18 Supreme Ways On How To Be Sexy

Learning how to be sexy is quite subjective.

You may be wondering just that as you stumbled (and clicked) on this article. However, it doesn’t hurt to make tweaks (or even have extra building blocks) when your sexy side hasn’t been up to par lately. At least you’re self-aware and eager to try new things that may or may not work. Regardless, there are lessons to be gained here. Lessons about who you are and the uniqueness of your sexy side.

So if you’re ready to get started, here are some ideas worth trying to up your sexiness game. But mind you, you are already sexy. You’re just looking for an upgrade or change in routine here. It also means that you’re working on your confidence.

Let’s go!

1 Go outside your comfort zone.

Doing things that are not in your usual environment or comfort zone makes life much more exciting and meaningful. Well, that’s from the dopamine release from all the novelty you choose to expose yourself to.

In other words, try new things! That’s how you grow and truly learn that there’s more to what your bubble once offered you. Growth comes from discomfort, which comes in varying levels. Hence, you don’t have to instantly overwhelm yourself. You can take your time with it. For example, you’re someone who’s afraid of heights and decided to try rock climbing rather than bungee jumping.

2 Have some solo sexual care.

Masturbation is peak self-discovery, allowing you to know your body more because well, how else can a potential partner would? But back to you, witnessing just how sensitive and responsive you are through sex connects you further to yourself. Like no one can take that special bond away from you no matter what.

In turn, it’ll translate when you have sex with other people because you know what you turns on and what doesn’t. You’re sparing yourself from bad experiences and amplifying your sex appeal. A person who knows what they want in bed? That’s hot.

3 Find your signature fragrance or cologne.

This tip is on par with peak sexiness. Moreover, it’s where you explore and experiment with various scents, from floral, woody, fruity, oriental, and more. It’s all trial and error; no, you don’t need to break bank here when there are various perfumes and colognes at different price ranges. Over time, you’ll find the one (or ones) that just make you feel and smell.

Plus, when people get a whiff of your scent anywhere anytime, they’ll instantly remember you. And that’s so freaking sexy.

4 Get lots of sleep.

Sleep impacts a lot of aspects of your life. If we talk physical, proper sleep makes you look more awake and presentable. Dark undereye circles who? Mentally, it sharpens your focus and lets you work on what needs to be done immediately. Then, emotionally, you’re more peaceful and calmer, as lack of sleep is linked to irritability. Put those together, and being sexy will naturally come.

5 Eye contact, baby!

Not just to your loved ones, but to anyone you’re talking to. Ordering a coffee? Be attentive to the person taking your order. 

While we acknowledge that it can feel awkward, things that are hard to do feel that way at first. But do keep in mind that maintaining eye contact with someone shows that you are present and taking in what you’re saying. It also works on your listening skills. In turn, StyleCaster shares that maintaining eye contact gives people the idea that you are confident and in control of your environment.

6 Fix your posture.

Does a slouched posture seem appealing and approachable? Yeah, exactly.

Not only that, but you’re also giving your back and spine some potential long-term problems.

Hence, work on your posture daily. Be conscious if you’re starting to slouch, especially if you’re sitting down for work. Try to stretch your body as well, from the moment you wake up, while working, and even as part of your unwinding routine at night. Literally, those actions, may it feel small, make a huge difference over time.

7 Try activities that are centered on sexiness.

If you can’t find or activate your sexy side on your own, keep an eye out for special activities that are centered on sexiness. That can range from pole dancing to certain dance classes and more.

8 Accentuate your best features.

If you have bright eyes, put some glittery eyeshadow on them. Regardless if it’s just an average Tuesday. Highlighting your best assets means that you know how to work with what you have. In turn, it comes off as confident and sexy.

9 Pamper yourself!

There are many ways you can do this tip on how to be sexy. May it be with or without splurging lots of money. Rather than dividing each subpoint into main points, we combined them here to show that improving your outward appearance is not the only way to be and feel sexier.

For those who want to spend, this can look like getting your hair, nails, and lashes done. Having a massage and facials also counts.

