered dating this person, and now you’re wondering what they’re up to. So you would bring out the phone and secretly check their social media profiles. You will then find them dating someone new or just living their best life. This may then become a trigger for you, thinking that you’re all alone and how much you miss them, etc…
If you want to fully have fun with the single life, stop spending your precious time checking on your past lovers. You need to let go of the past if you want to move forward. Just block them and don’t bother to check up on them again. Once you’re done with the snooping, you’ll get to have more time to create more memories with yourself and your loved ones.
20Change your negative perspective about singlehood.
If you’ve tried most of the “how to enjoy being single” tips on this list and still not feeling a single life, then you may have internal issues about being single. We highly recommend taking some time to reflect and ask yourself:
- “What does singlehood mean to me?”
- “Does being single become synonymous with ‘alone and miserable’ to me?
- “Who influenced my perspective about relationships?”
The questions above are things you might want to ask yourself while reflecting. We also suggest getting the help of a therapist or counselor so that someone can compartmentalize your thoughts and recommend steps that could combat these negative thoughts.
Being single is great. There are so many things that you can do. Yes, it can be lonely sometimes. There are times where you will be alone with your thoughts with no one to share it with but you have to understand, it’s all part of the process. Learning how to be alone is important. It will make you comfortable in your skin and prove to yourself that you don’t need to rely on anybody for your happiness. You can make yourself happy. What you need is you and only you.
Take advantage of the freedom and the many opportunities that come with being single. No matter how big or small, commit yourself to single life and explore the different possibilities. You can do whatever you want, so figure out what that is and go do it! Take advantage of this time and make it count. The best way to enjoy being single is by…being single. Don’t go looking for love just yet. It will come along, and when it does, you’ll be ready for it.