Disclaimer: This article discusses how to make sex tape for couples who mutually agreed to create a homemade erotic video. In no way, shape, or form that we promote non-consensual or revenge porn. Please note that this activity is risky and that mutual trust and respect between parties should be established before the deed.
Interested in capturing your steamiest moments on camera? Curious about making a sex tape? Want to give a naughty keepsake to your boo? Whatever your purpose is, we’re here to help you make a consensual sex tape. Emphasis on “consensual” as we don’t condone people who record their sexual acts without their partner’s consent or knowledge.
What is a Sex Tape?
A sex tape is a video recording of a sexual act. This term is usually used when describing a non-consensual sex video of a celebrity, but for this guide, we are using this term to refer to consensual sexual videos, which means both parties have agreed to record the activity and have established rules regarding its storage.
Why Some People Make Sex Tapes
As we live in the digital world, having a sex video can be incredibly risky. A simple hack or accident can expose the video to millions of viewers. However, it doesn’t stop couples from making their own sex tape and sometimes even uploading it on the internet. What makes sex tape enticing? We’ve listed some of the common reasons below.
1They want to spice up their sexcapades.
When a sexual routine starts to get stale, couples turn to taboo sexual activities to spice things up, such as creating a sex tape. Some folks also fantasize about being a porn star, so they’ll get to fulfill that desire by doing a homemade sex tape.
2They want to explore their “exhibitionist” side.
Exhibitionism is a kink where a person derives pleasure from exposing their naked bodies or sexual acts to other people. There’s a lot more to unpack regarding this kink, which we’ve discussed in another article— check it out for the full details.
Couples who are exhibitionists will highly benefit from making sex tapes. They’ll be able to satisfy their need to be exposed while also keeping themselves in the privacy of their rooms. Let’s face it, public sex is extremely risky. You may be arrested for public indecency; worse, someone might record you doing the deed and upload it on social media.
3They want to be more confident in the bedroom.
Pornographic videos made us believe there’s a certain standard on what a person should like during sex— your penis size must be like this, your nipples should be like that… the list goes on and on. Because of that, some people feel conscious of their bodies.
Aside from seeking help from a counselor or sex therapist, you can record yourself having sex to celebrate your body. You can watch it for a bit and discover how hot you can be. Take note that not everyone may feel empowered watching their own sex tape. Assess yourself first; creating a sex video may bring more harm than good if you’re uncomfortable being in front of a camera or seeing your body on a video.
4Couples moving far away will be using the video to sexually connect.
Some couples make a sex tape not because they want to but because they need to. One example is couples who’ll temporarily move away from each other.
Being together almost everyday to not having each other’s presence for a few years can be incredibly difficult for both parties. And even though you can have sexual plays over a video call, it can never emulate the passion and intensity of actual sex— which is why some couples opt to make a sex tape. Not only it serves as self-pleasure material, but it also serves as private memorabilia of the relationship.
5Some autosexuals enjoy watching themselves having sex.
Before you get worried there, an autosexual doesn’t pertain to a person who loves automobiles. It’s a term used for a person sexually attracted to themselves. They feel more aroused seeing their naked bodies or their own sexual reaction than their partner’s.
Autosexuals may enjoy recording their sexcapades since they’ll see their bodies and sexual reaction in full glory. It’s the perfect way to fulfill the need to see themselves get sexual without making their partner feel weird, as some people may not be comfortable having sex in front of a mirror.
Tips When Making a Sex Tape
Are you planning to make your sex tape but unsure where to start? We’ll help you out! We’ve listed some basic tips when making homemade sex vid.
1Before anything else, get each other’s consent.
Like other sexual acts, it’s important to get your partner’s consent first. We get that you’re excited to make your sex tape, but rushing the discussion may result in misunderstandings. Don’t ask them during sex or any act where your partner is incredibly aroused. They may end up agreeing to something they’re unsure of. It’s better to ask them in a non-sexual setting, like a post-dinner chill on the couch.
Never ever try to coerce your partner into saying yes. If they say they’re not sure they want it or have declined your request, avoid lines like “Come on, why are you being a killjoy!” or “If you love me, you’ll be open to trying this out.” It’s manipulative and will only create a dent in the relationship.
It’s also a big no-no to surprise them with a camera during sex or record the video without their knowledge. Seriously, it’s such a dick move. Always ask, never assume.
2Establish ground rules.
Once you’ve both agreed to make a sex tape, you can communicate each other’s expectations and boundaries on the deed.
Do you want to show your face on camera? Are you going to put on a disguise such as a mask? Are costumes involved? How long would the sex be? What sexual acts would be included in the video? Are you going to book a hotel room for it? Would you delete the video or keep it? What would happen in the video if the relationship ended?
We get that the questions above are a mouthful, but it’s better to be clear on all aspects rather than having a vague discussion.
3Prepare the space.
After the communication, it’s time for the much-needed preparation! First, discuss whether you’ll use the bedroom or not. We recommend booking a hotel room, particularly a themed room that already has some unique lighting and props in it. You won’t need to prepare as much, and you’ll also lessen the risk of someone finding out you made a sex tape.
This is ideal for couples who want to anonymously upload their tape online; you may have disguised your face, but a friend or relative may still find out by recognizing your bedroom. You can make minor decor changes in the room if you prefer making the tape at home.
Check also the lighting of the space. If you’re opting for natural light, you’ll need a room with enough sunlight access or move the bed close to the window. As for peeps who want unique lighting to their video, opt for indoor light and get some fairy or sunset lights to spice it up.