Then, for those on a budget, it’s all about DIYs. DIY facials, nails using press-on, borrowing someone’s hairdryer if you don’t have one, learning how to put your own falsies, and even using face sheet masks.

Whatever route you choose, pampering yourself makes you feel so much better about yourself and more confident.

10 Bank on your knowledge.

Because knowledge is sexy, baby! Whatever topic intrigues you, do some research on it. Studying about them, like reading books or taking online and offline courses, is also recommended.

11 Make use of physical touch.

But of course, be proper and time it right. You don’t want to give our weirdo vibes.

But besides the point, physical touch as a way to capture someone’s attention (specifically someone you’re interested in) makes you more sexually appealing to them. For instance, they make a really good joke, and your fingers brush on their arm. Or maybe a gentle graze of your hands on theirs before saying goodbye.

Starting small builds up into something bigger, making you hard to resist.

12 Block or unfollow people whom you don’t resonate with.

This tip on how to be sexy is so versatile. But literally, being sexy means curating an online newsfeed or timeline that uplifts you. They’re basically fans of you and what you’re working towards. 

While you don’t necessarily have to unfollow your loved ones, you have to be more conscious of who and what you want to see on social media. If there’s an influencer whom you’ve randomly followed in the past who’s just bringing you negativity, then that’s your sign to let them go.

13 Acknowledge yourself in the mirror.

Like literally. Aside from the one you have at home, pause for a moment when you see a mirror or any reflective surface out in public. Give yourself a confident and loving look, and compliment yourself. “Damn, I look good” or “Okay, we’re giving today” Such positive and affirming words can truly boost your self-esteem.

At the same time, you can be observant and point out what can be fixed. “My hair is messy,” or “I should work on my posture.” Those words make you more self-aware and improve your state right away. 

14 Be kind to others.

Rudeness and disrespect towards others are instant turn-offs towards those around you. While it’s really part of the bare minimum to act this way, it’s a fervent reminder that it extends to your sexiness and sex appeal too. Be kind to whoever opens the door for you in a mall, takes your order in the cafe, or asks how you’re doing.

15 Take charge in bed more often.

Back to sex, taking more initiative can elicit more butterflies in your belly. And towards your partner too, especially if they’re usually the giver. If you’re commonly a receiver, this is your time to show your partner what you’ve got. It’s also a way to get outside of your comfort zone and further explore your sexual side. While you may have some bumps along the way, the fact that you’re eager to take charge is so hot. That’s a strong way of learning how to be sexy!

16 Work on your talents and skills.

Notice how we get so attracted by celebrities? It’s not just their looks, but at how talented they are in their respective crafts. Seeing someone so skilled and passionate sparks a fire of sexiness, so whatever skill you have that you’re passionate about, it’s worth working and honing in for both the sexiness and satisfaction of being so accomplished and skilled.

17 Slow down more.

Slowing down means being more intentional and careful with what you’re doing or saying. Hence, this tip on how to be sexy is key when tapping into your sexy side. There’s no need to be quick and erratic in everything you do, whether you’re talking to someone, having sex with them, or any other task that needs your intention. 

Slowing down and taking your time shows that you respect yourself enough to be patient with the flow of your mind and body. We already live in such a fast-paced world, so being gentle and slow makes it more likely to get your life all together.

18 Dress and style yourself in a way that makes you feel confident.

Learning how to be sexy means learning how to be confident. If you know a pair of jeans and a cute, dressy top will make you look good, then put them on together. Even match it with cute accessories. Your clothes can speak louder before you open your mouth as you enter a room. Plus, putting on some makeup can further accentuate your features. No need to spend so much on it either, and there are many ways to do your makeup too!

This tip on how to be sexy is very exciting and involves a lot of trial and error, so have fun lots of fun with it!

Takeaway

There really is no exact route or path to follow when learning how to be sexy. We all have our different interests and life stories that make us stand out and impact our preferences and opinions. Hence, something that makes one feel and appeal as sexy may not resonate with another person.

Other than that, sexiness is truly subjective. You still call the shots on how you want to channel that, and we hope our suggestions were helpful and ready to be used and applied in real life!

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