Take also into consideration if the space will be distracting or not. If you’re living with other people and have a lot of shenanigans, it’ll be harder to make a sex tape there. It’ll be noisy, and your housemates may get nosy. Make sure that the space is distraction-free by the time you’re recording it, or as mentioned earlier, book a hotel or motel room.
4Prep the essentials.
Aside from preparing the space, you’ve got to prep the essentials too. This ensures a smoother shooting time, as you won’t be walking around looking for a bottle of lube or going for a last-minute grocery run because you’ve run out of condoms. Below are some of the things you should have within reach during the sensual shoot:
- Tissues and wet wipes
- Sex toys (optional)
- Battery for the camera (if the person is using a battery-operated digital camera)
5Create a plan for the deed.
You don’t need to do a full script. This is a homemade sex tape, not a movie. However, you and your partner should know what will happen during the deed than wondering what to do next. You’ll end up with a lot of unusable footage of you and your partner just talking about what to do next. You’ll spend a lot of unnecessary time and may even ruin the mood.
Set an outline. Arrange the sexual acts that you’ll be doing. Once you’re done with the outline, memorize it and let it naturally flow in your mind during the deed; no need to be checking the paper during the shoot.
6Practice some of the scenes and check the angles, lighting, etc.
This tip isn’t necessarily a must-have but is ideal for couples with limited time to record the video and who want to ensure a fuss-free shoot. All you need to do is set up the camera and lighting, then record you making out or cuddling in the bed. After that, check if the angle or lighting is good. You can then make adjustments based on the initial footage.
7Put a disguise on, especially if you keep the video or upload it online.
It’s up to you if you and your partner want to show your faces on the video, but it’s better to keep it off for good measure. If your device has been hacked and a person got a hold of the video, you won’t be fully exposed. You can use a mask to partly cover your face, adjust the camera for an angle that doesn’t show it, or adjust the lighting so that the camera can only capture each other’s silhouette.
8Set the mood before hitting the “record” button.
It’s up to you when the recording starts, but it’s better to do it when you’re both fully aroused. That means you’ll be less conscious about the camera as you’re immersed in the deed. Pre-shoot acts may include making out, cuddling, dirty talk, sensual massages, etc.
9Take your time, but be aware of your camera’s storage limit or battery life.
Set a decent pace throughout the deed. Rushing through the sex could lead to an unsatisfactory experience unless you opt for a quickie. Meanwhile, a slow session can jeopardize the whole thing, as you may run out of battery or storage right on the hottest moments in the end.
10Stick to comfortable sex positions.
We get that you want to capture impressive moves on camera, but pleasure and comfort should still be the center of the deed. Don’t try new sex positions just because you think it would look good on the video. You’re just setting yourself and your partner up for some awkward (and injury-causing) moments.
Opt for the tried-and-tested positions, then slightly change them for the cam. For example, go with a missionary, but the receiver’s legs are up in the air and resting on the giver’s shoulders. You can check our suggested article below for more comfortable positions.
11Recreate a movie love scene or erotic video.
Here’s a fun idea to try when you make that sex tape… Recreate some of the hottest love scenes shown in a film or series! Just make sure to try a scene that’s doable for both parties. You also don’t have to copy the scene play-by-play. You’re not auditioning for a role, so it’s okay not to exactly use the lines or portray the character in the film/series. Check out this best movie sex scenes guide from cosmo!
12Don’t forget to have fun!
You may have planned everything out, but minor mishaps can still happen. If it occurs to you, the best response is to chuckle it off. Remember, you are making a sex tape because you want to have fun. It’s your job. Keep yourself focused, but don’t be too serious about the shoot.
13Keep a single local copy in a protected folder if you’re storing the video.
So you’re done with the shoot… What’s next? As much as we want you to delete that vid to avoid leaks, you may not want to do that. You and your boo have worked hard to make that sex tape, so it’s alright to watch it more than once.
However, keeping a homemade tape is hella risky! If your device gets stolen or if somebody hacked into it, then there’s a chance for someone to leak the vid. And even though we’re becoming more sex-positive, having a leaked sex tape can still affect your career and image.
That said, make sure to store the video in a secure place, like a password-backed storage app or folder. We recommend keeping the original video on a USB flash drive instead of on your device. In that way, no one would be able to grab the video if it’s already deleted on your pc or phone.
14Never share the sex tape with anyone.
This seems common sense, but with the surge of “hokage” and revenge porn accounts popping up, wherein people leak sex tapes of their exes and current partners, it’s best to include this tip.
Do not share your sex tapes with anyone other than your partner! Even if the breakup is messy, they cheated on you, or did anything awful, it can never justify the act of leaking a sex video without the other party’s consent.
Not only that, but you may end up in jail for doing it. You can be arrested for breaking the Republic Act No. 9995: the Anti-Photo and Video Voyeurism Act of 2009. This law states that sharing sexual content without the subject’s consent is prohibited. You may face three to seven (3-7) years of imprisonment if proven guilty.
15Delete the video as soon as possible.
The best way to avoid leaks is to delete the tape once you’re done with the deed. You can watch it together once or twice, then delete it. As much as you want to keep these steamy videos, it’ll bring so much stress, especially if your device got stolen or your partner ended the relationship on messy terms.
And there you have it, we’ve laid down the basics on how to make a sex tape. Don’t also forget to follow safe sex practices, such as using contraceptives. We hope this guide has helped you capture the hottest sex video ever. Good luck!